What will you do if this happened to you?

Philippines
June 8, 2011 2:13am CST
My husband has 3 siblings. He is the eldest. The problem occurred between him and the 4th sibling, their youngest. Here's what happened: One day, the 3 brothers (their sister was not present at that time), were at the restaurant of the 2nd to the eldest. The two were talking about business. The youngest didn't pay them any attention. He just went pass them while getting his dinner. Then my husband called the youngest brother's name because he just wanted to speak to him. The youngest brother snapped at my husband so suddenly, in front of many people in the restaurant. He said that all my husband does was reprimand him about anything he does. Then he walked out. You see, of all the siblings, my husband was the nicest to him. My husband paid his tuition fee back in college, bought him everything he wants and needs. My husband was the only one he can lean on because all their siblings hate the youngest and also gave him that water station business. My husband even pays for his rent. Then he just snapped at my husband even though my husband was only calling him smilingly. What I hate about the youngest is that he has no respect for his brothers and sister. My husband only advises him, he has never shouted at their youngest. That's why I just can't let this matter go. You know what, he never apologized! My husband's other brother, the second to the eldest,was also there and was shocked at his attitude. Just recently, when his sister was advising him about running a business (the sister manages my husband's business) he told his sister to back off. He said that she's just like the eldest, always meddles in his affairs. So the sister said, "If you don't appreciate it, then I won't advise you anymore." And now he is acting as if nothing happened. He comes here, laughs, talks about online games with my husband and sister, he goes back to his home, never talks to his other brother and he never apologized to what he's done. How I hate him!
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5 responses
Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
So childish and such a spoiled brat. He's just used to all the attention that people are giving him. He's used to all the love and care and he knows that no matter what he does, they're still there for him as his family. So sad that he hasn't matured yet. May i ask how old is he? I think your husband should also try to discipline him and not to let it pass as well. You said that he's there in your house and talks to your husband as if nothing happened. It seems that your husband didn't mind what the youngest did to him at all too and if he continues to act like that then the youngest wouldn't bother to apologize as well. So i think that your husband should do something about this. It's his brother. Sometimes my husband's youngest brother acts the same way and i really hate it when that happens but i never tried to interfere because i did once and i appeared as the wicked sister-in-law. So i just don't mind but when my husband and i are alone, i try to voice out my opinion and sometimes we end up arguing because he's telling me that i'm blaming his parents for raising an irresponsible child.
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rhejans
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hi LilacFaye, I can see a BIG picture on what you've said. I guess your brother-in-law was spoiled by your husband. You should open up this to your husband. Tell him he spoiled his brother so much. He maybe wants to create a perfect world to his brother and think that it can be done by only providing him a material comfort, and accepting whatever behavior of his brother. He want his brother to have everything he didn't have and end up succumbing to every whim of his brother. What he don't know is that by doing this, he actually spoiling his brother future. the child who get spoiled in the childhood tend to become whiney as they grow old and are unable to handle challenges. At times, they turn out to become losers also. So, Your husband should know how to stop spooling his brother, before its too late. These are the ways i will provide for your husband to his brother. First, Your husband should learn how to say "No" in order to stop spoiling his brother. It is essential that his brother know that he cannot get everything he wish for. The world is not perfect and they need to learn how to cope with disappointment as well. Second, Your husband should Teach the value of hardwork to his brother. Tell his brother that whatever your husband earn comes after a month of toil and a hard work. make his borther learn that his brother work a lot, to keep him happy and provide him with a decent life. He need to learn to respect hard work of his brother. Lastly, Set limit and stick by his brother. set a limit to what his brother can have. For instance, Keep a limit on the money that he spend for his brother. If his brother act persistent, Your husband should stand firm. He should tell his borther that he's acting spoilt and he won't entertain such behavior. I hope everything is not too late. this is for your husband owned good and to your family. I hope everything is not too late. May God Bless your Family.
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anurag3786
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
8 Jun 11
After reading this discussion I feel that there are some problems between siblings. And as you say that the youngest brother slapped to your husband in front of many peoples. So I think it is wrong thing which is done by your husband’s younger brother. And if he has any problem that he should talk to your husband because they are his elder brother. And he doesn’t give respect to your husband even they doing many things for him. I think he should understands them because they doing everything for him.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
I think, it will be best if the girl sibling will be made to talk with the youngest about his actuation on the restaurant. It may just be a passing tantrum to the youngest, but he should be informed that he hurt people when he does so. However, this should be delivered to him in a nice and cool manner, so he will be receptive of it.
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moneyin6
@moneyin6 (14)
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8 Jun 11
Is the youngest brother the most spoiled? It seems that he is used to getting his way. If this is going on too long, all the siblings should get together and have a intervention. If only one talks to him, he might not listen, if all of you talk to him, maybe he will get it and start treating people with respect. Good luck.