Never make assumptions!!!!

Philippines
June 3, 2011 4:41am CST
I went to the City hall today to get my Cedula (some kind of requirement for the Police clearance), so when I was all done I boarded the jeepney, and there were 5 of us who boarded the jeepney at that stop, an old lady, and 4 guys...now there was 3 people who were already inside the jeepney, and two were sitting opposite me and one beside me... So, the old lady was next to the two people, one was an attractive girl and the other an old man, the girl was resting her head on the man's shoulder and the man was holding the girl protectively...so it seemed they were lovers, right? WRONG!!!!, they lady who was beside me was the girls mother...it was really funny because the mother was sleeping and when they got off the man said "Hon, wake up, let's go..." and the funniest part was all of us thought the same!!! the guys said "oooh, I thought that man was so lucky..." and something else I can't translate to English...but the old lady was the really funny one, because she kept glaring at them and I saw it and she was kind of signaling me also with her eyes, and I just smiled...so when they got off she told me "oooh, but you thought the same right?" and she was really beet red!!! I didn't say anything to her and just smiled, for what should I say? I was thinking all the time that it was okay, if they love each other so what? I don't know if that opinion would set well with her... Have you ever been in a situation where you thought and presumed then you were proven wrong? Would you think the same thing we obviously did if you were there?
5 responses
celticeagle
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Jun 11
I would assume this same thing if I saw him holding her the way you describe. I would wonder why the mother didn't do something if this wasn't the case. Maybe to save face or she was afraid or even intimidated. And with all the things I have heard of selling of young girls it would really make me wonder.
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Oh, the mother was beside me and she was sleeping, I think they traveled far and it was around 1p.m so most people get drowsy that times especially with the heavy traffic, there was nothing salacious with the man, he wasn't touching the girl, though before we realized she was just here daughter his being protective just seemed lover-like...and when they disembarked near the church, the man put his hands over both his wife and daughter's shoulders... though, I'd admit that it seemed unnatural for me only since my father isn't affectionate but I think for that girl it was just normal...
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
yeah, I think the girl is just very close to the father so it was very normal for her...though it wasn't for us...
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sophiecheer
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
It is unnatural indeed. If I was the daughter I'd rather not allow him to do that in publlic especially if people are giving me that kind of "look", if you understand what I mean. Though realistically, it is the "observers" who had done wrong by their judging looks.
jeanneyvonne
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
I probably think the same thing involuntarily but I don't think I will be ashamed of thinking that particular assumption. I don't mean to pry into others business but curiosity sometimes gets the better of us. We are are naturally inclined to be observant and sometimes, we aren't better in concealing of what's in our mind. I guess it's not wrong to presume and create assumptions as long as it does not hurt anyone. Though assumptions are not exactly correct thoughts, there is no knowing until the assumption is true or false. We create assumption so that we can prepare ourselves to what can happen in the future.
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
I wasn't ashamed of what I thought, because I didn't judge them, as you pointed out...but the old lady was really obviously judging...thus the red colored face...
LetranKnight25
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Hello marapples, I think it's usual for normal people to have MALICIOUS thinking because of the world we live in today. there are some people whom we thought as couples who are actually brothers and sisters. i think people have become too green minded not to realize that they are families out there that are close to each other. probably the girl was a papa's girl and they are close. the old lady probbaly thrilled to have new rumors to spread on her wake
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
yeah, well when he called out to his wife he assisted her on getting down and he was also putting his arms around her, so I think that man was simply very affectionate towards his wife and daughter, and the wife I think just wanted to be sitting closest to the exitlike most of us do when boarding a jeepney!!!right???
sophiecheer
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Yes, I had. But nowadays I just usually keep out of other people's businesses. That way, I will not end up branded as being "judgemental". Sometimes though, my curiosity gets the better of me and I end up eavesdropping. Perhaps just got bored and eavesdropping is my way of entertaining myself. Heck, no harm done there..Im just seeing things. Its not like Im gonna share..Besides, I dont know these people right? Have a good day!
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Same here, I call it people watching....
itsack
@itsack (83)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
I think there's nothing wrong to presume because its part of being "human" in order to weigh or balance what we observe. In this case, our "culture" comes into light and made us conclude on what we presume. Although there is a growing number of Filipinos nowadays who think that "age gap" is already an acceptable factor in love relationships, most Filipinos still believe, as our culture has dictated and perhaps continually dictates, that in a relationship, male should be older than the female. As you were asking, if i were in your place when that circumstance happened, I will also presume the same and perhaps smile at myself once confronted with the truth. Anyway, on the other hand, there's nothing wrong with a relationship that is transcending the boundaries of age (as long as it is "real" love...haha.) This only depicts that our societal values, beliefs, characteristics as Filipinos are still imbued to ourselves during this information age.
MarappleStiffy
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
I think your right Many of us still think that age difference matters a lot...like that old lady... Same here though, I really don't care if they were actually a couple...