Love is not fair

It seems that you're having a not good sense or meaning of love because based on what you've said, you've been into a relationship that is towards a great endowment of love but received by a senseless lover. If you love someone more than yourself, then that's not real love but perhaps obsession. Love is to love someone and give someone love as you love and give love to yourself. The only direction of a love that is more than the love we can give to our self is not to anybody else but towards God. You don't love to lose yourself but you love to complete yourself and to complete your love ones. It's not about how much love you take but it's all about how much love you can give, and in this part, perhaps, your loved one failed that's why you're stating that love is unfair. You love to have a better principle in life and to tolerate changes that would make life better if not best. You give real love and so you have the right to expect real love too. You sow reel love, you gain reel love too. You love not to be ignored and not be blessed with just a consolation in the form of condonation. If you believe that you shared a good real love, expect that good real love will also be given back. But if good real love doesn't come, perhaps be patient. If after your patience good real love still doesn't come, don't question love for it is the reason why we're all here and have a great reason for tomorrow, question your loved one. Just close your eyes and speak to yourself that you are still blessed because you find way to share love despite not being loved back. And then open your eyes and learn that there are more people out there waiting for that kind of real good love who ready to receive and ready to give back real good love. A love relationship is a two-way channel, if not, it's not real love.

sadly when i was reading what you wrote i was thinking about my situation. the guy i liked. i feel that i did much for him but he couldnt see it. is like people sometimes change without a reason right? i feel that he changed and i didnt do anything wrong. its like you say love isnt fair. its like one day they love us back and next day just love someone else. love is hard to keep and hard to find. sometimes we just find people we think that love us and when we least expect they disappoint us.

From what you're saying, I can anticipate that it isn't love that you are talking about. It is more of an obsession or even an addiction.. When only one person gives, and the other person continuously receives, this isn't love. It's not how it is. I know, love is fair, it always is. :)

I don't believe that type of love is real love. It sounds like an addiction to me.

love is fair and unfair depending on the circumstances you are facing. some see love as an opportunity to change and a beginning of new and happy life. while some fail miserably because they become so excited at the beginning of their love interest wean during longer or shorter time. the reason the other become interested to other person and becomes boring to their partner. so they seek happiness somewhere else.

love really isn't fair. love really screws everything up. it's up to the people involved to make it work. i have loved someone so much and he just took advantage of me. that hurts a lot. but remember that when you love someone, you shouldn't ask anything in return. it is up to that person if he/she values you that much to give something back. if you're in a relationship and this is your issue, then that person isn't worth what you're giving him

love gives, understands and forgives. it is patient. i do not think that love is not fair. when one is hurt because one loves, it does not mean that love is not fair. it means that one has to love more and more until it does not hurt anymore. i wish you the best in love. keep loving.. it is a good thing..

I think we should first differentiate love from falling in love. According to a Philosopher named Scott Peck, these two things are entirely different and most people often get confused with it. According to his definition, love is an action,an activity; it is a will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. On the other hand, falling in love is just an emotion and it's fleeting and temporary. Love is volitional while falling in love is emotional. Now, I think sometimes if one falls in love, he forgets about himself and he becomes unreasonable. And soon he finds love as unfair. But love is different, it maybe unconditional and sacrificial but it can never tolerate what's wrong. If one loves a person who committed mistakes, he should not tolerate him but rather admonish him. Well, love is such a very broad topic and discussing it could be tiresome. Just want to share this, if you're a Christian, read the Bible taken from 1 Corinthians 13-for me, it's a perfect definition of Love. But if you prefer the Philosophical explanation, then try to read the book of Scott Peck entitled "The Road Less Travelled". Good luck and enjoy reading!

I still believe that love is fair even though I'm experiencing unfairness in love right now. Yes, that's so ironic. Maybe I'm in love with a guy right now who is not totally in love with me but I still do believe that love is fair. I know that in time I would be able to meet my true love (it may be him or not) but I know that this is just a challenge to make me stronger. In time, I would eventually find my one true love who will love me as much as I love him.

Love is not fair. But it is how you handle love. If you think that love is not fair well your just being stupid. You should learn to listen not just your heart but also your head.

Nothing in the world is fair. People should learn to face it. But, we should always look for a good partner. Not a random one, or your situation will really happen. Sometimes, when you bug someone too much, the other person will get sick and tired of you. Learn to give some space to the person. And yes, there is such thing as loving unconditionally. I believe there are many great couples in the world. Whether or not a couple ends up like that, depends on their effort.