i must be strong.....

asliah: I really sympathize with you. I think you should ask some questions for yourself. Do you want to restore this feeling from the heart? Can you feel that he truly love you this time? Do you believe that he won't discard you from now on? Actually, it's up to you.

I have experienced this before and really, it gets old, hurt me, break up, then get back again...I finally decided the fifth time it happened to move on and never go back...and now, I'm happier...I found a man, who loves me and never hurts me intentionally, nor lie to/keep things from me...

Ya, my first boyfriend was like that and second too, now i think they did that because they were immature. I don't know your boyfriend so i can't say if you should give him a chance or not, but if you broke up with him recently then you should just concentrate on living life without him and let him realize that you've moved on. perhaps if he still wants you, he can wait for some years or not? You shouldn't think about him and his part of moving on, unless you want to stay real close friends him.

For me yes so that you have many time to do what is your right to your self.

Hello I was married to my wife in 1966, and that was once for all, we are a very very happy couple, i had no love affairs at all.. Thank you so much for sharing Enjoy life to fullest. Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .

hi Asliah ! From your words can I say that he is leaving and come back to you many times before and you accept him back?? He did that again and again. If you feel that it is okay to accept him again and feel the pain again then go on. You yourself now it better my friend as this happened to you many times. Did not you learn from the past??? Even if people say let him go yet you still want to accept him no one could say anything. You yourself should decide what is the best for yourself. If you determine to leave him, then go for it, be strong and no more excuse to take him back~

It sounds to me that if somebody keeps coming and going in and out of a relationship with you in this way, it is time to be strong and terminate the relationship permanently. It is difficult to ignore people if they keep coming back, in fact I would say it is like stalking. There are ways to stop this happening, but you need to ask yourself how far you are willing to go to move on with your life and find somebody new, who would be more supportive of your needs. I don't think anybody can give you advice, except yourself and that would mean asking yourself some very serious questions about what how you want your own life to turn out. Good luck to you on this, many of us have been when you are now, me included. _Derek

A friend once told me "There's no perfect formula for love". I can't really decide for you, neither could we really do something about the situation you are in right now because only you and that guy could choose. However, based on my experience you cannot really say 'no' for good. There will be some invisible force that would still make you think of giving him a chance but the same invisible force could make you just be strong enough to say no. Decisions involving the heart isn't always easy, but you'll know that you're in the right path when things become simple. I asked a good friend of mine why he decided to marry his wife, he just said,"It was the right time". I think we can have our right time and if we force things, it will be difficult. But if we just try to relax, taking it easy about relationships and not making it the center of our lives, perhaps we would soon see what's right for us and when the right time is. So now, stop feeling hurt. If he likes talking to you, and you still like talking to him, then talk. If you don't like to see him or talking to him, then by all means change everything including your address (if you can). Just remember that life is more beautiful with less drama in it. Have a great MyLot experience!

I think the best way you can do is to ask this in yourself, is it worth keeping giving him another chance? What are those things that really end up your relationship with him. You should open your mind and try to think. If he does not deserve to be given a chance, then I think you should move on but if he deserves, then you should give him another chance. Right now, you should put everything to GOD, ask him to guide you through all this pain you encountered. Whatever your decision may be, always think that there is always a better person who really deserves your love, a man that will really be faithful, cherish you, and love you for who you are. I hope I was able to help you in any way. Happy mylotting!

If you think you still love him. Why don't give him a chance...but if you think that he coming back because he is lonely. Please ignore him...because he gives you another pain when he recovers from his boredom... You need to be strong. Because love will be good but it will be like sword when breaking up...

It happened to me; a couple of times already. I think I posted a lot of discussions pertaining to this problem in mylot and I ended up realizing that stupidity comes in when you do the very same mistake over and over again. If I were you, move on. It's a just a challenge that once you accomplished, you feel stronger. That's the moment when you realize that you always have to value yourself first, instead of asking it to someone useless.

My ex-husband all of a sudden came bck into my life only by e-mail since he lives far away on the east coast and I'm in the Midwest. But he said one day on the phone "I Love You" I almost said it back by habit but I don't think i feel anything for him anymore. My ex-boyfriend friended me on facebook said he did love me. I never get back ino a relationship that has ended. I give them 1 chance only if they blow it then thats it. I figure if it didn't work the first time it's not going to work the second time since there has to be a reason it didn't work the 1st time. My ex b-friend definitely not give him another chance since he liked to drink a lot, party and not hold a job for very long.

I could give one more chance, but 2 or 3 chances would be too much. I mean if he has done something wrong and he is sorry, he won't do it again right? So how many times did he hurt you? How many times have you forgiven him?

I think you need to mix around with more guys. He was once your everything and that you think you will not be the same if he left you. I have been in this situation many times, but every time when I felt terrible, I would be okay in afew months, when life becomes normal and I get a new girl. The morale of the story is that when you look back, you would realize that you are being silly in feeling sad for that jerk when you have many friends around you. If my ex lover would like to come back to me, I would most probably reject her, then risk getting played by again. Secondly, I am already moved on and would not like a releationship that destroyed me to be renewed

hi Asliah ! From your words can I say that he is leaving and come back to you many times before and you accept him back?? He did that again and again. If you feel that it is okay to accept him again and feel the pain again then go on. You yourself now it better my friend as this happened to you many times. Did not you learn from the past??? Even if people say let him go yet you still want to accept him no one could say anything. You yourself should decide what is the best for yourself. If you determine to leave him, then go for it, be strong and no more excuse to take him back~

It's a big challenge for your emotion.I can understand you,but don't be shaked.I know it's difficult to cut off totally.But one person's character is difficult to change,so the pain maybe will happen again.I know when we get out of a relationship we pay big courage.I am afraid you get hurt again if you give him another chance.The relationship is more simple,you will be more happy.when you give him chance,it will become sonplex.SO I hope you happy!