Do you trust your girlfriend/ boyfriend completely?
By inneedofcash
@inneedofcash (67)
India
June 12, 2011 10:26pm CST
Hey, I'm in a very sour bitter pickle.
I think my boyfriend has some kind of mental issue.
He checks my phone messages, calls etc (not that he lets me talk to anyone) whenever we meet and interrogate me all the time about what I'm doing, who is in my room and all kinda of extremely irritating and hurtful questions and allegations.
Is suspicion really a disease?
I don't want to leave him because I know he needs me. I want to make him better but he is very determined in a bad way.
Just saying.
8 responses
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
I think not leaving him coz he needs you is wrong. If you said that you can't leave him because you love him, i can understand. I think you should. Try giving him a warning and telling him that even married couples respect each other's privacy and you're not married yet.
My husband never checks my phone messages or even opens my mail. He doesn't know my paypal account name and password. I also don't do the same. WE trust each other. Remember that trust is the basic foundation of a relationship and without this, i don't think that relationship will ever push through. So before everything comes to worse make up your mind. Talk to him. If he doesn't listen then i think you should consider calling it quits.
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@tommyINDONESIA (69)
• Indonesia
13 Jun 11
I think your boyfriend is very love you, but he is very sensitive & progresif.
He is very love you but he have less trusting with you. He too scared to leave you from his life.
Hee thinks you're the best for him, because he did not want to waste you.
Ware common fate, guy. My girlriend used to be like that too, but slowly I could convince her if I was faithful and sincere love her. :)
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
14 Jun 11
Yes I trust my boyfriend completely. I know he doesn't trust me fully but I know that stems from childhood issues. Sounds like your boyfriend is trying to control you and that is not right. You are young you really shouldn't put up with this behavior. He doesn't need you and you don't need him. You can't make him better you can't fix anyone. He will change because he wants to. You shouldn't think you can go around fixing people because you can't. Either accept who he is totally or move on. My vote is to move on.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I think your boyfriend is a bit of a paranoid. He has a problem of trusting you.
Try to talk about it with him and make him feel that you love him so much, that you wouldn't do a bad thing to hurt his feeling. Assure him of your love for him.
But despite doing those things , he would still persist on his bad behavior, then you can give him an ultimatum.
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@simpleplan (22)
• Bangladesh
13 Jun 11
Basically a relationship is all about trust. I have lost 2 of my girlfriend who use to love me a lot but i lost them just because i never trust them. So in a relationship trust is very important. If you don't trust that person you will ask so many questions , give so many bindings, make so many queries by this way that person will think you are controling her/his life and i guesss nobody likes to get control by others even our self. If someone loves you he or she always gonna stay with you just keep your trust. And if that person don't love you or then just leave that person that simple.
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@pritilixious (7)
• Canada
13 Jun 11
TRUST is the most important factor in a relationship. without trust,love easily fades. did you ever ask him if he trust you? i mean you need to talk about it before it become worst and lose his mind. you need to assure him that you will not do anything that will harm your relationship. cause if you're gonna allowed him to treat you that way , he will never be or you can never make him a better boyfriend or a better man.
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@Galena (9110)
•
13 Jun 11
he sounds awful.
and you say you don't want to leave him because HE needs you. this is silly, you need to put yourself first. your reason for not leaving is HIS feelings. not yours.
he doesn't trust you, he's controlling, he's isolating you from other friends by not letting you talk to other people. this sort of behaviour all too often esculates into physical violence. I've heard time and time again of abusive relationships where these were the first signs.
don't let him check your phone. it's none of his business. and if you let him do that, it's letting him think he has a right to. which he doesn't. if he doesn't like it, tough.
best of all, get rid of him and get a partner that respects you and loves you.
you will never change him.
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@wzm1022 (43)
• China
13 Jun 11
I think his behavior a bit too much, he did not interfere with the rights of your friends, if you do his girlfriend even freedom have no,that would be a very painful thing, although you love him, but people need to be free,also need to other friends, this willbe the joy of life.
So I think if he really has mental disorder,you can enlighten him ,tell him that you only love him a man, and the others are just good friends, let him rest assured , if he still can't change his behavior, that had take him to see a psychiatrist.
Have a great day!
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