To Be Or Not To Be "Honest"

it must be balanced.... sometimes telling a lie can save lives.... especially in Business, Politics, Movie Artists, you need to be not a honest in order for your career to grow up.... yesterday he is your friend... today he is now your enemy... tomorrow i am sure he is your friend again....

Many people say they want truth, certainty, that they seek, but we must recognize that we are not always ready for the truth. Being in a critical situation, we believe that truth is only that we can out of it, but often not only complicate matters with the finding of realize that we were better before. And not because we like to live a lie, but life that we have is truth, or so believe, why we are so hard to accept another truth that can change our lives. The first step is to want to find, but you sure that this step takes you to the truth because it's finding does not depend strictly on you but also open to those who can help. We can decide If or not we are ready for the truth, but depend on others. I think it's worth it to start to find him, even if the desire to find, does not necessarily mean finding him.

I think the big thing is why you are lying i think lies can be ok if the lie is for somebody elses benefit for example to spare their feelings.I think the big lesson in life to tell children is to be kind to each other and not hurt eachothers feelings if they learn this lesson they will learn how to act and eventually they will learn without you telling them when it is right to lie.

Hmm... you ask a difficult question. =P The trouble with lying is... when you find out that someone lied to you, the thought enters your head that this is a person capable of lying to you, and you begin to doubt whether what he tells you from that time on is a lie or not, or even... which of the things he's told you in the past is a lie and which are true... You may say you lied because you wanted to save a person from being hurt. But wouldn't the person be more hurt if he/she finds out the truth eventually... and realizes that you have lied to him/her? If it were me, I think I would prefer that you tell me the truth from the beginning, even if it hurts me, than tell a lie. Better that you tell me the truth and let me decide for myself how to deal with it. Did you think me too weak to be able to handle the truth?

Good question! I did similar things with you, "don't lie" but then "I must lie in the name of goodness". So, maybe we can educate our children first is "don't lie" when they are still too young to know whether is good or not good. Thereafter, if they already mature enough to understand which is good and which is bad, we can explain "it's OK to lie in the name of goodness", although good or bad is like a thin line. Thanks.

Yeah it is that lies to make someone happy its not wrong but don't guide your childs to lie, teach them to say truth always. Try to make them honest. hahahahah not like you.... just kiding.

My brother went through this with his son when he was around 4 years old. My brother had preached over & over to the boy that under NO reason should he lie. Then they were walking down the street & this butt ugly woman approached them. Yes, you guessed it, the son looked up & said...boy are you ugly. My brother apologized to the woman, took his son to the car & began to lecture him on being polite to people...ie not telling them they were ugly. His son looked up at him all confused & replied But Dad, you told me to NEVER lie & she was ugly. My brother was speechless for a bit. He then tried to explain the difference between lying & being polite. He told him he still should NEVER tell a lie; however, if the truth was going to hurt the other person's feelings, then he should just say NOTHING unless pushed into a corner & at that point he should say something polite which was different from a lie. The kid sighed & said make up your mind Dad. His Dad told him to practice being polite for a while & he'd guide him on the difference between a lie & being polite!!! The BEST way to deal with it is to be the person you want your child to be...they learn from example!!! I don't care how many times you tell them it is wrong to lie; if they see you lying, they are just going to lie!!! After all, they learn from the master!!! I don't remember ever being confused over the difference between lying & being polite. I guess it just comes natural for some kids!!!!

Well it is fine to lie once in a while, especially if it saves someone's feelings from getting hurt. But don't tell your children that now if they are very small. These things are better when taught later in life to children. Let them live in innocence and honesty for now.

it's a matter of discretion, lol! but the truth is that telling a lie sometimes is necessary depending on the situation, time, people involved and the circumstances that abound the truth. i guess in due time, children would realize the necessity to lie as it tends to justify the means with the end result of giving favor to others appropriately.

You can explain your children that some innocent lies are accepted when the purpose of the lie is to save someones feelings. You can give them some proper examples so that they won't figure anything wrong about this. A good example is (but make sure your wife is not there when you explain this to your children) when you tell your wife that she seems she has been loosing weight. You know this is a lie, but if this innocent lie makes her feel beautiful, why not?

Don't tell a lie. it's not good for your child's psycology and their development. better silent than tell a lie.

To be always honest is not right sometimes so teach your children there is no harm in telling small lies which can make others happy.

if you are honest to your child. you have given them learning that to be honest is a goodness