My boyfriend ex gave him a message in facebook, what should i do?
By lovebugjess
@lovebugjess (262)
Philippines
June 7, 2011 8:52am CST
i just recently open my email in yahoo when i notice that there is a facebook notification that says there is a message from his ex girlfriend.
he uses my email add to create his own facebook, and i don't open his facebook because i really respect his privacy and i want him also to do the same with me but the thing is i really hate that girl :( hehehe.
Should I tell him or just stay calm and let him open his facebook and let him figure it himself? besides he doesn't know i know because i read it in my yahoo email.
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7 responses
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Hi there!
I just want to know what sort of message she sent? Is it just asking how he is or some other thing that smells fishy?LOL! You know, my boyfriend also receives message from his exes(there are several of them) but I don't feel jealous unlike before because he lets me read it and as long as the message doesn't mean anything like missing him or something, then there's nothing to worry about. You should also wait for your boyfriend to mention it to you first, that is if you can wait.
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@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
this is the message:
Hi there! how are you? so when is the wedding?
well i know there is nothing to worry about but i really hate this girl and my boyfriend shows how he really love me but i still don't like her.
Before i met my boyfriend she and i are good friends actually, but as the time goes by she change a lot and then i met his boyfriend that is now my boyfriend she still want him so we decided to transfer from other places now again she contact him again.;(
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@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Oh, I see. She's maybe checking out if you're married already with each other. Well, as per my suggestion, you can wait for your boyfriend to mention it to you. Maybe he can open his FB with you at his side and then he can check it out and you can pretend surprised about the message.
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@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
7 Jun 11
I would wait out the storm and see if he mentions it when he opens his Facebook.
My boyfriend could really care less about the internet and Facebook so I don't have to worry about things like that.
I have a Facebook but it's filled with my friends from high school and my family. I understand wanting to respect his privacy but I would also be interested in what she had to say.
Hopefully he mentions it, if now I would mention it. But that's just me.
My boyfriend could really care less about the internet and Facebook so I don't have to worry about things like that. I have a Facebook but it's filled with my friends from high school and my family. I understand wanting to respect his privacy but I would also be interested in what she had to say. Hopefully he mentions it, if now I would mention it. But that's just me. @lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
okay in short i have to wait, well let's see i'll wait i know he will gonna open up his facebook later when he will come home ;)
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
There is no need to be secretive about this, if you are bothered by it. Your boyfriend used your email address to create his facebook account so he knows (or SHOULD know) that notifications are going to that address. If he had something to hide, he wouldn't be giving you access to that kind of thing.
Just ask him directly, without accusing him of doing anything wrong. Something like: "Oh, by the way, I saw a notification in my email that you got a message from "Jane"... what did she want?" It's a very simple, direct question and there is no reason that he should be offended or not want to answer you.
Also, if you already went ahead and read the message without him knowing (which I assume you didn't do because you say you respect his privacy) and he tells you the exact same thing you saw, he's telling you the truth :)
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@IAMBATMAN101 (186)
• United States
11 Jun 11
Hello there! Hmmm id ask him what's up and why he's still getting messages from his ex and why she's still on his facebook! Specially if he knows you hate her that's not right! Plus she's got not reason to be messaging him just outta the blue I say you find out what's going on before anything serious happens mmmhm yes goodluck!
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
8 Jun 11
I suggest you to keep quit and not to talk about this to your hubby other wise whatever the secret, if, he is telling you will never tells you and can't say he may coolly denied it also.
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@david2000 (97)
• Singapore
7 Jun 11
I think you should hint him whether she messaged him. If your boyfriend lie, than something is wrong. I think there should be mutual trust between you and your boyfriend as that is what a relationship is all about. Have some trust in your boyfriend! Anyway i think you should leave it, your boyfriend knows u hate the girl, so he probably not talk to her much.
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