How come i can't tell my parents that i love them face to face - word for word-

Sometimes parents don't reply when we told them we love them. There are instances maybe why they failed to reply, maybe there just busy with their work. But for me I need no reply because I know they love me too.Even if they don't say it in front of me directly, still I knew they love me by taking good care of me and supporting me in everything I do. You really dont need to tell them that you love them, its by SHOWING THEM YOU LOVE THEM thats important!

i am same with you.. i also do not express my feeling swell with my parents, my mom specifically because she is not the type to say her feelings too.

I am so sorry to hear this my friend. I am not close to my dad but i can hug and tell him i love you. I understand your feeling since you've said you are brought up that way,and you are right to change that ways with your kids. It is always good to be close and friends with our kids,so when they grow up they can open up their minds and feelings easily with you. I hope and wish that everything will be fine dear...just try to make the first move who knows...they're just waiting for you to hug them.

OK i absolutely know how you feel. I'm the same as you are. I never can or never have said I love them personally. Through letters and texts, yes, but I somehow can't do that in person. I don't know why. I never grew up saying how I felt to them so maybe I feel uncomfortable doing so. I have friends who express their feelings so easily with their parents. With friends I can but not with my parents. But I wish I could.

Hi jazel It is totly right what you say. Even i love my mom very much. but i did not dare to say mom i love you so much

I also love my parents but we are quite a distant family. It's sad and I really want to be closer to them but now it seems like we're all living our own lives in different ways. It's hard but I do love them very much. I wish my parents had raised us to be more of an affectionate family. This is definitely something that I will remedy when I get to start a family of my own.

hi jaxel__juan I was also brought up that way. I just do not remember ever being cuddled or hugged. I know my mom often told me she was proud of something I did but she never touched me. I found it hard then to be outgoing myself but I married a man who did touch when he was happy with you and he showed me how to hug and to kiss. his favorite was kissing the back of my neck. often he did this when i was fixing meals and I had to caution him to be careful or he would make me cut myself when chopping up veggies. lol.I had always wanted to hug my mom but when I tried she pulled back away from me. that hurt.I did hug my little daugher a lot as she was what we called her a cuddle bug but my son was not as accepting of being cuddled but when he hurt himself no matter what age he wanted his mommy and my hug as if that in itself would stop the pain and this bugged my mom as she had tried to comfort him and all he would do was cry I want my mommy. So I hurried to my mom's house,took my son in my arms, and kissed his boo boo. He quit cryng then and let me look at his wound. I grabbed him, called a cab, and pushed into my doctor's office to get a gaping would stitched up. My doctor let us in ahead of other patients as the wound was deep and bleedingt. Of course the doctor deadened it first then sewed it up with me holding my12 year old son in my arms.

I totally understand what you are feeling and saying here; I went through the identical situation with my mom, dad was never in the home, but he tried later to have a relationship with me, too late!However, my mom was not the hugging kissing type of mom. She worked, give us children orders, and give us the necessaries to survive, such as a roof over our heads, food, and clothes, that was it. It all turned out good in the end, because we all grew up and moved far away, some even moved out of the country; then she wanted to communicate but never saying I love you. I remember not going home to visit for five years after leaving and when I did things started to be different, for the better. Mom was very tense when we tried to kiss her, but soon start accepting the fact that we do love her and kissing her was just one way to show it. Like you said, when you are brought up as a child not to show affection, (you mother was probably not shown affection)you don't know how to show it. You did what I did when I had my children, because I missed out on the hugs and kisses, I was not going to let them miss out; we are a hugging, kissing family. Your children will be better humans just because they are loved and are not afraid to show their affect for another person; the cycle had to be broken and you have done that with your children. I would just tell the parents you love them, even if there is not response, this way there will be no regrets when they are gone.

hi! here in our province, we were also raised like that, that's why we can't even speak our self to our parents. we cannot declare our disapproval over their decisions that is why sometimes we become rebellious. but somehow we know they love us though they don't often say they love us, but on their actions we can simply see it or feel it. this kind of parents strongly believed that action speaks louder than words. but of course, we need to hear it from them too because it will be the sweetest thing we could hear from them. maybe just keep on telling them while doing it in action, don't expect them to do the same in order for you not to be hurt, just bear in mind that, that is how they are and they love you that much. i am sure they do. at least you tell them how you love them, I'm sure time will come they will utter you the same words. and you are doing good job to your kids, they will surely tell their feelings to you freely, they will tell you whatever it is because they know you can understand them.

I also feel this way. I guess it's because we were raised this way. I would say my parents are disciplinarians who were always aloof at home. Growing up, I always tried to withhold my emotions and opinions for fear of being reprimanded.

Same thing here they never tell me they love me although well i can tell you that am pretty sure every parent loves their son or daughter unconditionally

Maybe because of too much familiarity and we're shy to say that we love them very much. I can just say how much they love me through giving gifts and through cards. Im also shy to give them a hug.

most of the children are ashamed to tell their parents that he or she loved them but once you will do it it was a extremely satisfying feeling that it cant be paid.. i tried it thats why o can said it dont be afraid do it ...

this will really be weirdly hard to do, but i must congratulate you already for planning to do this. the most important thing is for you to feel the person that you love him or her. words may come or not to express your feelings...but indeed feelings can be expressed without words nor actions..feelings can be felt...it is timeles and spaceless..

Well..I have a style on how my mother could open me in that thing. Before, I am really shy and ashamed showing my care and love for them. I can not even tell in text especially in person. I have a bestfriend, who's very opened with her parents. They kiss in the cheeks when they see and leave each other. They also said "I love you Mommy!!" I asked my bestfriend If she doesn't feeling any awkward. She answered me her parents is the one who trained them to be opened and anything and also to show they love and care.I asked my bestfriend to teach me,then he told me I just show it in a kidding way until I will became natural to me. Then I tried, I just kidding my mom saying I love you and sometimes give her a hug and kiss.Until, I used to it and I was able to do it.Now, I do not feel any awkward showing my love and care especially to kiss and say I love you.The best thing was my mom also do the same thing with laugh and kiss in a kidding way. I was very happy that now, It's better to show them how you love and care even sometimes you have made their day bad.But, I can't do that in my father because first,he is far away from us.Second, I am feeling awkward to do it because his a serious man and I can't make a joke on him that's why I kidding him in that way.