Can you open up to a stranger?

If he is the type of hubby that Wants to sit and talk to you and you are opting to be online, then he may have a point. But...if he is the typical hubby that Never wants to talk then he doesn't have the right to be jealous. If he comes home and heads for the t.v. or his PC then Why can't you talk to friends?

:) I'm sorry to smile about what you've just posted but I can empathize a little with your husband. I mean, I went through that stage too. Oh, well, jealousy usually makes us men think dumb :) Our imaginations run wild. And yeah, you definitely are not fat. You have a great body and that's probably why he's getting jealous. He knows that there's a big possibility that people would still hit on you.

You have a lot of options when you are online, because there are so many more people here to listen and talk with. Tell hubby that he can also join MyLot. Is there something going on at his work that is making him feel bad, or is he having a health problem? Those can make him cross and jealous. Maybe you two need to give each other some time that is just focused on the two of you. Have some "date nights" so that he can talk about things, if he needs to.

Please get along guys. Sad experiences from friends really bring me down. If only I could be of any help to you I would definitely be happy to.

In this time and age where virtual interactions are a way with the world it is a bit surprising that your husband sees something bad in it. It all boils down to his insecurity and may be a feeling that he is not good enough for you. In one of your other discussions I did say that you have a lot of homework to do. Take time off and you could both go on a short holiday and spend some quality time together.

Your husband gets jealous ,which turns out to be a fact that he loves you very much,and he is afraid of losing you.He is not confident enough.You should let him know that you love him ,the friends who you make on line can not displace him.

Men are always suspicious when they see their wives spending long hours in front of the computer. They might have heard from friends how the internet wrecked many marriages through chatting. Their are being challenged emotionally and some men would throw their jealousy tantrums by asking irrelevant questions to investigate the real truth why chatting online is more attractive than chatting with their real world friends. I always tell my husband that I am in mylot when I am online. I've explained to him earlier what mylot is all about. This make him more confident that am not wasting my time online for nothing. Though in between mylotting I do chat with friends which I think hubby is still in the dark. Not that I am keeping it a secret but telling him might send him into fury which I want to avoid. I think friendship in the virtual world holds more weight than real world friends. I am quite open in my conversation with people I come to trust online. They in turn give me valuable advises on many issues that I encounter in life. Of course not everyone online can be trusted as they are some who are manipulative. We have to use commonsense to gauge a reliable friendship online before sharing our problems, if any.

jazel_juan, Not siding your husband but have you ever thought deeply for a second what you are saying here. I am sorry but I really have a different perspective, starting with the fact that your husband is afraid that you are cheating yourself when you said that strangers online do not judge you. A lot of times, even I myself cannot and never be able to tell what's on the other person's mind both online and offline. So, I would not want to be too fast with this statement of yours and worse the hidden agendas which sometimes can be heinous. Since you are not with these strangers most of the time and retrospectively, they with you - they might not have enough to gossip or even talk about you. Yet, can you really be 100% sure that they did not do anything behind your back? Sincerity is as real as it can get but I have to say that a lot of times you do not get in online. So, people say things about you or talked about you (even behind your back) but take heed, this means that they bothered to think about you. You may think that this is going to be far fetched but this thinking is the very start of all the troubles to come when you start finding it easier to relate online and with strangers than with your real friends and eventually your husband. I do not know if you've read about cyber affairs which is so prevalent today and for a fact is simply cheating in the real sense. So, I would seek that you really be careful and know what you are doing. I am enclosing a relevant article below for you to read and form a checklist for yourself - hoping that it will at least help you out of a potential rut. Rest assured that it is NOT a referral link. Read more: http://www.suite101.com/content/how-emotional-cheating-starts-a32008

maybe he wants you to open up to him more than to us? maybe he's jealous of your time here spent than your time spent with him. don't you think?

You are dear. Some friends in real world can gossip and can do backstabbing -and pretend to be good ones. Same here on the net,some can pretend to be good,and laughed at us ,but it's fine,we never who are really real online. As long as we are honest to everyone,most of all honest to ourselves. I am sure you will find true friends on the net...because people in the net are real human beings too,we just need to be careful whom to trust. Have a great weekend

Hello Jazel, Unless he learns how to use mylot and chats in the internet too, i doubt for now he will understand what you've been doing online. but every thing you said there, you were right about it all. i guess that's why am more comfortable talking with strangers on line because we wouldn't be judge. i guess am lucky those former friends or so called friends don't hang out with me no more, because they did gossip and back stab me except for one, that told me just that.

I feel the same way like you do here in myLot... It's sad that he's not trusting you...but I'm positive that you guys will work this out in the end...

I originally intend to make friends with you,now I should give a wide berth to you after reading your discussion.Don't mind!It is only a joking.Thus It can be seen how deeply your husband loves you!Sometimes friends in virtual world are not replaceable in a sense.

You're husband's jealousy may be because he feels you are spending more time with your online friends than you are with him. Why don't you try limiting these contacts for when he is at work and be with him when he is home and maybe he won't object so much.

hi, if i have problems or what ever it is definitely i would rather not open up to anyone stranger to me,because i think that would be the starting up of gossip about me,so i would rather choose the person that i know where i can open my problems.maybe to my friends or to my closest relatives and family.,