How do you talk to someone depressed?

It is indeed sad that when it comes to differences between a couple no one can help them except a marriage counselor. You could suggest that to her and also inform her that trip is not important at all but their relationship is.

when it comes to marital problems, and you're a friend who wants to help, that indeed is a difficult position to be in. Even though it's a private matter, as a friend you're still supposed to help her right? I guess the least that you could do is to not leave her side and not make her feel abandoned. You should at least be able to lend an ear to listen to her problems. That would at least (again) somehow make her burden lighter.

Its best to have some leisure time with her and then get into some serious talk. Make her comfortable , so that your friend will open up her heart. Try to understand the problem without criticizing her. If the issue is with her then make her to understand and accept it . Give some good solution . Marriage and relationship is all about sharing and forgiving .

I would suggest that you just talk postive and uplifting these to her. Listen to her talk, because sometime people just want someone that will listen to them. Explain to her that you don't really know how to handle this situation because you have never had that problem. That you can't tell her what she should do because don't want to lead her in the wrong direction. Let her know that you will be there with her no matter how the situation turn out. And last but least that you will pray for her, that God will give her the strength and courage to get through this.

Hi! I think it is best to listen to somebody who is depressed and keep your company with her. If she asks for advise then you should give her a good one in your perspective. Help her divert her thoughts to better things.

most of the people start having a good life immediately after marriage and when this state of the husband consoling the wife or vice versa occurs they think their marriage is not working out anymore hence they themselves break their relationships. i think thats exactly what is happening here to your friend. i understand the mental pain that are caused by your spouses are more hurting than the physical pains usually suffered.As what others said as a true friend she needs you now with her and try analysing the whole scene and figure out who the real culprit is and try sorting things out . patience ans letting the person involved to know that you still care for them will solve things even easier

maybe just keep their company and let them talk. just be there and listen, and let them talk it out, whatever is bother them.

I'd guess she just wants someone to listen to her without needing any advice. She obviously feels comfortable with you and trusts you if she feels she can open up to you in this way. I don't think there's anything (apart from be a listening ear) you can actually do or advise her to do, simply because it's something she and her husband have to work out for themselves. I hope she finds happiness soon. and that if she does offload on you a lot, it doesn't get too difficult for you to cope with.

I don't know. We can give advises but only she can make an initiative to do it. i wonder how the fight is going and what the issue are they fighting with? they should have marriage consultation, for me that's the solution that they can come up with to settle what ever problems they both have. besides i am single. they have issues that only they can solve.

For me i want to said that prayed it to Jehovah God and ask him that it is your feeling right now so have faith to vain your heart.

Hmm... I don't think you have to also be married to be able to sympathize with a friend having marital troubles. And also maybe it is not really necessary to give advice. Just be there to listen and comfort. I think that is already something.

Just be a good listener and give advice if she ask you to. I know it's hard to give advice to a married friend if you yourself are not married. I once had that experience when my friend and her husband are about to get separated and I just listened to her and give a good advice which I think it's right even though I having been in that stage in life. But based on my observation of other families or in the movies. I gave her a good advice. I know you'll do well... just be with her always... ^_^

the best thing you can do now is try to encourage and motivate her. let her know that sometimes things do happen for a reason and there is always a light at the end of every tunnel.

You can't really talk to her 100% because I think that whatever you do say will just go from one ear and out to the other. She's pretty depressed right now and you don't really need to say anything much. The best that you can do is to support her and to always be there for her. Just really be reliable and try to cheer her up. Good Luck and I hope your friend gets better.

As friend best thing you can do is listen, she needs someone who is not involved in her marriage to listen and marital problems do arise in every relationship but having a friend and talking to her is form of catharsis and it helps to put things in perspective. I have friends too with whom I talk and unburden myself. I know they can't solve my problems for me but it just helps to talk and relive myself and then go back and try and sort out the mess we create m not everything you can share in family.

Hi Laydee, Sometimes when a person is going through a hard time, they just need someone to hear them out and let them vent....maybe a hug. Definitly hugs. They always help. Divorce is very painful but the issues and days leading up to it are maybe more painful, I think. There isn't a lot you could say to make her feel any better about her situation and I'm sure she isn't looking for you to help her solve or fix things. Just let her know that you are there for her as a friend.

Yes in your case that you do not yet experience the marital life is too difficult to handle that situation. The only thing that you can do is to listen to her and try to comfort her in her agony but be patient. That kind of person who has that emotion is sometimes moody. But they're need the shoulder to cry on like a friend. And this is your duty as her friend. Try to tell her that the things are going to be fine. Tell her patiently that being a wife is not easy and sometimes this is goin to ups and down of life. If she has kids tell her to think about their kids and have patience to all what happens. But if the case is severe well before she decide try to think more and consider many things around her family. THings may become nore complicated to a wrong decision. You know this kind of life is not easy so my advice to you is before you go into this situation as now you are single , try to look first if you are ready.

All you can do is listen to her. Just tell her to be strong. It's really not much you can say because when someone is in that state they are hurting and time can only heal there pain.

marriage is beautiful, make lasting marriage. all the problems there must be a solution. mutual self refelction.

problems are always there even if you don't wish for it.. it always comes along.. the best thing you can help your friend is to keep on listening on her and maybe suggest some things that can make her smile even for once..