I'll kill myself if you leave me!
By silvercoin
@silvercoin (2101)
Lithuania
June 6, 2011 1:40pm CST
OK, what kind of love is that if a person threatens to kill himself/herself if you break up with him/her?Have you ever encountered such a problem?Isn't that sick?Why do people act like this?Imagine.I get a call in the middle of the night:You'll never see me again, you will be responsible for my death.Be with me and you'll save my life.".Isn't that a form of blackmail?
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15 responses
@CandyRayne (458)
• United States
6 Jun 11
for someone to say that you, they have alot deaper problems with
abandiment issues than you can help with. People that say things like this
need prof. help. Try calling the police and letting them know that you have a friend that is talking about killing himself/herself, and you want someone to help them. They will take care of it!
I had a family member go though this, and it was very hard for her. This is what she did, and after he was released from the hospital he thanked her, for helping him, and his issues.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
6 Jun 11
Maybe some childhood trauma.They say that some people who were victimized by their family members repeat the same scenario with their own families.Must be a serious problem.
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@CandyRayne (458)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Abandiment issues are not issue to play with. It could be coming from past failed repationships,to a family member that person felt very close to ( father/mother ) that left them as a child that they felt they had a strong conection with, and the fact they dont want to go though the same thing again. This is a very common issue now a days, and should not handled lightly. I have known situations like this end up going the wrong way, if it is not handled in the right way.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
6 Jun 11
I have went through that already. The person does it because they want you to feel sorry for them, most time, it shows that they really love you, but for me it turns me away from the person. I hate when a girl behaves like that. It just sicken me and to me honestly when a girl does that it makes her seem a bit like an idiot. That is my honest opinion. I hate it, i hate, i hate it so much.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
6 Jun 11
I hate it with a passion.Feeling sorry has nothing to do with love.You just feel nothing for that person and you're being blamed for "hurting feelings".Unhealthy relationship.Some people just need to grow up.
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@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
6 Jun 11
I hate to admit it but I would have to say I did it once myself. And I really loved the girl, but I was loosing her and I tried to do it hoping she will feel sorry and take me back. Actually the only think it did was to make me feel worst. I always look back at that moment and say to myself, why d hell did I do that. Looking back at myself I felt so stupid and weak. Why would I even want to kill myself over one girl, when there are thousands, actually millions. Well I am happy I never did it again and that I realised how stupid it really is.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Hi Silver!
This is absolutely a form of blackmail. Probably comes from a low self-esteem, where the individual doesn't feel he/she can sustain a relationship without doing something like that. The scary thing is in now knowing whether this person will act on a threat like that. If you happen to know if there's been previous attempts, a call to the local athorities to check on him or her might be in order.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
7 Jun 11
We studied at the same University with him.He was known for strange behavior.Once he failed an exam and threatened to set on fire the building.He was charged for that.
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@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I have encountered this problem, but not in a way that my partner threatened me. He just told me that he'll life will be useless without me and all that. To make the story short, I broke up with him. 
I don't want to with a person who's really not that strong enough to fight for our relationship and to fight for his love for himself. 
I don't want to with a person who's really not that strong enough to fight for our relationship and to fight for his love for himself. @silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
7 Jun 11
Good decision.I think any life is worth living and this is why we are here, and if someone doesn't appreciate the gift of life, it's not my fault.We all can be selfish and weak.Love is strength, not weakness.
I know many people who stay with their partners because they feel pity for them.Too bad.
Anyways, You're right silvercoin. Giving out sympathy for someone who's emotionally weak wouldn't help the person in any way. I hope that people would realize it.
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 11
Oh I hate that kind of statement and people who said that.It's not love, it's frustated love. If I were on that position, I will let him go by a short messages of phone then change my phone number.At least I will be more relax to not hear anything about him.
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 11
So do I, that's kind of people is confusing.They just make us feel guilty!!
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
7 Jun 11
I find disgusted when a person tries to end his life just because the person he/she loves rejected him/her.Ending one's life is not a solution and it reflects that those person are cowards,yes its a difficult thing to take that you are rejected but ending your life is never a solution.
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
10 Jun 11
Emotional blackmail, as a matter of fact! This is a form of manipulation; an effort to control. You need to reevaluate this relationship if you are still in it and change your phone number-maybe even address if you aren't. These types often end up stalking and/or harming their partners or former partners. Good luck!
This book deals with some of the emotions, trials and triumphs of surviving abusive relationships.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004YLDX6O
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
For me yes but it is happened only for the bad emotion of a person like crazy one.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Wow I have never experienced this and hope not to do so. I feel the person is more obsessed then actual love because one must live themselves before anyone can love them.
Saying they are going to kill themselves, does not sound like the person cares too much for themselves. Sad but if a person truly means this, they need help to gain some self esteem and feel better about themselves.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
7 Jun 11
It looks like an obsession.It's easy to confuse love with obsession.Some people think that stalking is romantic.They feel desired.I'm not that kind of a person.
@MsPatriciaDV (635)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I don't think it's love. It's being selfish, maybe obsession too.
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
7 Jun 11
Hmmm I believe only desperate people tend to pull a stunt like that.But yes,I have been on the brunt side of that abuse.My ex-girlfriend from high school,when I broke up with her the first time she threatened to kill herself.I was back with her at the end of the week and then I broke up with her a year or so later.
@chinamma (24)
• India
7 Jun 11
yes i have encountered problem like this as my boyfriend always argues with me about me talking with other boys.being close with other boys just makes him nuts and i was like come on dude it's life and i will do whatever i want to do u just can't rub it on me.he threatens me sometime and says that he will die if i breakup with him.I mean this is sick man.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
8 Jun 11
It's called an emotional abuse, it's the first sign of an unhealthy relationship.
@tyjenny84 (33)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
i think that's obsession, that's stupid...not love...if somebody would tell me that i'd say "go do your thing if you think that's best for you. i won't stop you because if you don't care about my feelings, neither will i with yours..."...hehehe
@mansha (6298)
• India
8 Jun 11
I agree with you 100%. why do people wish to die for love why not live an exemplary life for love so that the one who rejected you feels the loss of you ever more. People have become so used to being obsessed about things that its like do or die. I think its their obsession to love and rage not love that compels them to do so. Such people might deserve someone's sympathy but surely not their love.
