On Deleting Friends

I know what you mean. I deleted one just the other day because he/she rarely discussed anything that interested me and then insulted my country. I'm not sure that person meant to insult my country but that was enough for me and that person was deleted. However, I think that's the only friend of mine that showed me any disrespect in the years I've been here. I agree with your reasoning about friends. Having good quality friends is so much better than having quantity!

Yes I have and anniepa is also on my friends list. Like you we have disagreed vehemently on political issues and managed to remain friendly and even found agreement at times. She has earned my respect as she never resorts to name calling or insulting comments. I have also remove people from my friends list as I have even had "??friends??" who will send ugly PMs and that I will not accept.

rushes over to see if I'm still there... phew... lol I did delete one who had been very disrespectful to a friend.

you forgot to delete me. i don't think we ever agree on ANYTHING. if we have please point me in that direction and i'll see what can be done about that.

I just add whoever invites me. If I get a hint that the user is a spammer, I deny the request because there are a lot of spammers here on myLot. I don't want my inbox to get filled with invitations and referral links, that's just annoying.

I have not made conditions on who I add. I welcome all. In my opinion disagreement is the foundation of the search for truth. But when it is constant, perhaps there is something else underneath and deleting might have been the right thing to do. While friends agree to disagree at times, agreeing is the common ground of friendships. Just remind me not to disagree too much with you. lol

I refuse to keep hateful people on my friend list. I also do not keep spammers. I guess that is about it. They do not even have to be hateful to me, they just have to be mean and hateful to others.

i only add friends that i have least 100 by their name. i don't like to add people how don't any numbers because they are trying to get me to join some site to make money with them. as a Money making website owner, I don't want to join anything else, trust me i have a great active downline and some great sites that i promote. i like to add people who are going to best good topics and come here to have a good time.

As I rarely get into controversial discussions, I rarely have to delete people, though I do remember one who was so rude to me on what I do with my dogs, I did end up deleting them. Like you said, they can still pop up, but this person hasn't, no they only popped up when I made a comment in another friends post... I did make a couple replies, but since it wasn't my post, I left it alone..Of course this person had somehow had my comment deleted, why I have no idea other than they read something into it that wasn't there and convinced the admin that it was wrong..

hello debra, I've encountered mylotters in my lists who also disagree with my discussion,but in a friendly manner. There's also instances that one sounds arrogant-but as long as i can tolerate and no "foul words" ever used than i keep my cool- or else simply report to admin,that's the better way. I did delete few in my lists,one reason is ,a mylotter who keep posting topics,but never respond or never care to comment back. Another reason is,a mylotter who skipped and only choose who he/she want's to respond,yes it is their prerogative whether to respond to us or not,but i don't think i should keep someone like that in my lists. If s/he can not inter-act with me or to my responses,no use of keeping in friends lists- what is friend anyway. I also do not respond to topics that i cannot relate with to avoid misunderstanding. It's easier to express our feelings and opinion with topics that we can relate and well understand what the topic starter wants to convey. So,i don't respond to all my friends started topic..and i am sure they understand about it. have a great day always

One cannot get along with everyone and that is a fact but deleting a 'friend' from the friends list will not alter the situation. I never do it. They are there and it is left for me to participate regardless of how many friends I have. As a matter of fact I participate in activities that need not necessarily have any friends in there.

Everyone have self respect. If some one hurt it you have right to take proper action. But remember it is not possible that every one write you which you like. If you don't like comments of any one ignore it.

Hi Deb! I did once not long ago. I hate when she repeating posting discussions about condemning others and never feel thankful for her country. If she don't like her country so much she should not blame it as she live there happily and get enough of everything. I would say that I am disagree with her more than I could agree with her statements. So I decided to deleted her from my friend's list and never meet her till then~

"Have you made conditions on who is added to your friends list?" Dear Debra, I have almost 800 friends. When I first came here I came with no one and as soon as the FR requests started pouring in I began adding everyone. Though I do not condition anyone for two months I am finding it wise not to simply add. Only because of the almost 800 only about maybe 100 are active. Though I am only one person, I do try to keep up with everyone. However, I will not, and never be accused of simply posting, therefore, if I cannot relate to a topic I just cannot respond. So for about two months now I keep them in pending for about a week or so I can see what their activity is like. Most have never interacted with me before and you know how it is when we are searching for a friend on a list it can be a nightmare. I have not had problems with spamming but must add that if anyone does and I nicely ask to please do not and they continue then I will have no choice. As for agreeing to disagree, I live by these words and if the other party does not agree then I will simply ignore. If the person continually seeks me out to deliberately disagree then I will have no choice but to delete and also depending on the nature of the sought out disagreeing may also ask admin to assist. See what a good person you are! You decided it would be best to delete as opposed to continue to disagree, though the person may still seek you out, at least you know it is the person who is intentionally doing this and not that it is coming from you.

I have deleted a few that have sent me inappropriate PM's. But, none because of arguments. Which, I agree would become tiring after awhile. It would be nice if when we delete that we could also have the option to block these people from viewing our discussions.

Well done debra, Friends are for sharing, caring, agreeing, disagreeing and all with valid points. If you say something on a universal topic and I find something missing there (intentional) I would not gear back to say lo lo lo. I will point them out and if they were unintentional you have to accept the mistake. If on the contrary you start beating about the bush how come I would convey my ideas to you. Mine too getting too much crowded and sit down one evening and see who is not there more than a year.

To delete or not to delete... I think part of what becomes an issue is that many of us forget that this is an online discussion forum, that no matter what we personally believe or do not believe has no affect on others, other than that which they allow it to have. We here at Mylot are an extremely diverse group, we come from all over the globe with different cultures and experiences, which in turn affect our views. As our views and concerns are merely words upon a page, the reader has the choice to observe, consider and comment or not as they please. If there is something that bothers you that is written it is easily disregarded and further commentary by that poster can be ignored or not as you please. Posting to and replying to those who agree with you doesn't leave much room for debate, or even argument as the case may be. While dissenting views and comments make for an interesting read by yourself and others, and sometimes something even becomes resolved.

hi there , just take it easy , this is online friendship. Yeah , I fully agree with you , if you really find little agree on with these two friends. just can stop talk with them. And if they are continue to post the disagreements on your discussion , then you can stop them. Nice weekend!!

I understand that opinions differ from person to person which is absolutely fine. But debates should be healthy and each person should respect the other for his or her views. I have never had discussions which have ended in bad taste in myLot. So I have never set any pre-conditions to adding friends. But then, who knows the future?

Its alright if you just deleted two friends because you have a firm reason for it and there can be disagreements of thoughts but before deleting them you must just have talked to them and try to sort out the issue.