being a parent

I completely agree with you! I have a good friend who recently had a child and from the moment that baby got home from the hospital, she has let other people do all the work for her. The baby's grandparents take him home and keep him at night so my friend can sleep all night. Her whole family is just falling all over themselves doing all the hard work of taking care of her newborn for her. I am not talking about a young mother either...my friend is 34 years old. It really has upset me because I have three children who I love dearly and I feel that those first few weeks/months of sleepless nights and fumbling your way through the adjustment into parenthood are sort of a "rite of passage" that all mothers share. I had expected that her becoming a mother would bring us closer as friends. Unfortunately, her lack of taking responsibility for her baby has put me off so much that I had to stop talking to her.

I think if we are satisfied with what we do, and if in turn, arrived children mature, they are happy with that done, and what they accomplished, why are, and what will be, then, can we dare to believe believe, as I was and we are good parents. and, know that good parents means to support children in everything they do, to support them when choosing concluded that something was not just good ... or when they need a kind word of encouragement to be near them ... us to know to be, first of all, the best friends of the children and then parents.

Yes anyone can produce offspring but it does as you say take a real parent to raise them properly. It makes me sad that there are so many unfit parents out there that produce so many children while there are ones that can't conceive and make the best parents...

Any one can be a real parent as long as he knows how to be one. You don't have to do all the chores like feeding, bathing to your baby to be called real parent. What is important is your love and bonds with your kid. You can designate task of taking care of your child but the love for him is something that you can only give. This is the magical of being a parent. The transcending love that pours put from a parent's heart can not be compensated by giving baths, feedings and dressing up the baby. You single touch is enough to make the baby feel your love and your sweet and approving smiles is enough to have your baby loves you back.

To fully and I agree with you.One parent is demonstrated over time because everyone can give birth but not everyone can raise and educate a child.Nurturing and caring for a child are very important. There are many mothers who give their children everything they feel good and have it all.But there are those which just do not care for their children and then give birth to them what these kids have a calm and cozy family home no food and water.Therefore, one parent must be able to take care of this child is then a real parent.Have a nice day!

I have a beautiful 3 year old step daughter who i love as if she is my own, my husband is not technically her father but both her biological parents are about worthless, her mother is a teenager trapped in an adults body and her sperm donor doesn't care, my husband has been their since her mother was 4 months pregnant and has raised her as if she is his. we have recently had her last name changed to match ours and legally she is ours now. Some kids are lucky enough to have someone that cares enough about them to take this responsibility that so many take for granted.