My daughter is a tyrant!
@jessicabcoughlin (19)
United States
June 6, 2011 12:07pm CST
I have 3 girls, all of whom are raised to treat life as a gift and not a right. We try and teach them never to expect anything and to appreciate everything. Unfortunately my 9 year old seem to have gotten things mixed up and behaves spoiled and selfish. We try to change these behaviors with punishments but that seems to only aggrivate her behavior. Does anyone have this issue, and how have you dealt with it? I could really use the helpful ideas
5 responses
@mrgpk63 (444)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Well You need some Idea of What She is Going Through. Is She Angry, Jealous of Her Sisters, Maybe Depressed for One Reason or Another. Which can cause Anger and Fear.
Punishment doesn't Always Work as the Problem maybe Deep and it always the best Answer to the Problem at Hand. Talk and Ask What is Wrong and not Yell or Show Anger. You may get some Answers that Way.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
7 Jun 11
Punishment will just make your situation worse. You need to have her earn what she received. If she has poor behavior then when you take everyone out to dinner, she has to stay with someone else.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Unfortunately you simply have to keep on it until you defeat her will. If you do not, then you'll only be rewarding her bad behavior. By backing down, or not following through on your punishments, you'll have shown that acting badly can beat the punishment.
That will set an example she'll follow long into her teen years, and perhaps into her 20s or even 30s. Can't let that happen. There's simply too much at stake, especially for women.
@CandyRayne (458)
• United States
6 Jun 11
ground her and take everything fun away and out of her room, and whe she learns to act right she may have one thing back at a time when YOU deem it's okay. And any & all things cam be subject to repo at anytime. You are the parent she need to respect you and lean that s lon as she is a child and in your home that is just how it is going to be weather she likes it or not. Let her tho a fit in her room, she will get exausted and tuvker herself out and sleep. Good luck to you stay strong!!
@jakeyodaddy (52)
• United States
6 Jun 11
The best way in my opinion is to show her how to act the way you want by acting like a role model. She is 9 years old still young enough for this. By doing and acting the way you want her to be like she will pick up these traits and use them herself. Kids seem to copy what there parents and role models do. I don't know what kind of parent you are and how your parenting skills are but try being a little bit more respectful and less spoiled and selfish (what others may see as being that)and both you and your daughter will be happier.
