When A Friend Starts Tons of Discussions And You Have No Responses For Him/Her

Well this may sound rude sweetie, but i only respond to those i can or have something to say or advice or whatever. Anyway, it's not easy to respond to all as i don't know everything. Thank God for that.

Hello dear Sids! I missed you friend! I was actuaally looking for your reply in one of my discussions,lol! Well,the topic is about an Indian neighbor and I know you'll make sense in that topic(do I sound like asking you to participate,haha!) but I understand why you are less active these days. Sadly,am guilty of what you've said. I wanted to reply but as you said,it wont make any sense in his/her discussion. But I still see to it that it wont be like that as always. I may not respond to his/her 10 discussions but I might on the succeeding posts,haha! But to my bestfriends here,even if I don't make sense at all,as much as possible,I do make a reply,lol! Hope to see you more often friend! Take care!

you are such a kind mylotter to even feel guilty about it. kidding aside, sometimes, it just kills me to find discussions that appeared not written with thought but just to have a discussion that will earn money. i know it is one of the goals here - to earn money, but i have this strong conviction that we also have to be 'relevant' in a way (though i am not real;y that conscious about it) or to make the experience for each mylotter worth it. what i mean is, other mylotters should learn from the discussions that we post, and far better, let their creative juices come out of what is best to respond to be able to help in the discussion. i feel you. i understand. it could really get boring at times and sad. cheers!

Sid beta I am thinking of deleting many friends, who never respond to my discussions, though i respond to almost each and every discussions by them, except the 'generic type' and the one liners. What gives me pain is, some have no time to read my discussions, you know most are lengthy, but they respond, the response has no meaning at all.. Today i am feeling so tired. Blessings. Thanks for this nice and timely discussion. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. .

Unfortunately,i don't always respond to some of my friends discussions, for the same reasons you mention here.I feel if i can't contribute anything of value,or i'm not familiar with the subject, i rather not respond at all. That's why i do understand why some of my friends won't respond to some of my discussions as well and though i may feel badly about this,i realize it may be for the same reasons i mentioned above. As far as what i do about this,there isn't much i can do except hope they understand i'm not just ignoring them or think their discussion is not worth responding to, which isn't the case at all, i simply can't think of a quality response and would rather just skip it

I also have a few friends who post many discussions,and the truth is that many of them involve issues I'm not interested in or I know too little about,so in these cases,with all the respect to those friends,I simply don't post any answer to their discussions,I prefer to respond to respond to discussions started by people who aren't my friends,but which are closer to my interests because I think that is the honest thing to do in these situations.Anyway,I don't take any actions,I just answer some of their discussions,not all in any case, and I hope they don't mind and understand my position.

I know how you feel. I have friends here who seems to be enjoying posting a lot of varied topics, though some of them are quite good, most of them are just topics that don't require you to talk alot about, it's more of a poll or a survey type of question. Some are about ranting and tongue-lashing on someone which brings about more negativity that helping out the situation. Which I too don't have any idea how to react or respond to. Though there are some friends who, though have opened a lot of topics, still give their personality to them by truly expressing how they feel instead of just asking everyone but not answering their own questions. As for not knowing how to respond and the thought of deleting them, I don't think you should stress yourself out for not being able to respond to them. You are in no way required to respond to anything that you don't feel you have the capacity to talk about. Neither does it say that in order to keep friends you need to respond to each discussion they start. So take it easy. Have a great MyLot experience!

I think you should look through all the discussions and not just your friends discussions. Yes, you might have a sort of loyalty to your friends to try and post on their discussions, but if you don't have anything that would really help further the discussion then what it the point? I think you should just search more discussions and find ones that interest you and that you can add content to. Good luck! :)

I accept all the friend requests i am sent in order to be friendly.However i have turned off the notifiers from my friends list.I find it more important whether the discussion interests me and i can answer the question well and not whether it was started by one of my friends.Though i regularly check the friends section to see if any of my friends have started a discussion that interests me.

thesids - first point..I have about 400 friends out here. Even if 50 of them start a discussion each day, I wont be able to respond. This would be more true on the days I have started my own discussion. And some of these friends may start more than one discussion on one day as I did today. I fail my friends. I tend to attend to as many as is feasible and I hope friends forgive me. There are times I have left myLot because what I typed doesnt get posted. At other times Internet fails me, or it could be power. We have to do our best within these constraints. No friend is going to feel bad if you dont respond to their discussions. And think of it like this. You and me are not hundred percent alike. Out of 25 percent that I know you, I might be able to identify with 5 or 10 percent. Obviously I would respond only to that extent. Its true in reverse as well. It is simply not obligatory that we respond a 100 percent to all our friend's discussions. And you would be no less a friend too. Imagine I start a discussion, I get a 50 responses, and I spend some time responding to 50 of my friends, effectively a 100 responses in a day!!! Humanly impossible. Yes, at times there are interesting discussions that friends start but we cant respond in time. It lands in third or fourth page because of new discussions. We end up responding to interesting ones in the new lot and fail to catch up. Its all in the game kiddo. You dont have to feel guilty about that!!!

Hi Sid, Mostly our friends will realise from the percentage of comments what they receive from others. As you said, most of the people just 'ignore' the discussion, he or she will realise there may be some problem within their topics. In my case also, if it a topic from 'out of syllabus', simply ignore is the best solution for it. If the discussion topic is non relevant or not upto the mark, people won't waste time on it. So it is natural that they will receive less comments and automatically will realise the impact. Thank-s

Hello Thesids, My answer to your question is 'ignore'. I wish I was able to add something of value to each of my friends' discussions but this is beyound my capabilities. I hope my friens understand me as well as I understand them.

Hi sid... I guess I am the same way with all friends. I mean I only respond in discussions of friend or other which are suitable for me. I mean without having proper words for any discussion I don't want to jump in them for sure. So whenever i found such discussions i just ignore the discussion (not friend) and wait for their other discussion which can be solve by my mind.

It seems to me that you are a person that shows consideration for others'feeling.In this matter you seems to be in no way to blame. In fact,nobody can response to all mylot friends' discussions one by one.I have lost count of how many discussions my mylot friends have posted every day.To be honest,for many discussions my friends have posted,I cann't get a word in edgeways,because I have no clue.However,so long as I know a few streaks about that,I should do my best to make a response .

Hi sid bhai...seeing u after many days...i am not in routine with mylot...i peep sometimes and again vanish...i was wondering why you are not seen these days..but you are ok and no problems thats a great news for me...i just don't think about whom to respond ...what to write and what not...i just open the mailbox, and my closest friend get the response first..its so simple...

Hi Sids I have a couple of friends that start tons of discussions and a lot of them are ones that I just have nothing to add to. I don't stress about it. Not all of my friends respond to my discussions and I don't expect them to. Some friends I tend to bump into more on other discussions than I do theirs or mine. It's all ok.

Hi thesids! I know exactly what you mean. I have read discussions before and even went back to them again the next day trying to think of how I would respond..lol..sometimes..I just can't. It's not that I don't want to..I love my friends and I love being a part of their discussions...there are just some that I can't add to. I usually hope that they understand. I know that all the discussions I start might not apply to everyone no matter how much I try. I think that most myLotters do understand. I am usually very happy to see them able to respond versus thinking harshly towards the friends that can't respond at the moment. I'm sure they do when they can..just like me.

Hello thesids, I used to complain a lot with people who makes a lot of discussions. but i never really rant about it "except the fact that they didn't comment on them". some users out there creates so many discussion and doesn't comment on either one or two responses. with that regard i decided to have them off my list since they just collect responders. If you're gonna PM me about limiting my discussions, i don't think i can do that. the only thing that i've been doing over teh past three years was to let go what's on my mind. something that i can't do in the real world. so, am sorry if you feel annoyed by me making too many topics, because it's what I want, then i comment on all of them even though it's not immediately. what else is there if i can't let it all out.. you can always turn off you're notifications if you want. i have learn to get on with the tons of discussons. which is why i decided not to look them on the email..

Well I think you are in very much of pain because you do not want to say very simple, "No More" being a nice guy you try your level best to help those who need your help. I think and mostly I call it help too when you give a reply to your friends post even your mind and hear t relate to it or not. So I will request to your all friends please give thesids a break so he will be able to not break your hearts. I know he will not ever but.........don't you think enough is enough?

Hi Sidd, If I can't respond I just don't. =) It doesn't effect how I feel about a particular friend. It just means I don't have nothing valuable to add, or that someone else already responded the way I would of responded so I skip over it. I don't expect my friends to respond to all of my discussions either. In the end we respond to what we can, and ignore what we can't. It doesn't change the virtual friendships we have created. =)