the boy I liked before.....

In this situation, you must reassess your values. Don't commit or do something that is against your values unless you have thought of it many times. :)

I think, if you are bothered of your situation right now, you need to talk to him. If you do that, all things will be clear for you and for him. It doesn't mean that if you talk to him again means that you are accepting again, no, it's not, what i mean is that just give it a try. Do not be so mean to him for the reason that he has a son already. If you could hear his side, i believe you can understand and when that time come, you can do the best solution and never be worried or angry again.

it depends on the cultures and also religions but for me, if he take responsible to take care his son, he would be a nice guy..

i think u should ask him in detail if that is truth u don,t care about him and what ever in u r heart tell him and u left him forever

I agree with others opinion. You're dealing with different cultures and values. If its against what you believe in, then don't. Unless you give it a try, you won't know what will happen. But you should consider the risks, you're old enough to be responsible for your own actions. At the end of the day, it will be only you who can slve it. Whatever decision you make, if it turns out good, then lucky you. But if it turns out bad, just charge it to experience and you learned a lesson. Whichever you choose, don't regret it. Regret makes us old. Whatever the outcome is surely it will make you a better person. Don't forget to pray and ask for guidance. You will never go wrong.

Well, dear, is not that right but if you are shocked you are shocked. So maybe you need time. But don't you want to talk to him anymore? I wanted to answer this discussion SPECIALLY for the fact, GIRL! What hell is this " I felt shy because I am not beautiful and gorgeous"??? :D Pleeease! Don't ever think like that again!! Do you really thing gorgeous sl*tsss are loved? They never are? Why do you think Marilyn Monroe killed her self? She looked for love giving her body. Megan Fox is becoming hated to the majority because all she tried to do was talk bad things and make others feel unconfortable before trying to be at least a little good actress. But they are also plastic surgery insecure gals. Women of all kinds, of all races, colors, skinny or over weight (but what is the right weight? I tell you, none) well for society standards, why there are women out of the pattern that can have a boyfriend just like that? Have friends that are guys and are just nearby waiting... By society they are not hollywood stars, but they are so confident with what they are inside that they become irresistible. Please girl, don't ever say or think like that, I felt really moved. You are GORGEOUS the way you were born.

Hmm... actually, to me, I think that... revelation... shows honesty. He didn't try to hide the fact from you. (Did he?) Of course I may be wrong, you know him better than I do, but telling you that seems to show that he has good intentions. However, I understand your concerns about what your family would think. Talk to them. Find out what they really think about the situation instead of just guessing and assuming. As for the guy having a child early and out of wedlock... does that make him a bad person? I don't necessarily think so. Since he seems willing to talk about it, discuss it with him, what happened, the circumstances... who knows maybe you will find it in your heart to understand and accept him in spite of his past... Hope you figure out what to do and it all works out.

Hi squarepants i think you did the right thing because in INDIA too more or less this is not good to have a child before marriage. Here in this part we do have this sort of culture where cannot accept it.But really you should have asked the boy & discuss what the reason that had a child before marriage. Once he gives reply as per your satisfaction then accept him otherwise stay away from him in future.