I am annoy of other people behavior and find out I have the same behavior too..

@flower21 (765)
Philippines
June 5, 2011 9:32pm CST
I am easily annoy of other people behavior. In some situation even the person does not do anything harm or hurt me. I still have the feeling I dislike them. then, I find out later the more I find some behavior that irritates me. The funny thing, the same trait I dislike about them is also find the same behavior in me. Very coincidental but true. so from now on, I would be more focus to find differences to people as normal, and I could not expect them to behave the way I like them. Do you develop dislike to other people or just a feeling even though they do not do anything to you?
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9 responses
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
i also experience the same things. i get annoy easily and then i think i have the same habit. just like you we could realize our mistakes by reflecting in terms of how we treat other people. we could find some defect but our self also have the same defect. so hard to judge in order not to be judge. learning to accept on another is the key to good life.
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@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that true before we criticize each there it s good to have a self examination first. and t s going to be funny the different traits we get to discover. we easily get upset over little things but only realize were imperfect and have their own defect too. just need to accept other even they really make us mad.
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@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 11
That wasn't so surprised when someone get annoyed with other behavior while they have same behavior. Even worse then those one.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
i also notice it but those behavior i find in others as annoying i have little similarities not really the bad one. i just realize that no one is perfect so i just learn to live with it. as long as they never hurt me physically. in some cases the worst annoying behavior is very noticeable and everyone have the same feeling they develop certain dislike.
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@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 11
My people has a wisewords about that, and what I have told you before was just some of it.
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I usually get angry when someone has no mannerism in public. Clearly, there are a lot of things we can't do there but there are some who cross the line, I'm sure you know the kind: picking their nose, laughing hard, talking too loud, etc.. Most people will be annoyed by these stupid mannerisms, not just me that's why I also don't do it.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
yes i seen a lot too and they are really disgusting. especially if they are very inconsiderate and just continue doing their activities without any consideration. they think they own the world so they could do whatever they like which so annoying. the people who do such things should think that if they happy on what are they doing not all people around them react the same way they do...
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• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Yep. They should be fined or something.
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
6 Jun 11
For me I will try to look the good and bad side until the person prove to be a real annoying idiot then I will back off and avoid at all means. Really, if they arent there at all who are we to like? Their role is to make us appreciate and tolerate the other lesser irritating people more and to appreciate highly those true gems.
• Singapore
6 Jun 11
Sorry that my post doesnt seem relevant. I came from reading from a true annoying mylotter and was somehow venting...
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
well that is okay. you give a good input in this topic and appreciate it. truly, many could detect if the person is irresponsible and have annoying trait. by the way they carry themselves in terms of conversation and the way they treat people. surely finding the real gems are rare now days but finding them is very rewarding experience. a true friend in need will be in your side no matter life challenges changes you or not, they would treat the nice way too just like before the first time you meet.
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@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Its mirroring yourself from others behavior. It is a study in Psychology. Sometimes we are unaware that we hate jealous people because we are also jealous type. Though we don't accept it, its on our subconscious mind.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
yeah, and it is reflect in myself though i criticize those annoying habit of other people. i also know other people who the same with me sooner they also realize they have some mistakes too. so it is not really good to judge other people or see their own mistakes but if given the chance to correct themselves that would even be better.
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• France
6 Jun 11
I really developed dislike to other people for no apparent reason. But most of the times is like you, in the end i realize that they have somewhat something common in my behavior. but most of the time i get the feeling even they do not do anything wrong to me.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yeah that true it so funny to know we get to realize it. we tend to be more critical of other people behavior and we tend to forget some defect which we get to easily annoy of other people behavior. when in fact when ask them they have feel the same things. one way or another nobody s perfect we need just to know how to dealt them properly.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Yes. Some things some people do and say makes me dislike them. I try to give them a chance though but alot of times, my instincts were right.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
yeah very true, many women have the so call intuition. they know the good and bad vibes. some could really feel if the person have a good or bad intention. some could notice it in the way they talk, act or behaves. while other just misinterpret them. you need to spend a lot of time before you could know the real person since some just wear a mask but in reality they have a soft heart too..
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• Philippines
6 Jun 11
It is annoying to dislike someone without them doing anything that makes you or feel you are harm. We know why we dislike a certain person, but sometimes for us not to get to any trouble, we just simply says, we just don't like them. Maybe it has something to do with the way they speak, move and laugh. Maybe because from the way they show their personality. Moreover, I got your point as sometimes I hate girls who are screaming or talking loud. Who likes to make fun of others and it seems they are enjoying the scene. I lately observes myself only to find out that I do it sometimes. I hate those things to do with me, but I did it on someone before. That is weird.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I am so glad you get my point that is what i find when i am annoy of other people behavior like criticizing their behavior and then reflect for an hour. i list them and find out that i also have or practice the same habit. so this is also the finding of my sister. so i just realize that instead of finding fault in other people. it may better to fund goodness on them so i would avoid irritating myself.
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@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Maybe the reason why their behavior bothers you so much is because you share these behaviors. Maybe subconsciously you dislike these attributes in yourself and so you project. That is good that you realize that you can't expect others to behave the way you like. You can't change others, but you can change your attitude towards them. I believe that by realizing this, you will be able to stop having to feel annoyed. We can't control everything and when we understand and accept that, the world is a much better and less stressful place. I do sometimes dislike others for no apparent reason. I think that everyone has experienced this at least once in their life. All we can do is try our best not to judge so quickly and give ourselves the chance to get to know the person.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
yeah and some traits i seen in others i often criticize them until i made a self examination. like do a listing of behavior i find annoying to other people and then realize some of those trait i found in me. so i just laugh knowing that some annoying trait is in me. i agree i could have no power over other to change them in just one day and it takes a lot of encouragements or live by examples so they could imitate or motivated.
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