Do you have an annoying officemate who just cannot leave you alone?
By leigabs
@leigabs (40)
Philippines
June 11, 2011 5:32am CST
One year into my current job, I make sure to choose who to go with as I'm the type of person who as much as possible like to surround herself with positive people thus positive energy. Office work is tolerable because people are nice and I have made some friends. However, for the past 3 months, I think I have made a wrong move when I started to talk to this new officemate. I don't want to sound rude but if I could just turn back time, I swear I would not in the first place. Because, she just cannot leave me alone.
Everyday I make sure to arrive in the office early so that I can start right away and finish early. However, this officemate of mine has this habit to drop by my workstation as soon as she arrived and talk nonstop about personal stuff. It might be tolerable if it is work related, I'm very willing to lend my full attention. But then, as I have said, it's too personal. Most of which, about her boyfriend.
Honestly, I do not know how to deal with her anymore. What do you think I should do or say without hurting her feelings?
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8 responses
@simplywilma16 (53)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Hi leigabs!
way way back yes I do have! and yes she's very annoying too so what I did was I decided to resign rather than be with her every day and luckily I found a new job immediately after so the regret that I felt after leaving that company just because of her was all gone and I realized now that I made the right decision :)
@simplywilma16 (53)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
but in your case I think you better talk to her politely and explain to her that you do understand her feelings towards her bf but there are things or time that you will not be able to support her or you'll not be there all the time.. but be polite..
@leigabs (40)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Thanks simplywilma16. I think it would really be better if talk to her. I cannot resign as I really love my current job. Plus, she is the only one that I don't like, nothing too personal, I just don't like her ways of being insensitive to the importance of time to others. I know that she's a good person, just that tiny little thing, sadly I cannot live with. I just want to work in peace and finish my job in time if I may say. Thanks again for your advice. Greatly appreciated.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
11 Jun 11
You could try a distraction! Bring a glossy magazine to work and when she shows up just say," excuse me, but I am reading this very interesting article,see you later, ok?" and keep right on reading.
This might just work for you. let her know in a nice way that you would sooner be reading a magazine than listening to her silly blather.
@mohdromly (165)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 11
Hello leigabs,
For your problem my advice is tell the truth to your friend about your feeling so he/she can what the problem that you face because of he/she doing or habit
@ordinarygirl88 (175)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
That's a tough and annoying situation.. I think it would be better if you will tell her the truth. But tell her outside the office so that she won't be humiliated in front of your office mates. Talking is good. Let her understand about her being annoying and tell her that "it's not that I don't want to be friends with you but, could you just minimize your personal issues during working hours?" .. You can start by saying that...
Honesty will make you feel better but sometimes people won't accept the truth and get angry... If she will get angry at you... Well, at least you told her about everything ... just give her a hug after saying that..
@leigabs (40)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Yes, I'm already practicing my spiel the next I see her which will be... on Monday! I'm really hoping to be honest as much as possible and don't hurt her feelings. It's not that I do not want to be friends with her really because I know she's a good person. It's just her thing that annoys me. I really just want to work and get things done. I really an hoping she can understand where I am coming from.
@Xyberzone (33)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 11
Just don't do anything let her be like that. She won't have any friends in the near future! lol. B1tch like this never get anything good and just don't bother her. The more you resist the more she disturb you. The Game is on!All you have to do is Endure and ignore her.Good luck :)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
first off, do not resign.
you could mention that you are anxious that the bosses might notice both of you talking, then tell her that you might as well talk during lunchtime. or tell her frankly that you have a deadline to meet or a work that has to be completed ASAP.
still, honesty is the best policy. 
@leigabs (40)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Thank you. I really cannot resign because I love my job. I don't want to quit also just for one person. My current workplace has a lot of wonderful and talented people and I can't just give that up. I agree with you, honesty is the best policy. I am going to lay cards on the table once and for all. Wish me luck bingskee!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
if that will happen to me i think i will be straight to her,i will say that lets go finish our work in early time so that we can have a lot time to talk,because i hate when i am busy then a co-worker will talk and talk to you especially with non sense topic.its nice to be true rather than to delayed my task.
