Moving on... how do you deal and how do you know you've really move on.

hi! there is no exact formula or process on how to move on from a break-up. because each of us has different ways in coping up with our pains, recovery is pretty subjective. the productive way (just like what you did, and what i did at some point) is immersing oneself at work/studies and pursuing dreams... instead of just wallowing in misery and thinking about the what-ifs. the process of self-healing also takes time. feelings linger much longer. we are the only ones who can judge for ourselves if we have completely moved on or not yet. i remembered an instance years ago when i broke up with a boyfriend and the only way to cope up with pain is to leave my job and go away, out of the country. it was several months after when i decided to come back. i thought the pain has healed until he called me again in the office. it was a shock to hear his voice again and i sounded so cold to him. i only knew i was already over him when i've felt myself breaking down the hard walls and warmed up to the person who really hurt me a lot. but it took some time still. perhaps when we can already overlook the pain associated with that person who hurt us before... maybe, just maybe... we have already moved on. to say completely moved on... hmmmnnn... that's a different matter. hehe

Hi bluishrose, Relationships are hard work. Yes, some things should come to an end. Moving on is really hard. It will take time. Little by little you will tend to forget him. Doing a lot of things will surely help. In my case, I learned to play guitar to keep my mind off things. Eventually i gained my confidence and got on my feet again in no time. Just when another sad thing happened, so now I'm in the process of moving on again. This time i will probably learn to play drums haha just kidding. We need to have an outlet so we can move on easily. I'm sure you'll be on the dating scene again in no time :)

Improving yourself and dealing with things not connected to him is a good start to move on. Keeping yourself stuck with the break up would just make things worse so I bow down to you for a job well done. Not all people can do that easily. Moving on is not really easy. We go through a lot of processes before we can say that we have completely moved on. Don't rush things. If you meet that guy again, that's the time you can assess if you have moved on. You can say that if you'll feel nothing for him anymore and if you are indifferent when dealing with things relating to him.

I don't think I've ever been hung up on someone that I actually had to cope with getting over them and moving on in life. I'm not saying that I haven't been upset over a break up but if you dwell in the past too much then you can't see the now and what's going to happen in the future. I don't think you can say you've completely moved on if you still think about him and wonder if he thinks about you. I would try to move to a new neighborhood or something I wouldn't have to see the person on a regular basis or even hear about them from neighbors.

It is really painful to break up with someone that you have known for a long time, just like in your case, but honestly I feel the best thing to do is not to think of what you had together because that makes it even tougher, just forgive them if they did you wrong and that is a very important thing to do then you can forget by occupying yourself with many things just try not to watch romantic movies..lol, I prefer comedies to keep you smiling and do not, I repeat do not isolate yourself, its very dangerous to you and other people that cares about you, the gym is the best place to be or a dance class. These might work and help you get on with your life again and if you ever cross paths and you were in the wrong for the break-up don't say anything just pretend its a day that you have seen another human on the streets but if you were not then go up and say "hello" just be nice but don't get yourself involved. If they happen to live down the street then wow, I suggest you best find someone to keep you company so that they know you are not alone, just be friend with someone, because some people are happy to see others in a down state. To be very honest to move on from a relationship depends on how your feeling react to certain things, emotional,anger,fear and all that but gradually time is the best healer ;)

One can say that he/she already move one,when you discover when seeing him again,you did not feel the pain anymore in your heart when losing him/her.Moving on is very hard to do,but sometimes we must admit to the fact that we really need to,to continue living in this world.

Moving on is the hardest part in a relationship but i believed that it depends on the person or situation. i think what you've done making yourself busy on other things can help you to move on easily. Glad to know your ok and able to smile now.Cheer up there's a lot of opportunity out there.

the best thing you can do is learn how to take back your life that past is past. If you do not learn to move on the past will overtake your life. When you learn to let go of your past and move on you will be happier, not as worried feel the pain no longer. When you truly learn how to move on from the past you can truly experience the love,joy, and peace life has to offer.