Abortion rights........

Geee. This is an extra ordinary case I think. The norm would always say that men wouldn't want to keep the baby. With your story it is the guy who wants to keep the baby. Anyway, I hope the mother realizes the negative effects of her action before the damage is done. I pity the life inside her womb. Having a baby in the house is such an awesome feeling. A child definitely completes a home.

Perhaps she just needs some time to adjust to the idea of being pregnant. The boyfriend should continue talking to her about keeping the baby, but also try to be understanding about her feelings and continue comforting and loving her and letting her know that they can get through it together...

They have been together for two years and have talked about marrying. They have a baby on the way and if she aborts this their relationship will fail. She would lose her man and her baby. Maybe she would get depressed and not get on well with her studies if she has an abortion. He should not pay for her to have an abortion. He should try to get her to relax and enjoy being pregnant. He could pay for childcare so she can still study once her baby is born. She has to carry the baby and give birth to him or her. It is a hard decision but keeping the baby she has a loving man. Good luck to this couple and their baby.

this is truly appalling..! and this could be a problem if they are in a country where abortion is legal. i am not aware if there is what is called abortion rights for both parties. if he is to charge his GF for planning to abort the child without his permission, he needs to be ready, because this will soon become more complex as the one involved is his GF. he can try again persuading. if it doesnt work out, then he have to consider taking legal actions.

Do they get married? if not,maybe the girl has the right to not allow this baby to be born.

I thinnk somewhere down the line in this, people have forgotten about the girl friend. Im sure this isnt a decision she has made light heartidly, but how can anyone or any of you judge until you have been there and done it. I think this women needs support and also the bf should understand if she doesn't want to have this child and respect her wishes. He will be able to ahve children another tie in his life the same as her. Her body is her own, carrying a child for 9months is traumatic enough to your bodya nd then have the trauma of giving it up! I don' think so really, personally I think she is making the right decision. Again no one can judge until they have been there and been in this situation and had to cope with the stress physically and mentally with this

No matter what, I think the females have the final rights to have the aboration or not. If your friend was so excited to know his girl friend was pregnant. Why not asked her to marry him and therefore they will be the legal couples? And it will be the best for the baby because the baby will have parents. If your friend just likes the baby rather than his girl friend, it is wrong. Women are not the machine who make babies. Perhaps your friend's girl friend is upset and you have to understand it will never be easy for her to bring up a child alone. And even if his boy friend can bring up the child, is it a good solution since this baby doesn't have a mom? Nobody wants the abortion, but the reality is not so ideal to keep the baby. I think she is already very sad and guilty to it. So why just blame her because she gave up the baby? She also needs the care. She won't feel better than this man after the abortion and this pain will last in her rest life. This is already enough. If your friend needs this baby so much, then please at first he also has to make her a happy mom. I love China

Isn't it in parts of the world where abortion is legal they have to have consent from all the parties involved? Anyhow, I'm not really familiar with the proceedings such as these because it's not legal in my country. However, if I could ask, how old are they anyway? The initial thought I had upon reading your post is that perhaps she's not ready to have him and the baby in her life. Perhaps she has a lot going on for now that she'd rather be single instead of having a pregnancy and a boyfriend stopping her to get her full potential. However, I think it's utterly selfish of her. She has someone who loves her deeply and is happy that she's pregnant. Most men out there would run for the hills when they find out the girlfriend is pregnant. I think she doesn't see this as some blessing. If she truly didn't want to get pregnant, she should have done something about it before her lust! I think the man should have a say in this because they did make the baby together. However, perhaps she's just afraid of the life she'll have with him if she pursues with the baby. Not to mention the effects on her body, or perhaps child-bearing is something she fears about. Perhaps he should talk to her more softly about these things. He should assure her that he is happy and will be there throughout this whole ordeal. Anyhow, I guess the father could not do anything if the mother doesn't want the baby. It's not just the thought of being aborted. But if he forces her against her will there will be implications in the baby. The baby will feel not being wanted and may become bitter knowing that his/her mother didn't really want him/her. It's sad.

I think that since its her body, she should decide. But since the baby is his child as well, he should have a say too before she makes the decision.