Would you fight the world just to be with someone?

WOW! In her situation, Its really not good. The mistake she have done is that she didn't finished her education first.. Before she rush things out she should have think what will happen in the future. Its really what was the result of all her sacrifice just to be with the man he loves! That's why right now, I choose to be single and continue my studies.. I always keep in mind what my parents always tell me. Education is a treasure that no one can get from you!

I've been in such a situation before. I gave up my job, fought with my parents, and lost probably everything else I had gained before that just to be with the girl of my choice. RESULT: The girl left me within 13 days of my eloping with her. Can you believe that. I still believe that caste, religion, age and such other things should not matter in love or marriage, but if I ever fall in love again, I shall not do as much as I did the last time, just to be with that girl.

Hi silvercoin! I think it's okay to "fight the world" to be with someone as long as this fighting involves both the partner. It's not okay if the one fighting for a relationship is only one person. I also did not agree to what your niece did. She may have done that in the name of love but I think it was too much. Loving someone should also mean loving yourself. If she has a love of 100%, she should not give all of it to the guy. She should let a portion remain to herself. Because when the guy leaves her, at least she still have something for herself which she can use to restart her life. With your niece, she gave everything up just for the guy. Now it's the reason why the guy is leaving him. It's so ironic. I may fight the world to be with someone so long as this someone would fight beside me. But I wouldn't give up everything so that I can fight the world with him and he should not, too. Because giving up everything is not a sign of love. It's naivety. Good luck to your niece.

Though the marriage did not last, this was not a mistake. With the mixtures of cultures, the children will carry a much wider view of all sides. They carry the potential to make a big difference to a lot of people in this world. As the saying goes, we don't always have control of who we fall in love with. God has reasons that sometimes people can not see. This was no mistake.

im sorry for your niece. she did so much for that guy how could he be so senseless? about what you say, i would do anything for a guy. i say this bcs till now whenever i loved a guy i always did all to show i care. i agree with what your niece did. she loved him and did all for him. she is a sweet girl. she doesnt deserve what is happening to her anyway i wish that someday she can find a guy that is really sweet and good to her^^

Yes I did that when I was younger. But after so many years, I found out that my parents were right for not liking my man. Eventually, he wasn't able to raise a good family and was separated while I am enjoying my happy family with my good husband. Good that I have the guts to follow my parents then.

Its exactly what i had in my mind. I would never ever leave everything behind for my love one. Iwould not entertain the idea even if i do love this person. Why would i want to do that when i knew nothing is certain.

personally I wouldn't. unless there are very good reasons to do that. reasons, not just one reason such as I love him. because it maybe true I love him, but does he love me? will he do for me, what I will do for him? Until I know for sure he is able to reciprocates I won't let love bring me down to my knees maybe I'm a bad person, your niece is a great person, I don't know all I know is that I don't stop analyzing, even after years of my own marriage

I am not opposed to two people of different religions and backgrounds being together. They should ignore others opinions when it comes to that. What they should not do is change everything ...her religion etc to be with him. They fell in love despite their differences so what would the point be in changing them? And if someone expects you to give up family for them...well...that is a huge red flag. If a couple can't fairly blend two different families along with the different cultures and religions then they probably should not have been together to begin with. Those are issues to be worked out before marriage and definitly before having kids.

I believe in love and the blindness of it. Love always right to those people who are inlove and for sure they don;t know what they're doing if right or wrong. As long as the love is present for sure all are against the world. This is really my experience and i am like that mostly are similar to those hard headed woman. But when i got married I select the man from my head and not a hundred percent from my heart. How i wish i feel the true happiness within my heart. But again i am lucky choosing him because he was a very good man and nice very religious. Anyway I can only comment to your niece is why she did not finished her study before she got in that very hard situation. That is the only thing that is not good. But for love she is not went wrong, this is according to my own perception because for me love is always right but sometimes in a wrong man,place and time.

I also did this at 16 for a much older man. As an older person I would not go near that same man now if I met him at this age. I fell out with every one and left home. I took the lessons I learnt from that and made myself stronger however. Your niece has a much bigger fight on her hands. I would not be as worried about her choices. They will have taught her some thing and with out those choices, she would not have her two children. She needs legal advice to help her keep her children though. Seeing as she has no money or education she will probably be entitled to some sort of legal aid.

Its not a good idea that you'll gonna leave everything just only for love. I remember before when we have debate that heart will not be higher from brain, if will gonna go always with our heart without thinking then will gonna suffer a long term consequences. Everything should be balance, we should not have overhead our brain by our heart. That's why brain is higher than our heart.

I think so.agree with your point view.