Hot and Cold.... Why?

I believe its because people can naturally get sick of each other, unless you have been totally comfortable with everything they do. This is very evident with couple who are still very shy towards each other. Hormones may also be a factor, maybe your mate does not have a very high testosterone level, you can tell by the shape of his head, usually the more testosterone the larger and squarer the head. Anyways work through it, maybe spice your love life, or allow each other to expose each other with interests that you or your mate have not shared with each other. Or be direct and ask him about it. cheers

Well it might be down to his personal problems ask him whats wrong and go into the issue head on dont wait for him to tell you ask him. HE might be going through a rough patch that's all.

Yup! I've been through this plenty of times too ~ I think we all have. I think it's pretty normal to cycle through that kind of behavior... especially as we move deeper into the relationship. As much as we'd like to have that "madly in love with you" phase ALL the time, it's pretty unrealistic. Of course, it's probably somewhat of a gender thing too -- women, in general, tend to like to hold on to the romance and the "feeling special" all the time. Men get comfortable with us and appear to feel that we instinctively know that they care. They seem to feel less and less need to point it out. Yet another of those "Venus and Mars" moments

I think that is common. There indeed is a cycle. There are times when my partner would complain that I am being very cold at times and when he feels that I keep on fighting him or doing something to start a fight. Yet there are times when I become utterly sweet and clingy. I think it's something that we can't really avoid. There are moods all around and I guess that is why marriage or relationships are vocations. Not all are made to be in it and when you are, you will be tested through and through. Perhaps a good thing to keep in mind all the time is to have a lot of patience, understanding and respect. As long as you have these in your relationship, whatever the ebbs and the tides are, you will get through it. I am just happy that I have a man who is there beside me and doesn't see 'quitting' as a solution to our problems. Good luck to you and your love life and have a great MyLot experience today!