when you lose your self - confidence

I used to have a period of time that I lose all f my confident. I couldn't see any good of myself, of any purpose for life. I hate to be in that situation, I tried to get out of it and I was success. I see that when I stop compare myself with others, when I see how special I am, that is the time I have confident again.

I was a rather fat and pimply teenager and I think that was the worst time for my self-confidence. I was so down on myself...made the whole thing worse by thinking that was all I was and people saw me the way I saw myself. I'm not sure about younger kids being able to help out, sometimes I found them too honest. Anyway, I transferred to a different school, put up a more confident front and people(kids still) who didn't know me yet responded to my facade positively that eventually I really felt more courageous and overall better about who I was. The friends I made that time dug me out of my rut and when we talked about that time, they all saw me as an incredibly pretty, chubby girl who had the knack for gabbing about anything and who sang Broadway songs...I was so touched because truly, good people look deeper than what meets the eye.

I'm not sure about befriending other kids, but my kids really make me happy, enough that I don't need that much self-confidence anymore. When I give birth to my children, I gained a lot of weight. The extra pounds made me insecure and I lost a lot of self confidence. Even my first child would tell me that I was fat. Then I would tell her, "I know. Is it that bad?" Then she would answer, "Not really, you still are pretty mommy", and that's all I need.

I don't think it's help because it still depend on each other mood.