The head of the family

What you describe sounds to me close to the original design God had in creating us. Adam was first; Eve created FROM his side to be his helpmeet. Since headship was given to Adam, it came with a double-edged sword: authority AND responsibility. The husband is the parent charged with the greater burden of responsibility in protecting, providing, instructing and caring for his family, AND is DIRECTLY responsible to and "chargable" by God. Of course, that's a huge job, so God allowed a HELPMEET for that task. To the extent that a wife functions in that position, they work as "one". God is a God of order and hierarchical accountability. In the family situation, the wife is "co-authority" in many aspects, but man, being given broad shoulders bears the greater burden in terms of accountability directly to God. The analogy you cite, thus, holds true. But, here's where it gets a bit sticky. The neck position is the position of influence, and that is very important in "directing" the head. A "worthy wife" is a tremendous asset according to Proverbs,who fulfills her role and responsibility as does her husband his. But, in case you haven't noticed, men and women are created differently, physically, emotionally, psychologically. That, of course, is God's business and for His reasons they are "separate but equal": different in form and function. A good example is that of two different 8oz. glasses having the same capacity, yet one being a heavy "mug" type glass and the other a delicate goblet. A wife is intended to have the position of influence re her husband, BUT, she must be a good influence, rooted in godliness and functioning in "oneness" with her husband. Each submits to the other in "love": in other words, having the other's best interest at heart and recognizing that God is the true head of every marriage covenant. The submission of wife to husband is specific to the chain of command: God, husband, wife, with respect to accountability and responsibility. We notice things got out of order rather quickly in the Garden of Eden when Eve first succombed to the serpent, then "shared" with Adam. Sarai went a little too far with Abraham when she suggested he father a child in a way that God DID NOT DIRECT HIM TO. Rebekah, Isaac's wife got out of order by encouraging their son Jacob to steal his brother Esau's birthright as the oldest son....so you see how things can go awry. I agree with your analogy as a fair description of the relationships, but only as understood in God's order and design.

Hi. ludyvel04. I know that in the Bible the man is the Head. The wife is supposed to submit to her husband. I have never heard of the wife being the neck though. The wife's role is to submit to her husband though.

I think men and women should be equal in a relationship.As much husband and wife.Everyone should know their place. have no such things as I am a man and you're a woman I am head of the family.Interesting discussion. Have a nice day!

I think, one of the greatest areas of concern in many of today's marriage center s around the roles of husband and wife. If we don't have a clear understanding of the role we should play in your marriage, then it will soon undermine your relationship. The main ministry of man in marriage is to love his wife so that in the depth of her personality she experiences the inner glow of being loved. When a man functions in this way he is fulfilling his role of being a loving leader. The wife, on the other hand, is required by God to be joyfully submissive. It is a voluntary subordination. A woman is designed to lean and not to lead in a marriage. Woman should has disposition and a readiness to support her husband's leadership role in the family and an inclination to follow his guidance except where it might lead to sin. I believe that man's greatest fear is to be dominated by a woman, while the woman's greatest fear is that she will be treated as an object rather than a person. Those fears never arise in a marriage where roles are properly understood and lived out. Roles determine relationships. If Ignore that simple formula and relationship will never rise to their full potential. :)