you love someone but you cant be with him. would you find someone else?

Hi sweet love forever: This has happened to me and what I can tell you is that I honestly think that sometimes to love someone means to know you have to let go. In this case I wish him/her good luck and find someone else. When you love someone you care for this person even if he/she ahs chosen not to be with you or if it's just impossible. ALVARO

It really depends why I couldn't be with him. If he was in jail that ws the circumstances then I would move on no way I would wait around. If he was in a different state or country then maybe I would try to find away to be with him. nly reason I say that is because I have been talking to a guy who lives almost 1000 miles a way. He seems like a very nice guy but keeps hinting me to move there where he is but I have a3 yr old to worry about and can't just pick up and move.

I would stop living if I couldn't be with my guy. Life would go from vivid color to black and white. I wouldn't stop loving him And I wouldn't look for anyone else either.

Hi! I'm a practical person. I don't think I will be able to wait for someone without even a slim chance that we can be together. I think it's kind of a waste of time, effort and energy. And I think I have my pride as a person, I don't want to wait for someone all my life! I deserve to be happy, too. Sure it's nice to be in love, but it would be nicer if that feeling can be answered by the other party. It would be very sad if that feeling is not returned and I don't want to be sad for a very long time. If ever I think that there's a slim chance that we can be together, I would go after that chance as early as possible so I won't have to waste anymore time on that feeling.

If you really love a person and agree to enter into a relationship. you should him/her because of that love. If you can't wait...meaning that is not love but a kind of affection and want him/her only because you want someone in your life but not a long lasting relationship

I have a perfect woman, except she only lives in my head. If I meet someone who would like me to make her perfect, then I will train her to be more-and-more like the woman in my head. If someone lived near me and so-agreed, and then moved far-far away; I would hope her next guy sees the direction I was going, which is the direction in which I'll start training the next woman. (Kinda like Sigfried or Roy (of Sigfried & Roy ) with jungle-cats.)

Hiee iam exactly in the same situation as you are. Me and my girl we are having lot of family problems her family is stressing on to find her some one. And her someone else is no othere than her ex BF he is probably working and iam still learning that what my weakness is. She is having very least felling with me. She is really depressed about that, apart from that her family is forcing her to marriage but she is refusing because she is in love with me i cant say that its love but she is refusing so somewhere i think she has a space for me in her heart. Even iam depressed about such issues but i think that i can manage from such things she is probably also not talking properly with me and that hurts me a lot but i have made my mind that she is depressed and in that situation she is talking thing. Iam just waiting for the time to heal and also praying for her health as she is very weak in health, she has no other support than me. So i have made my mind whatever hurt is there i will gladly accept as my test for love if she is happy with the guy i too will accept it because love has a sacrifice and iam ready to do that.

Hi sweetlove, If I loved someone and I knew there was no way I could be with this person I would try everything within me to try and let go. Only because if I knew holding on to the hope would somehow hurt me further. Therefore, I would allow a sometime for my heart to at least heal and find the me first. Then when I feel up to it I would be open to perhaps finding and or being with someone else. Broken hearts are so hard to mend but with time we can recover somewhat, as there is guarantee we will definitely completely forget the person.

if i really love him and i know that he loves me too i will still hold on and fight for our love, i will find ways just to be with him no matter what. But if i am the only one who's still fighting and I know that he don't love me maybe I will just find someone who's better.

my friend ,you are describing my situation now :( unfortunately i'm in love with somebody that can't never ever be suitable for me ...and bcoz i was so lonely i accepted to move with him in relation ,it was totally different .But now we both have to be away,but i don't know what i have to do ???!! sometimes i feel that i wana hurt myself to forget the real pain .i'm up and down in my feeling now

I've loved a girl and we speak with her on the internet during 4 months, we are very far from eachother, she lives in russia i live in turkey, but i loved her so much and i thought i can go to her near and i asked her that how can i come her near.. I don't know russian any and most of russian people don't know english and their alphabet is different from us, there is no direct fly from my city to her town,, i must go to moscow and than take a train and 7 hours later i can come her town, there was big problems , how can i find my way. And i start to look solution, and i found , i went to moscow take a train ticket go to this girl near, but i passed my right station and i get off to train wrong station,,time was 02:30 ,, and i found a taxi, taxi driver did not know english,, i show some of paper him ,, and we go go go ,, i was soo afraid ,, but the men bring me to right home ,, when i saw my girl i was verrry verry happy,, and than when i come back severel months later this girl did not want to speak vith me anymore because i am so far from her and she want to her lover always at her near (( i think far distance relationship so hard for lovers , i m so so sad for forget this girl for just far from me :(

Well, the situation is hard and hurt, but believe to choose someone else even I need long time to start it again.

Sometimes it seems hard to wait for someone who will never be there for me. I might fall and break longing alone in the silence, but then I have to get up and walk on. I have to let these feelings pass by. I still cannot change the special attitude towards someone I will never be together. I am aware I should not live in my imagination. Maybe someday I will be able not to compare other men with the one who has been special for me.

It really depends if the other person has a bit of feelings for you. I would normally hold on to that feeling and wait until she decides what she wants. And if nothing happens interim, I would most definitely find someone else. Nobody likes getting their heart broken.

I just recently started a discussion similar to this one. I am married to a wonderful man and have been for 16 years, but I know that I truly love someone else that I just can't be with. It is a hard decision to make. I love my husband but I am in love with someone else. I say that it is better than being alone, but it still hurts each day to know that my true love is out there.

I would never go looking for someone else, as in my experience, this have never really worked. When I have lost someone that I loved, I have just gone through the experience of missing for them, and tended not to look for anyone, then later in life, someone just turned up and we were good together. _Derek

Hi,friend for me,the same with you...^^

I am holding on all these 10 years. My so called boyfriend went to Australia without even informing me. His sisters did only. He went in year 2000 and went back here recently. I have been thinking and keeping this feeling inside my heart and wonder if we could get back together but things has changed. If there is a right man coming to me proposing I would get married immediately. I am 30 this year and I am sure I can't wait any longer till I am old. So finding someone else is probably the right choice. I am not flirtatious and like you said "I couldnt just be alone for all my life" sure its terrible to hold on like that.

Love is for everyone. if you believe now that this person is not for you, then it's a good choice because you're opening you're heart to some one else. you did hold to that feeling long enough for yourself to realize that he is not for you and he knows that now. we care for you and we love you here. just come by when ever you feel sad and you know where i will be.

I think you can still be with that person. You have facebook,twitter,skype and other communication gadget such as cellphone.So you can manage to be with that person using this communication devices. But as time goes on you should also try to travel to the location of that person so that you can spend time with that person. As a decent person you should not engage in cheating by dating another person behind your lover.