how can you be a good listener when nobody wants to listen to you?

Hmmmmm nice discussion yes some time I feel this type of position. But now I am not share any problem with anybody because I know no one can solve our problems than us. Only we can solve our problem so why wastage our time to sharing with other.

Hi shrike, Very interesting situation indeed. You wanted to the person to hear you and he finished telling his off. I can well understand your frustration. But as you did not lose your patience you won over yourself and this is a sign of good listener. The first and most important criteria to be a good listener is to develop your listening skill and concentrate on what the other person is talking to you. Second thing never interfere the person in between. Let him do off and after he finishes ask again if he missed something. Now you you create a friendly atmosphere and and quoting a few few of his says delve into the problem and sort them out. Make them so simple looking that he has to confess, 'wow. so simple it was'. But listening is not every one's cup of tea.

hi shrike people often do that as a way of sharing then they start to advise you about your problem. I have done that only to put the person at ease and give me time to think of how to advise the person.sometimes itjust a stalling tactic to let the person think how best to advise you and hence they share that they to have had this problem. be patient and perphaps then you hoped for advisor will now get to the point of giving'you so good advice.

It can be happen too, although it is his problem and he choose to tell me his. Maybe I have enough problem of my own already. I just have to share this with him, and I would allow him to announce his problem to see if there is any similarity between us. Hopefully, everything just work out fine.

i understand i face that problem too. anyhow, people are like that because all of us have problems. try asking the question "what is your opinion?" after you have told that prson your problem