Last Will And Testament
By grammasheshe
@grammasheshe (80)
United States
June 4, 2011 9:54am CST
Last week at our family Memorial Day picnic my brother asked my mother if she had been to her lawyer to update her will because he doesn't want to have to fight my sister and myself in court when her time comes.
This made us very upset for that was one cold statement to make.
After my father passed away my brother just went and took anything of my Dad's that he wanted. Being as my Mom was still alive we couldn't stop his actions even though my Dad had sat us all down one day and specifically told us what items he wanted each of us to have....It was not in writing.
My sister is the executer of My Mom's will. My Mom doesn't want to itemize her belongings she just says everything should be divided 3 ways. I hate to even think about the day she passes because Nothing in this world will ever replace her. I just know it is going to be a feud.
Touchy subject for our whole family. Any suggestions on how to deal with my greedy brother??
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3 responses
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
Is he the eldest, if so this is the same scenario with my uncle, because he grew up thinking that as the eldest it's his right to get the lion's share of the lands of my grandparents...luckily, my gram is a no nonsense lady and put a stop to it by talking to him, now he unwillingly and grudgingly accepts his share, and that his bro's and sis's has their equal share...
My suggestion would be that your mother talk to him but if that doesn't work, just don't mind him, just ask your mom to itemize her will so your brother will have little room to contest it...
@grammasheshe (80)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Yes he is the eldest and the only son so could be that is what is making him think that way. I don't think he even knows that my sister is the executor of the will. He probably thinks he is...I do have to keep trying to talk some sense into my Mom without hurting her feelings...The best thing would be no one to contest anything of her last will and it will keep peace in our family.
@missliss08 (766)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Even though your mom doesn't want to itemize the items, this is the easiest way to deal with these things and avoid a feud. It is hard enough when someone passes and then to fight over belongings. Having it all in writing and the executor executes the will is the easiest way to go.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
Based on your topic which normally happening to others that pertaining to last will and testament if not yet provided and made - trouble among concern is easy to arise because we are all diffirent character even in the family. So the advantages of having paper it is become smooth and no quarrel some. It is normal specially family have more wealth to distribute to the siblings. Talk to you mother and tell about paper is necessary even she is still alive in order to avoid any dispute... see you around
