Who impact you the more - Inspirers or the Insulters?

I wish it was the inspirers but from experience, its the insulters. What they said stuck in my mind and make me an even better person because I needed to prove them wrong. The inspirers gave me a boost when I needed it but then its all forgotten (unfortunately). Wish it had been the other way around when I was younger. Now as Im older and wiser (HA!) Ive noticed that its the other way around. I dont care what the insulters say anymore because I know who I am and dont need to prove myself anymore. So the inspirers are first on my list now and I feel much better about myself and life now. Great discussion!

Hi besthope I have to say the inspirers as that gives me such a happy feeling that they believe in me and apply so much wisdom to allow me to leap further. The insulters actually make me put myself down and dwell on what is wrong with me for the wrong reasons, so after so many years of feeling that way I have decided to finally not pay any mind. I will listen out of courtesy but am my own person to determine that anyone who cares for me surely would not be insulting me.

From personal experience I have found that many of the people who pretend to be inspirers have actually turned out to be covert insulters trying to manipulate me into doing something stupid for their own benefit or gratitude whilst posing as inspiration. Be careful who you trust!

Inspiration can do lot more to me and gives me strength to do things. It keeps me moving on every time i think of them. We are all given the capacity to learn in every way we can and think the best that we can do things. For me those people that always insult are not happy in their life because they are so insecure as i know. Why they will do that if they are happy and successful of course they are all busy and almost don't have time for themselves. For me they are all those people that always nothing to do but to gossip and think of others fault and they are not happy for others. So they are not the best person to be my inspirations. Friends this is my opinion only and according to what i feel. Anyway be thankful to the blessings we have that the Lord has gave us. All the graces we received from Him. Lets be positive in life so we can think well and all the success in life will always be open to us.

For me people who inspired -- yes it was my colleagues in Bank who performed well and I learnt from them ability to take soft skills session. I recollect Mr. Swaminathan who was a faculty with us, he is no more(he passed away about ten/12 years back)now. I use to observe his classes and learnt a lot from him. His behavior use to be in contract other good performers --who tom tom their achievements--whereas he will not do that way. Apart from this gentleman -- Mr. K.S.Ranganathan, a senior officer from RBI who came on deputation to our Bank as Principal -- he set an example to others by his simplicity, ability to get work done and entrusting work to others. Initially when I read the discussion I thought I may not be able to write anything but after few minutes I am getting a lot of ideas. thanks. have a good day

I have also experience negative people in my life. I believe that both the negative and positive people have inspired me. The negative things that people say to me just makes me want to do better and prove to them that they have no room to judge anyone.

Personally, the inspirers. They believe in me and it gives me something to live up to. I tend to listen to and believe the insulters.

The insulters have a greater impact on me. It really brings me down alot. I hardly ever get inspired by people so if I ever do, I take it lightly.

Inspirers....they make me feel like more....those who insult..are just plain mean! They don't give me any impact...just hurt the feelings!

Who the heck would be inspired for people who wants to feed you with negative energy that degrades you for life? insulters are nothing more than giving psychological harm to the person that they hate. insult is no where inspiring unless that user wants to prove something to those who insult him or her. but in my view,being insulted is never a good thing to be inspired of.

i admire people who give me pat on the back and inspire me. i get inspire by them and easily motivated with good intention. I think more positive though an insulter may either motivate me to work hard or fail me. i mean if insulted i get motivate to work hard as form of revenge and show to the person that i am determine to accept his challenges. sometimes i feel down, the insult serve as demotivational to me for a short while. but it still serve as my way to think to make myself change.

I love inspirers. they always make me feel like i am capable of doing something extraordinary. But when it comes to insulters they make me feel terrible, like i won't be able to do something. I know a person who is constantly doing this to me and everyone else. It gets them nowhere and no friends.

Hii Besthope44, An inspirer actually do nothing for u its just someone whom u appreciate and wanted to be like one or to follow him.. So in other words An inspirer is no wer in the picture.. whereas an insulter is the person who comes directly in ur contact and its his act of insulting which motivate u to do it better next time in such a wonderful way that.. The person who has insulted u will appreciate ur work in front of every one else.. The only thing to remember is that u hav to answer back with the quality of ur work and not by words and aggression.. its the best way to hit back and hit hard..:) Wishing success for u in lyf ahead.. God Bless u..:)

inspirers i have to say.but actually,maybe this is because i have seldom been insulted or i just have forgot about it. there've always been tons of encouragements around me forever.whatever i do,my parents,friends,teachers,all people will approve of that and always be around my side to tell me that i'll make it.they encouraged me to stick to learning the violin when i was young;they inspired me to work hard for my entrance examination for highschool(and i did quite well with their encouragements);and they told me to bravely apply for the college i've always longed for and just fight for it(actually i was not that confident to be admited that time).but then again,i made it,with their inspirations around me.so i'm so grateful for all they have said and done.i'll never make it without these inspirers. as for insulters,i think this kind of people is also a must in our way to grow up.they can motivate us in the way that inspirers can't.insults can be powerful sometimes.

both inspire me as each have value.