just love me for who i am

hi bhabycatch i never been in a situation that my boyfriend try to change of me , same as his no change when we bought engaged to our relationship,what i can say is changing lifestyle of other people is not good because when you enter to his/her life he/she is already like that, then here you come changing his / her life style, We need to love them the way they are, we need also to accept them, If there is a wrong in his/her attitude that's the time you can ask if he /she can change that attitude which is wrong.

you know thats alot of work to get someone and change them around the way you like them. love solves all that.

hi bhabycatch o13 thnats what I am always saying, real love is unconditional love that loves one just the way they are, no changes wanted. My husband when he was courting me was u pset with me for dying my hair blonde and for trying to be outgoing, which I really flubbed up on. He sat me down when I burst into tears because he did not like my blonde hair.'honey do not change yourself for me, I loved your pale caramel colored hair and your charming shyness,just be yourself' the girl I am marrying".oh that was so charming and I just let out a sigh of relief. I said " I can do that Garland oh yes indeed I am so relieved that I can just be myself" He laughed and kissed me.Our marriage lasted 33 years and only ended when he had a last sudden heart attack.

Sweetie, i love the one as he is. I don't change people as i want them. That is not love. Just a shame he didn't see it that way though.

When somebody said that she loves you, it means that he loves everything in you. Though, sometimes there may be suggestions but it doesn't mean it is to change you. Maybe he just wants you not to dress in revealing outfit because he just wants them for his eyes. But it is still your call whether to go for the suggestions or not.

In love, you will see and accept the best and the worst in a person. But sometimes, you need to help them change their worst/bad deeds or manners or habits to transform them into better person. That does not mean you are changing them and changing their personality. What is not good is to chnage them into person who they are not like telling them to be like this person which is not good because they have their own personalit, You just have to enhance them one way or another.

Hi. bhabycatch013. You are right about this. When I love someone I don't try to change them. But just think about this of what I am about to say. If a person that you love do things that are harmful or bad, you would want them to change for the better. So, that they can get themselves together and to have a more positive attitude about them. This is the only way that I will want a person to change. Otherwise, I am accepting of all that I love.

Hi bhaby. I also believe that it ain't love if you want to change something with him/her. But to tell you, time will come in a relationship that you will look something new with the relationship. Time will tell.

Yes, I was in this situation before. An ex boyfriend always criticize the way I look. He always tells me how to act infront of people and how to do things. With his arrogance, I broke up with him. Now, I am married to a man who accepts my strenghts and weaknesses. He always support me on all my endeavour. This is the reason that I am more confident in life challenges.

bhaby, Thanks..no one asks me to changed the way i am. Or...better he changed me as his lover/partner and find someone who fits his standards....but never asks me to change the way i am. (ugh!) I am who i am,and i like the way i am..and who i am.

No man or woman should try to change their partner if it is not for some kind of dier good. if they need to change for some serious reason for instance if you are with someone who doesnt practise good hygeine then that's ok to change them it will help them and you in the long run.

That is right. I believe that people should love others for who they are. it is not fair to change a person into who you want them to be. I know i do not want to be with someone who constanly want me to change to strange things that are not in my nature or what i am not used to.