Meet my ex

By eM
@eLsMarie (4345)
Philippines
June 6, 2011 8:41pm CST
Isn't awkward how you were able to convinced yourself that you have finally moved on after a terrible break up - a couple of years ago - and accidentally, you meet him/her again? I saw my ex yesterday and it feels so weird. I hate it! We've never seen each other for years and it so hard to pretend that everything's okay. We're friends, but it's so hard to act like fine. I know that I'm blushing. Blushing hard! oh dear! Hmmm... It's a mixed emotion really. I wanted to laugh, but I also wanted to scream. (sigh) I felt so young. I'm like a 16-year-old again. Memories flashed back. Have you been through this? Gosh! I felt like there are butterflies running in my stomach!!! (okay...haha) --- I should shut my mouth now, but I can't! LOL! Okay... Thanks for reading. I hope you understand my post. I know I sounded crazy, but I'm trying not to be like one. LOL! -the end-
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@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
7 Jun 11
I've seen my ex twice in the last two years since we broke up 8 years ago. Both times I don't think he saw me which is fine with me. I wished I never laid eyes on this person I really regret ever going out with him. If he did see me I would not have spoken to him. The crazy thing is that I sometimes dream about him and I hate it. I'd rather forget I ever knew him so I don't know why the heck I dream about him.
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@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
You don't have to really regret dreamy1 because I'm confident enough to say that you learned a lot from that break up, right? That's completely okay. At least you were able to fixed everything up. I also dreamed of my ex too... I don't know why.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Perhaps it's because of the hurt felt because of the break up. There are those guys who feel that you don't matter and they too regretted being with you even before you broken up. I think guys with those kinds of nerves just don't need to be seen again!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Your statement laydee sounds a bit tough, but it's okay.
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
i do understand... hehe awkward, weird, awkward, weird... it was like an unwanted spasm waiting to happen... or something bursting and you don't know where or what kind of emotions are involved. yes, mixed feelings. i know. years ago, i saw my ex walking from the opposite side of the bridge. i think i saw him first and i wanted to bail out and turn around and... (i don't know) i just want to avoid him. it was a shock to see him a year and a half after we broke up. i just continued walking and pretended that i didn't see him. but he did see me unfortunately and he called my name. he asked about me. and even tried to walk with me until the bus station. he asked to meet the next day. of course i refused. fortunately my bus arrived and i have reason to leave him and say goodbye. but my relief was shortlived because he followed me inside the bus and stood in front of my seat. and he wouldn't move a muscle until i agreed to meet him the next day. it was embarassing (to say the least). lol because people were looking. i felt like hyperventilating when he got off the bus after i agreed. and that night, everything rushed back, all the memories and emotions. whew! the next day, i debated whether to see him or not but since i gave my word i had to keep it. he proposed. i turned him down. i should not have been affected anymore. but i was. because he was a year and a half too late. now the idea of meeting any of my exes... i don't wanna think about it. lol i hope i don't meet any... anymore.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
While I was reading your post, I was like--- . But when I continued reading it until the end, I was like--- . Why did you turned him down??? He made an effort. Sorry for my reaction mylesnarvaez... I just felt like he's so into you, but it's already too late. I can't blame you though.
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
the effort was one and half years too late. so much has happened since then. there are things that we can't control like bringing past feelings. i had moved on. he would have been a great catch... but i was no longer into him. now just a few days ago, it's so ironic that another ex is coming back into my life. someone i really really loved and i really thought i was over him. but now i am confused. (sigh) he was the reason why i don't start discussions anymore. for a long while now.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
You must have been a great girlfriend mylesnarvaez, because your exes are wanting you back. How did you respond to his proposal? Did you sad yes?
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
I think I am going through something similar. But I am on the other side of the equation. I recently met an ex. Although we act as if everything is fine, I could sense in her the same emotions that your are feeling. She tries to act cool, and friendly, but her actions speak differently. Maybe it's just my imagination, but maybe it's really like these between exes.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
What were her actions? I wanted to know so that I can observe myself and by the next time my ex sees me, he wouldn't think that I'm acting a bit weird or something.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
That's sad. I think she's in pain. I think she really lost you already. There's no chance of you coming back to her.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 Jun 11
It's just the little things... Like emailing me all the time. Or wanting to chat with me on FB. She even called a couple of time. It's flattering, but sometimes you've got to know when to draw the line.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Hi eLsMarie, What you posted I guess is just normal. I mean I really don't know what's going on with you girls when you meet your ex, but you sounded just describing me. LOL. Well, I recently had a post about my ex, and how it "bothered" me to see her on facebook, and well, I sorta add her up, and she accepted my friend request, and I was ruined. LOL. Well, just like you, I thought I was totally fine for the longest time, then just disturbed again, because I saw her on facebook. I don't know. Maybe I should shut up too. LOL.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
You sounded crazy too... Oh well... I guess my ex is feeling the same way too, because I thought that girls are the only ones who get crazy when they meet up with their exes. You're a guy and you confessed that you felt the same way too...
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@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah! That obvious chuyins123... Thanks for sharing by the way!
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• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Well yeah. Maybe your EX feels the same way too. I sounded crazy???? That obvious? LOL.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
hi, yes once but that was last three years ago,and that situation was really hard journey for me during that time because i dont know what to do or what should i do when they meet each other.but the things that i really felt that time was unforgettable.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
I really feel sad when I tend to hear experiences of other people whenever they encounter with their exes, because it meant an end.
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Taking your first line..it is not awkward, it is frustrating! When you tried your damnest best only to be proven wrong when it comes to your feelings with your ex..it just plain disappointing. But anyway, we all have to go pass the point because it is the only way to move on with our lives. Oh well..
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
That's sad... I can't imagine myself witnessing the guy that I love so much marrying somebody else. How were you able to overcome it? Though two years have passed, I think there's still some sort of excitement that thrills us when we see our ex - based from my experience.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
You sounded like you've encountered a terrible break up sophiecheer... That's sad. Thanks for posting!
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Not terrible actually. We agreed to break up because things are not going favorably for our relationship. So much things and so much other relationships are affected thus we opt to sacrifice. Personally, I still love him when we parted and I would like to believe that he does feel the same way too. But as I stated, we agreed because we both believed that things would be better off. We were long distance lovers, you see. I've convinced myself that "time" would heal and that I will find another love. I've focused myself on work and other matters. i haven't been exactly looking for a "replacement" to begin with. After 2 years we met again.Lo and behold, the feelings resurfaced. And as if luck may have it he is already married. Initially it was painful but eventually I was able to overcome it.
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
At least you still are yourself that time. Me, I felt stupid the last time I saw him. I promised to act cool, and pretend that I am better without him. But when he asked if he can have one hug before he'll go meet his current GF, I just gave in. In fact, I hugged him really tight, cried... and watch him leave again. Hate myself! Argh!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Why is your story that sad??? I can't help it. If I were in your situation, I think I can't afford letting him go. I just don't feel like he deserves the other girl. I'm willing to fight for someone if it's worth fighting.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I know how you feel somehow. Oh well, if I were you, I might feel the same, since we broke up, and maybe there is not much for us to talk about. I would still want us to be friends too, but it is hard to find a topic again, and we can talk about it or laugh about it. I hope that me and my ex and improve such condition in the future.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I do hope also kingparker. How I wish I could turn back time and tell him how much he means to me. I should have given him another try. Anyways, it's time to move on.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Yeah, crazy, illogical, and frustrating. Whenever this happens, I curse myself. But remembering the reasons for the breakup usually gets me thinking straight again. I guess we have these kind of reactions whenever we see or meet our ex because we remember the good times we shared with that person. At least, you know you're not bitter!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
It's just feels sad that, in the past, we're so sweet with each other and after the break up, it turned out a bit bitter.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
8 Jun 11
It's such an adrenaline to meet the exes! All the time, there's all this game going on, it's really a hush indeed, or this butterflies you talked about :D
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
It's so true katie0! I wish that next time, when we see each other again, I'll be an expert when it comes to pretending.
@batskam (60)
7 Jun 11
gosh. meeting the ex is really awkward. its really hard to act fine if you meet them again. specially if the breakup is really terrible. maybe you are not yet moved on totally. when i met my ex, i met her 3 years after the break up and at that time, it was really fine with me. but i think its not fine with her. cause when she saw me, she's knda jumpy. hahaha!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
How were you able to find out that she's jumpy? OMG! Are you boys so good at that?
@kuramax (80)
• United States
7 Jun 11
That means that the memories you had are still fresh and not being forgotten. My ex and I broke 2 months ago (in a nice way though) and were still seeing each other every Sunday because were churchmates. For me, I don't want to end our relationship. She said that she must do it and yeah she broke with me. Now, everytime I see her, my hearts says 'I miss you beb'. All I can do now is to wait for the right time to come if she will be back for good, for the continuation of our relationship. I miss her so much and I want to give her a hug. ='(
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Oh God! almost all of you guys are giving me sad stories. What went wrong? --- if you don't mind me asking. I salute you for being so understanding and respectful. I wish she'll come back to you. I hope that one day she'll realize how much she means to you.
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
It's really happened. There are times that two ex partner will be united once again the chances of their were really destined together, IF BOTH OF YOU IS CURRENTLY SINGLE. Why? because maybe the reason why your boyfriend/girlfriend before became your ex is sometimes there are things in life to both of you should change or fix first before you will love together again that both of you should realized and learned for something to make your realationship better than before.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I think he's single, unfortunately I'm not. I pity him though, because he underwent a terrible break up. I hope he'll recover soon.
• India
7 Jun 11
everybody has to carry on at some part of life if things are not working out. for example if u dint have to see her u wouldnt have even thought of her plus if u see something had to have been wrong that u broke up common man wake up and face the music things do happens but for the best plus even if u met her i know u might be gettn ur emotions back but the fact is the same thig is gonna happen again .
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Thanks for posting myron16.
@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 11
Well that is indeed awkward. I don't think I could ever be friends with my ex. So if I meet him, I'd probably hide, rather than go gaga. I don't do well in awkward situation. I might look like a fool. lol.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I don't do well too before, but I was able to practice it a bit. It requires a lot of hard work you know. Thanks for making an effort flapiz!