seeking what is not suppose to be seek

Personally... without trust and loyalty there is not such thing as a relationship. You should focus on someone who shares your passion of having a future. Two years seems like a lot but it is just a speck of time. Honestly you should break it off. Cheating is never ok and once someone cheats and gets away with it they are more than likely going to do it again because they already got away with it. I don't even know you and I will tell you that you deserve a hell of a lot more than that nonsense!

There is hope if he is not cheating on you. If he is still in touch with his ex, then it might sound that he is not yet over with his ex, not unless if they are only friends, but still it is still uncomfortable to know that he is still communicating with his ex. I think the best way you can do is to test him. It is not worth it if you continue to go in a relationship but felt you are cheated. God is so good and he can give you the best guy who is 100% in love with you without any reservation. I hope you will be able to cope up with your current relationship now and that everything would go well at your end. Take care and God bless.

I agree with the first poster. This is a case of betrayal. It's hard to maintain a relationship when the trust has already been broken. Unless the conversations were purely platonic, I would say that your boyfriend has not been honest with you all this time. You also said that he is uncertain of taking your relationship to the next level. I don't know, but if he truly loves you then he would take the plunge with you. But given these circumstances, it's best that you talk to him and ask each other if saving the relationship is still worth it. If it so happens that you break up with him, I guess it's all for the better. You deserve someone who loves you and would not break your trust.

I think it depends on what the messages said. If he was flirting and making inappropriate comments then I think that you should move on. If it was just meaningless small-talk then maybe it's not such a big deal. I would probably bring up a conversation about exes when the opportunity arises and ask him if he still talks to any of them. If he denies that he does when you know this is a lie then I think you should move on. I think that generally you should move on though. The fact that he didn't tell you that he was still in contact with his ex is something that I would be concerned about. If I message someone that I know my boyfriend would be uncomfortable about, I still tell him that I did so that he knows that I'm being honest with him. If I don't tell him then I feel like I'm hiding something from him. I think if you don't trust him then, like others have said, it's best to move on because a relationship is nothing without trust and communication. There will always be a strain in the relationship if you don't trust him on some level, and I know from personal experience that distrust can make you hold back from showing your love for another person. This also causes a strain in the relationship.

That is what you get from meddling with your boyfriend's personal stuffs. Most people say that anything that you don't know won't hurt you. Anyway, I suggest that you talk with your boyfriend, admit to him that you hacked his account and inform him of what you have found out. I believe that when you are in a relationship, talking or having contacts with your ex is an act of cheating, so you better talk things with him if you want to have a smooth relationship.

Eeek. That's like the biggest no-no ever! But I feel for you. I mean sometimes we see what we want to see in things like comments or posts, but when you see messages, that's pretty legit. I don't put up with people talking to their ex's. So I would have been livid at that point. It was stupid of you to go on his account in the first place, it is his account. The feeling of guilt should be there. But it is good that you found out in a way, it means that either you're going to have to talk it out with him and work through the problem or that you need to get out of the relationship. I know what it's like to be in an online relationship, so I can empathize there. I would be lying if I told you that there were never times where I didn't wonder if the same kind of thing is going on. But I think it's really crucial to any relationship that you have blind faith in the person if they have never done anything that has broken your trust. To answer you question. If you can talk it out with him, like sit down and actually say what you feel and he do the same, then there is hope. But if that cannot be done, it will not get better.