Do you torment yourself over bad decisions you make?
By Carl Halling
@CarlHalling (3617)
United Kingdom
June 2, 2011 10:58pm CST
I mean, we all make them don't we, and with the best intentions, only to shoot ourselves in the foot, or wall ourselves into a personal nightmare. What do you do when you make a decision that backfires on you badly...just view it as a setback in life and try and forgive yourself and make the best of a bad situation? Or endlessly torment yourself about it and ask why why why why why?
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5 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I have done both. Back in the day I would just dwell on Ever mistake , large or small. I mean I took each as signs of how bad I was. And if It was large enough I would think , It is time to go, meaning It will soon be time to end things. But Eventually I saw that my mistakes were just that mistakes. And the large ones happen when I was pushed into doing something I didn't truly want to do in the first place! Two main things help me change. One happened Way back in 1983 when my mom told me if I didn't want to go out on an outing I could say no. And when you told me I wasn't evil. Sounds so simple but it wasn't. Until my mom said this to me I thought I Had to go and do whatever the family told me to. She gave me my No! And you Love, gave me self worth. You showed me that mistakes are Just mistakes. Now I may go right when I shuld have gone left but I do find a way to enjoy the ride.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
2 Jul 11
My mother says the same even to this day: she says, look, if you really don't want to go (wherever it is), then don't go. It's very reassuring...:o)
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
5 Jun 11
I strongly believe in the "What can't be cured has to be endured" and this when I have taken a wrong decision and got stuck in a hole not knowing how to get out. It is better to go through it all with a smile rather than lament over it every moment of the day!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I just try to learn fro it. It bothers me for a while when I make bad mistakes though. I have very hard time forgetting them too.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Jun 11
Hard isn't it to live with the consequences of a bad decision especially if it involved hurting someone. You have ti forgive yourself and then make anther decision to try and make the first decision better if possible. It may not be possible and so eventually you will move on perhaps just looking back occasionally with regret. |The worse thing to do is to forever beat yourself up on the decision you made. \blessings
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
2 Jul 11
Yes, it is hard, cynthiann, last thing at night it sometimes gets me. But come the morning, things are usually better: the beauty of sleep...:o)
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Never, actually see I do take all considerations to hand first before making any decisions. I usually use my own gut instincts as to what is right and or wrong for me so when I make a decision,even if it is wrong I feel I weighed out all the pros and cons. So I usually re-evaluate something that went wrong and try to make sense out of why and if I had missed something so I can learn for the future, especially if it is another similar type of decision.
