Friend is in a bad marriage with kids and roof is literally falling in.
By Sallyk1974
@Sallyk1974 (1)
United States
June 4, 2011 11:15pm CST
Hi, I am new to this but I think its a great site so far. So hear I go. I have a friend who I have known half my life. She got married to a guy she barely knew 8 years ago and her life has been falling apart since. 4 years ago he was going to fix my car but instead took the money for parts and ran. She got pregnant with a child she didn't want but they kept. I knew she didn't want the baby so i forgave them taking that money and started talking to them again. Today she lives in a run down trailer with the roof falling in on them and the husband putting holes in the wall so there isn't so much pressure on the roof(LOL). Her daughters window has been broke and covered up with ply wood. She isn't happy but she protects her husband when you ask about why they let the house etc get this bad but her actions speak louder that she really isn't happy. This part is TOTALLY crazy but with their house falling apart they went to Disneyland for Easter break. I don't know if i should turn them into the city because i honestly don't believe the house is in living condition. But at the same time I don't know if I could live with myself if I did turn them in. What would you do? Thanks
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8 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Jun 11
Wow this is really sad and really tough. Part of me says protect that baby and turn them in. The other part of me however says that baby could end up in foster homes which could be worse than where she is now.
I would try your best to get them to realize this isn't good for their daughter and I would see if your friend needs help getting away from him. =( Hopefully something will turn this situation around!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
25 Jun 11
If she is unhappy, then she should leave, but she might be afraid to leave. I would treat her to lunch or something and discuss your concerns with her. If she wants out, then do what you can to make it happen. If she doesn't, she could stay,but you need to do what is best to protect that baby. I say if it means turning them in, then you do that.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I think these are one of the things that you wouldn't want to meddle with. Though I know that you only want what's good for the daughters and the family, I don't think it would end in the good way because the family might be broken apart. They might be deemed unfit to take care of the kids and the kids might be taken by social services.
I think instead of you talking to the authorities about it, why don't you help them out by giving some of your old stuff for them to patch the roof up or something like that.
Further, it would be great if you could help your friend find a job or some sort of source of income. You could help her have mylot.
For now, just let it go for now because telling on them wouldn't help them at all.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
7 Jun 11
What a sad situation, but my husband has a 39 year old son that has a 27 year old wife and while he is OTR driver, he has a girlfriend in his truck with him.
He told his father that Kentucky stopped making him pay child support to his 5 children and I don't understand why if they are legally seperated.
So while they were together, Child enforcement had them move into a apt from a hotel they were staying in with 5 children, and then they did not do the laundry, etc. Its sad, but in my book report them. Maybe getting the real help they need will aid the child a better life.
Unfortunately your story is not unknown if we all just take a look around and see how these young adults are living.
Have a girl that grew up with my daughter. She is living in section 8 housing for free, gets 1,200.00 in food stamps, is supposed to be seperated from her husband and he just sneaks in so they don't have to pay rent!
And thats not including the WIC she also gets for children under 5.
yet she sits online and talks about going to the Casino almost weekly...go figure.
@MBBerry (24)
• United States
13 Jun 11
I think you need to think of the child. It isn't healthy for her to live like this and she needs to be in a place that is safe and clean. It may be hard but reporting them to child welfare may be the only way to get them to clean up their act.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
this is one of the saddest stories i have known.anyways people should break the cycle.
