Why are people so controlling?...

It can be a naturally thing. For men for example, there will always be some considered a natural alpha male, though indirect, it is very obvious in some crowds. As the "undeclared alpha male" he will naturally be controlling without noticing. I would assume that it is similar for females. It can be unnatural when people were deprived of certain things growing up, or still is deprived and therefore in order to feel better, they act as a leader or boss that always gives direction. In some cases people that were deprived of opportunities will try to push those missed opportunities to even their emotions out. Also in some cases, people who are deprived want to give their children for example more, and though they push and push, and as annoying it may seem, it would be best for their children, sometimes worst (like mothers that push their children to be models etc.). It is best though when children are pushed for success like "go work hard, so you can go to this college/university" In this case they are just looking out for you and what is best for you, especially when you parents did not have people to push them growing up, and have sacrificed many in order for you to succeed, so do not waste it.

It's very clearly that they just don't know what are they saying, about live YOUR life. I think that when they tell you to live YOUR life, and then they try to make decisions and live it for you, they event still don't live or can not live their own life. Anyway, if you can understand that you should live your life, just do it. Don't mind what they tell you to do.

People are scared of loosing control! They don't want to see other people making their mistakes. Everyone want perfect life for them and for the people they love so sometimes you have to be controlling to have everything like you want it to be. My mother was'n controlling at all and i did'n know what to study after i graduate and i end up working and loosing years that i could be in university! Now i study but i lost so much time and opportunities. It depends from the situation :)

When you come to the point where the decisions to be made are those that will affect or shape you for the rest of your life, then I think you would have to be the one making that decision. Of course, you can listen to the people around you and take into consideration their advice, but still you make the final decision. Those around you who seem so controlling maybe just want what's best for you too... but sometimes they end up imposing their own dreams for you on you, or they still think they know best and feel compelled to 'guide' you. Make a stand and make your own decision, because you are the one who's going to live this life.

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because you know everyone wanna be respected and if this person doesn't have enough respect they make some other guys respect him by controlling the other person... well that's what i think

Well, if you allow them to control you, these people might be around doing it to those they can control. We should always remember that there are no controlling individuals if we will not allow them to do that to us. I don't like people who always tell me what to do. I have my own brain to make a decision of my own.

Age is no criteria to say when a person can make decisions. The person will know when or whether he or she is able to decide for oneself. I agree with you that it can be quite confusing when so many try to tell you what to do and what not to do.

I think, when you see yourself responsible enough to deal with life's various situations, you can also decide for yourself already. You don't have to conform to what others tells you to do. Have things your own way, if you think it wll do you good. Remember, it is still you in the end who will suffer the consequences if ever.