Mixed Emotions on the Fat Acceptance Movement
@Masihi (4413)
Canada
June 3, 2011 1:05pm CST
Okay, so most of us hate fat jokes, that's fine, I do too. In western society us BBWs were made fun of throughout the years, and are portrayed as lazy, gluttonous, slobs who don't bother taking care of themselves...until nowadays with the fat acceptance movement and its nastier sister movement, the fat admirers/chubby chasers/fat fetishists movment.
I for one would love to be thinner than what I am now, but have a little bit of fat just to fall back on in case I get sick, and I personally am being proactive about my weight issue (mainly due to my family history of heart disease, diabetes, and obesity). On the other hand, us big, huggable-and-loveable guys (and gals? hehe) shouldn't have to be subjected to criticism and the butt of mean jokes. There really should be a line drawn between saying that being fat is good and perfectly okay (which is what the fat acceptance movement teaches, when really there's health ramifications that go along with being overweight) and making derogatory comments. I think we should be left alone, and if we want to lose weight, be able to seek support shamelessly.
Anyway, that's my opinion. I personally admire people bigger than myself because some actually dress really nice and are very confident in their body language and speech, and I appreciate that. That means they don't let what people say bother them, and I applaud them.
Here's a humourous song that I get a kick out of, I always get a good chuckle anyway :-) Found it on Youtube --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c7RLDORS9JY Enjoy! :-D
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I feel everyone and anyone needs to be accepting of who and what they are. Confidence is certainly the key. If someone is unhappy then they can try to make changes, but one has to accept, it is what it is and I have to work with what it actually is. Therefore, big and beautiful is certainly a very confident person. Why look and feel gloomy when there is a world out there in which one has to live in. Not everyone has to like what they see, as long as the person is happy with themselves, I certainly have no issue with them at all.
Certainly if there are health issues one should make changes, but the changes should only be made because the person knows it is the right thing to do and or wants to do. No one should be made to loose and or gain weight because others want them too. 
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
3 Jun 11
The things we do for our health need to actually be healthy. The time I lost the thirty five pounds I was taking an over the counter diet pill. The doctor basically told me if I was going to do that he was going to give me a prescription diet and diet pill. I was on an 850 calorie per day diet. I know that my metabolism has never been the same since and my weight has crept up over the years to even more than what I weighed in my pregnancies.Looking back, I became obsessed with losing, and I believe if something had not intervened I would have become anorexic. That was not healthy weight loss. I actually weigh 100 pounds more than that now.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Jun 11
Hi GG,
So right because one thing one does have to remember is that weight is not actually gained overnight therefore, trying to loose it overnight or way too fast is not healthy and can lead to health issues.
I read where you joined a gym and sound so determined, I was very happy to read that because YOU decided that it is the best route healthy wise and not because anyone was "saying" you had to.
When someone can't afford a gym, that is okay, one does not have to be a twig, one just has to be healthy and accepting to themselves.
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@josephngsiewfatt (204)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 12
Dear Masihi
That a good sharing in your message. But my take is based on the saying that 'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!" Anyway, you have 'more' to love if you are big. In essence, it's important to be healthy and strong.Ultimately in any friendship or marriage couples, it is the companionship that is important. As we grow old, physical attractions does not matter much. What is important is healthy relationship with one another. I do hope that my take is acceptable to you. OK? Thanks. Bro. Joe
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hmm...looks like this discussion started 8 months ago, but still revelent today. I'm not so sure if we should accept the obesity simply because of the health risks. Do you really think that loving an unhealthy situation is actually okay? What about increase risks like cancer, type 2 diabetes, heart complications, and even your organs shutting down? Those are very serious health issues.
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
4 Jun 11
FIrst off I am 6'2" and probably around 500ish pounds. Now with that being said here goes. If a fat joke is funny then it's funny and I will laugh. If it's not then I wouldn't laugh. As for the "acceptence" maybe there should be any. If people just accept it then it could happen more. As for getting help, the people have to want to get help, if they just accept it then they will never change and maybe even get worse. For me I kind of fall into that catagory. I have no reason to want to loose the weight for now so why bother. If something changes later on then maybe I will change.
I've thought about geting the lapband, a weight losse product they put in you and helps you loose wieght. My problem with getting that is I did this myself shouldn't I be able to loose it myself? I'm planning a trip to Las Vegas and I'll more then likely need to buy two tickets and I accept that. Just as long as the seats are together. I heard a story when they first started doing the buying two seats things that a person's seats were in differnt places. That's just stupid.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Jun 11
Yes, I think the younger generation is starting to accept all sizes but people in my husband's and his parents generations aren't so accepting (Hubby's old enough to be my father) so it makes it harder for me to accept my size and be patient with my weight loss.
@amango83 (50)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I think that it is good to be comfortable in your own skin and have high self esteem, however there is a point where being big can be unhealthy.
On a side note, I saw a show on TV about a couple that is a normal sized man and an extremely obese woman. He is turned on by her fat and they both are trying to get her to weigh 1000 lbs.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
5 Jun 11
Yes, I know about that couple, I forget their names but they're all over the media, youtube, and the Internet, I seen on youtube on a TLC clip about sexualised EATING!!! Well, for me, personally, that's taking things a mite too far, but I think she's trying to be the heaviest mother on guiness book of world records.
@josephngsiewfatt (204)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 12
Dear Masihi
I tend to agree with your statement that 'big is beautiful' But there is a catch in this statement. Until and unless you are healthy and kicking, then this statement is 'gospel' truth. But remember that carrying extra baggage in your body may be a burden. A light of hope is shone in the cultures of some African countries whereby a bride need to be fatten up to be ready for the marriage alter. That's my take so far. Look forward to more discussion from you. Thanks a million! Love: Bro. Joe. GBU
