A friend always on the last minute chicken out

Maybe he has some reasons behind which cannot tell. Is he depressed because of other issues? Does he have financial problem which cannot be told in order not to lose face in front of you guys?

Personally I would not be wanting to invite someone like that. They are usually the type that are always like Why I am I never invited, never realizing that everytime you ever do try and invite them they usually chicken out or decide not to go. I could see if there was a valid reason like they were sick or something but to always be the ones to back out... Would make me think about asking someone else from now on for sure.

If be mad if a friend confirms coming with us but would back out at the last minute because sometimes it takes a lot of effort to plan and make reservations only to find out you you need to have that extra slot. Luckily we do not have such a friend in our group and we always come together complete, sometimes when one cannot make it it is because of a good reason and not some lame excuse.

I hate it when people do that to me. Either they want to do something or they don't. I cannot be friends with someone who tells me they will do something and they either back out or they just do not acknowledge it at all.

hi, yeah you're right,i hate those kind of people,because you set good enough the time then a friend will not go to see you that day, i have one friend who act like that,every time we had a reunion he always act like that and create many excuses to the next day.

I think maybe you should understand his reasons, Maybe his going out with other friends. You can talk to him and tell him his history, maybe he will be shy to back out next time. But in your case, i think maybe your friend is not enjoying your company and does not want to be friends with you. I used to have a friend like that, we were going out and he seldom appeared, thats why i said "used" because we dont contact anymore. Anyway on a side note, enjoy your trip!

I know how you feel, I also have that type of a friend. I don't really know what is up but suddenly she decides she wouldn't come. It's really annoying because before we go somewhere we already try to compute the costs and it is usually divided as to the number of people coming. So when she backs out suddenly, there would be discrepancies to the costing and it would cause other people to panic. This time around, we plan to go vacationing this coming February. It's the first out-of-the-country vacation with the group. We have already decided on it last Christmas and everyone did agree. Last week, we found a very good and inexpensive deal/package but the thing is, we must pay half today. Some of us paid fully so it could cover those who don't have money just yet. But before even listening to the plan she instantly said she wouldn't be coming. I mean, why? Can't you even give us a reason why not? I now think that she doesn't really like to come with us. I don't think she enjoys us here. It's sad because she's our college friends but we can't do anything if they don't want to come with us. So like you, I think it's best that you don't expect too much from these sorts of people. You could still invite him the next time around, but don't expect too much. Just invite out of respect.

Yup, others have that kind of disorder, not wanting to be with other people, or maybe because he cant stand being with you guys!! financial problem maybe... instead of leaving him out, why dont you guys let him plan the next trip and maybe he'll have no excuse of not coming! Aloof? THAT SUCKS!! better help him though!!