love hurts
By krieyszel
@krieyszel (330)
Philippines
June 8, 2011 11:41am CST
What do you do when you thought your ex- boyfriend loved you even once in almost three years.When you have fight for him in your parents, sacrificed a lot just for him,you did and showed you loved him in his family and also in your friends and family.But you were long distance relationship.And jut for one mistake you did when you were new together.That you had a boyfriend also and he let you choose where to be with and I was mistaken to choose the other which I didn't love.Then, from that time on he he showed that he cares and love you, but the truth was he wanna make revenge on me.He really planned to fooled me, hurt me and use me (to demand things),he can't even make sacrifices and effort to me.His only good in his words on his sweet lies.He just seldom to make communication to you, and you he was able to reach it in three years to fooled me and I just knew it now.
When I really find a way to know the truth..I, his girlfriend and him were talking on phone then, he proudly say he didn't, never loved me. He just make me wait and make me believed that he really loves me even it's not.And to say it to me, that he is very serious with his girlfriend which they about to be together in one year.All the efforts and sacrifices,he bought anything to that girl,he was the one to pay for everything fare, cellphone load and etc. He also let that girl sleep in their house.He always call the woman asking if the girl were able to got home.He is also very jealous if who's with that girl.He always find way to comfort that girl and to see that girl.
Which I?he never did just one thing that I've mentioned.I was hurt so much, when I just knew it for after three years.I don't know where could I begin to move on.He just even laugh at me when I cried and happy to tell me he was very happy to revenge on me.And now he doesn't care at all to me.
So sucks, I really loved him but he just cheated and fooled me just to revenge on me.I can't help myself but to cry.For three years I loved him,I did everything just for him and for years also he was just making revenge on me and make me believed.I am very broken and hopeless.
What should I do?please...I need your advice badly.
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6 responses
@amit4kool (32)
• India
9 Jun 11
Hi.. I understand its too tough to come out of it...but 3 years its a big time... u didn't even got a clue that he is cheating you.. its strange.. but ok .. now it happened you can't go three years back to change your mistake.. but let me tell you.. the specialty of life is you can always start new beginning from now..just think that .. the person who don't even care for you.. its useless to think about him.. and i know this also very well that you are feeling shattered that u did lots of things for him... but let me suggest you forget everything and do such great thing in life that when that person see your potential he will regret that he did wrong.. make him realize .. just be happy... live your every moment of life like this is last moment to live.. whatever potential you have use it positively.. please its my request.. discover potential in yourself.. enhance it .. bring in front of the people.. be happy please.. because more u feel like sad people will laugh behind you.. they will listen and discuss and then forget.. remember my words no one sit near to you in your pain.. but when you gain something everyone will come to you to enjoy.. please don't waste this life for this silly thing.. and remember my these words everything happens for good sake.. you will find much more good person because god has chosen someone for you.. wait for him to come... take care of yourself
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Yeah right..how stupid it's really 3 years?Imagine ?how was able to fooled me in that long and also I was so damn stupid to make believed even though I felt it.I was blinded with my wrong love.Yeah, he doesn't deserved me and my love.Well, past is past.I will prove to him I was right leaving him and I'll make sure he can't even reach me.
@amit4kool (32)
• India
20 Jun 11
Hi.thanks for your response..and I wish that you live your life happily and find a good person as your life partner.. please take care of yourself..
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I understand how you are feeling right now krieyszel. There are things like that but try to think on this that because of those heartaches it will really help us to grow as a better individual. Think also that God has always a purpose why we are experincing all those sufferings in life. For as long as we know how to control our emotions and we learn to realize that we are not alone things will be fine. Try to divert your mind thinking of those problems in life. You take care and remember Jesus loves you.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
That's my believed also that is why God give us these trials because he know we can handle and for us to grow up as individuals.I also believed everything happened for a purpose. And In every reaction, there is an opposite reaction.In every circumstances is an experience.Life is just an explore, experience and learn.That's how life is.yeah, but still we can't avoid and prevent to get hurt.We known this already,but still we get hurt.Simply because, this defines life.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
8 Jun 11
Not much that can be done, what do you feel like doing? Need to cry? go ahead, it is valid, maybe even necessary.
But don't extend your pain, and I don't mean go ahead and look for another boyfriend already.
Just right now that you feel like you can't fall any deeper, start rising again and be the person that you know you are, do whatever it is that usually made you happy before you knew this person.
A lot of people will tell you to do this and that, but the only right thing to do is whatever you feel like doing that makes you feels better.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Yeah..I really wanted to shout and throw those fragile things and cry out loud.I wanted to release the pain and burden that I have.I want to let go, of all my heavy feeling.I wanna be alone and recall the let go of the pains.I will do my best that the pain will surely gone away and try to move on again.
Yeah right, I can live without him and I will.Even though I've been fooled and never loved.I have to accept and forgive even he didn't asks.I will doing this, for my family friends and the people loves me.
The people surrounds me loves me so much and don't want me to be forever's blue.They want me to continue my life and be happy.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I know that we don't have any idea of what you're going through. However, remember that as long as you're alive there is hope. You may have done something wrong with your life - you have wasted time for someone who doesn't deserve you. But I do hope that you have learned to listen to people more and fight for someone who could do the things that you did for him.
That guy is obviously not really into you. But you just closed your eyes and followed your heart all the way. Perhaps the next time around, you should wake up and not only follow your heart but also listen to what your mind is telling you.
All I can tell you right now is to have revenge on him. I'm not telling you to make his life a living hell. However, I want you to make him regret ever doing that to you.
How?
First and foremost, you can start by not pitying yourself anymore. You have already wasted 3years with this guy, are you going to waste another year for crying on him?
Get up you butt and stop with the drama. It's time to work out your revenge to him.
Next, make yourself beautiful. When I say beautiful, I mean professional beautiful not slvtty. The type of beauty where men higher than his stature would be attracted to you.
Read more, explore your place more or even find a job that would make you earn more than he could. Show him that you're happy that you are no longer with him. Post photos of you happy with friends and doing just about everything that he and her could only imagine doing.
I tell you, the best way to have revenge is by showing the person that you are not affected. You may have lost the fight of love for him, but you can always show him that he was a mistake. His ego will boost if you keep on crying. His ego will diminish if you become gorgeous and find someone he will never be.
So snap out of the drama girl. Get up and start your revenge!
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Absolutely! we don't know what's happening behind at our back.But live must go on.I all my life I've been doing wrong things because I believed it makes me happier and be more adventure to enjoy life.But I was wrong,That's why not my life is so mess and complicated, I really don't know how to fix it anymore, my cruel world. Which I was not able to notice and realized that ,I wasted so much time of someone stupid and idiot.I really regret so much but what there is no more I can do, the damaged has been done.The only thing I can do Is to move on and do the right things in future.And I was so foolish to fall in love for a guy who didn't show and prove any prove and worst he did love me back after all of what I did to him.
From now on, I will no longer cry for him, I will not chase no more.I prove and show him that I was not hurt anymore and I didn't regret leaving him.
Thank you for your advice I will and the only thing I could say is that "He'll regret fooling me!!!"
Thanks mylotters ;-)
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I can feel your emotions. I know it is not that easy to forget a person especially if this person really marked something in your heart.
I guess the best thing you can do is to move on and keep doing what is right for you. As far as I read your discussion, it seems that this person whom you loved does not really deserve you. He is just fooling you for nothing.
Try forgetting him and do something that would totally erase him in your mind. It is hard to move on if he is still present in your mind.
There are a lot of people out there who is very willing to love you and appreciate you for who you are. It is just a matter of GOD's time. If this happened to you, maybe GOD has a better plan for you, a guy that is truly in love with you.
I hope you can cope up with your emotions. Make yourself busy and put everything into GOD's hands.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I wrote it from the bottom of my broken heart.Yeah! we know the fact it was and never easy to forget someone which you've been attached.I have no choice ,all I should do is to "MOVE ON, LET GO OF ALL THE MEMORIES".Now that, I have found a reason to move on, but it' just that hard for me to accept that for that years long he didn't show a real feeling,even just at least one day he loved me, but he didn't at all.He just played and make me believed in false hope.How I wish I could accept that easily.He did everything for nothing.But well! that's life and always been part in the journey to get hurt and become a better and smarter one.
I am doing my best to divert all my attention as much as I can.Ignoring things which he reminds me of him.I am having fun conversation with my friends.
I always prayed to God to help me to ease the pain and accept because I know,that is the only way for me to be okey.I know in the right time,the wounded heart of mine will be heal.I am not rushing so that, I'll take it slowly but surely.So, that I can assure that nothing will remained at all.And when the next time, we will see each other again.I can give him my pleasing smile to show I am not bitter anymore.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I am still blessed of having a real and loving family and friends.Whom always there for me to cheer up,I can count to and never get tired to help me and give me advices to move on.They always brings me up when I am feeling so down.They give me so much courage and positive life.That's why I still have a reason to live.Boyfriends i just an headache and big destruction.Also for those strangers who just have listened to my burden even they didn't know me but still they help me to give courage and cheer me up.
