I need help and advice..
By kimikohime
@kimikohime (119)
United States
June 9, 2011 2:40pm CST
Ok, so there's this guy... We've been friends for 8 months. And at some point on our friendship, there had been hints that he's showing me he likes me and I can really tell that he really likes me. And there's no denying that I really like him too. And then came the time wherein he asked me "What am I to you?" I could just tell him what I really feel about him, however I can't find the right words to say and I don't want to sound cheesy or something... What will I say? I can't find the right words to say.... I wish someone could help me on this.
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19 responses
@way2vision (613)
• Canada
9 Jun 11
Ask him out. Why not, especially with women wanted similar rights as men, its definitely, OK to ask a guy guy. Though it is more proper for a man to court a woman, in this case I suggest to ask him out. However, if you do not want it to sound like your asking him out, try to be smooth about it. Instead of hey, what are you doing Friday night. Be more like a friend when asking it , "yo lets go watch this movie, no one wants to come with me." Though he may take it as it is, as your "date" continues through the night, who knows maybe he'll expose himself about his feelings before you do.
Cheers.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
9 Jun 11
If he asks, "What am I to you?", you could start by saying, "You are very special to me" It's really important that you are open and honest about your feelings, if you do like him. Don't be afraid of it. If he is asking you that question, you can be quite sure that he is hoping that he is more than "just your friend."
You could tell him... you've been my wonderful friend for 8 months and I know now that what I'm feeling is more than friendship. Tell him that you'd like to move your friendship forward and see if you can be more to each other. Ask him how he feels and what he would like to have happen. It shouldn't be a one-sided conversation :) It's fine for him to break the ice and ask "What am I to you?" but he should be prepared to say what you are to him, as well
It sounds like you both care about each other very much and that is a completely lovely position to be in. Best of luck to you
@kimikohime (119)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Aww thank you so much! I really need this right now :)
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
13 Jun 11
You are so welcome kimikohime! I hope it works out really well for both of you... and I hope you'll update us and let us know? Thank you very kindly for the BR... that was really sweet of you and truly appreciated
@kimikohime (119)
• United States
15 Jun 11
No problem! :) After I read all the response when I posted this question, I told him honestly that I like him and that he is so special to me.. And everything went out smoothly, it was the best feeling I had! And he promised not to make me cry unless it's a happy cry and that he'll always be there for me.
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@liquidblot (175)
• Singapore
10 Jun 11
haha just say what feels right to you, you never know the future right?
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
13 Jun 11
How sweet. Good story. Don't be afraid to go slow. Just be friends, and don't be in a hurry. Hurry is a great way to make a mistake. Just be honest. If you like him, say you like him. KISS... Keep it simple stupid. I live by KISS. Don't get complicated. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
He'll come around if he really is interested.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Jun 11
I would suggest for you to simply be you, you would not want to make up anything because he already likes you as a friend. If he asks you "What am I to you?".
I would say, do not think too hard at all, be simply your self. Don't try to impress him in any way because you are already impressing him as a friend. He very much likes you or you would not have been friends.
Therefore, say what instantly you feel is right. Good luck and hope all comes out well.
@kimikohime (119)
• United States
13 Jun 11
Thank you so much! ^_^ I already told him and I'm so glad I did.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
10 Jun 11
Just be yourself. What he likes the most about you is YOU so don't go and try and give him some pumped up response in hopes of impressing him. Obviously, you already have impressed him. Just tell him that you love having him in your life and you can't imagine him not being a part of it. Good luck, Kimikohime!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jun 11
kimikohime tell him just what you told us. I really really do like you too and lets see what happens between us.Are you falling in love, If so
just tell him as I feel he is telling you that too. Tell him" You
are everything to me.I really do care for you" but it has to be
your words not ours. You alone really know how you feel about him, do you really just like him,or do you love him, if so say so, as he wants to know how you feel. good luc k and God Bless.
@kimikohime (119)
• United States
13 Jun 11
Thank you so much for the wonderful advice guys! I already did told him the truth, and I'm so glad that the feeling is mutual!
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
try to clarify things with your friend. what is he trying to imply when he said that "what am i to you". If i was in your shoe guess i can't really answer the question too at that instant. But if you two really like each other then go for it. Good luck.
@allknowing (137553)
• India
10 Jun 11
No beating about the bush. Just say what you feel. This is serious and you need to be honest with him. There are no two ways about it. How about "The same what I am to you"? Would that sound good?
@kennzsniper (170)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
If you are still having issues with the saying how you feel, why not show him.
That would be my best bet.
@inamnilawar (44)
• India
10 Jun 11
you should express his good qualities and what they you depend on him and how its important to him and dont talk about any other girl in favour or boy just avoid that and u say that whats in yours heart confidently dont worry and be positive and first days dont fight with him get setteled proparly
@sayatta123 (27)
• Jamaica
10 Jun 11
I would suggest that you ask your friend how does he feel about you.Based upon his answer which i reluctantly know is positive,you should then tell him how you feel about him,by doing this the both of you will have a mutual understanding of each others feelings and this could later lead to an intimate relationship.
@daiweian06 (1405)
•
10 Jun 11
What would be your choice is to show love love and concern about him. Tell him what you really feel. Friendship is never come wrong for the both of you but a way just for the two of you to realize you destiny.
Don't stop loving and showing him your love. Don't hesitate to tell how much he mean to you. Just be honest and let things to happen. Grab it since it only knocks you once.
Good luck my Dear! We will be happy if you would let your love to him. Nothings happen accidentally but there's a reason why all those things are happening to you.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Just say what you feel inside. What "he really is to you" should matter, regardless of it's in a cheesy tone or not. "out of the fullness of heart, the mouth speaks" as the Bible says. Follow the voice that calls within my friend. Express yourself, he's your friend anyway. Find your strength, and start from there. God bless.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Just be who you are. And tell him what you wanted to tell him. I'm sure he would be happy to know the real in you.