At what stage Do You Say Enough is Enough??
By abmacasinag
@abmacasinag (518)
Philippines
June 13, 2011 9:56am CST
When do you say enough is enough with pushing yourself. Obviously there are things that cause stress that we cannot avoid such as illness and death, but anything else in our lives that is eating at our existence can be shoved out the door. Saying enough is the hard part. A job you don't enjoy and is causing you undue stress is a hard thing to let go if you are a caring and responsible individual.
Everything in me screams No! when I think about the work week and everything that needs to be done. It has never been something I have enjoyed and now in this 29th year of my life I'm realizing that I have wasted so much doing things that don't make sense for me. I'm back pedaling just to get through and forcing something into my life that doesn't fit for me. If doesn't cause stress, then I don't know what it is.
So here I have to a choice to make. Do I stay because I want to do the responsible thing, because I don't want to let anyone down and because my loyalty should be strong to this company? or do I force for once in my life do what it takes to get me on a path that makes sense for me and my abilities and natural aptitudes? The latter makes more sense doesn't it?
It's my choice, MY CHOICE what do I want to do with my life. Doesn't being happy makes sense?????
7 responses
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
16 Jun 11
I reached that point 3 years ago. I cannot no longer push myself, at least for now, to be ore productive. I am in a deep depression and am going to therapy for it. I come here to MyLot and it helps me a little. It seems like coming here is like extra therapy. I guess I broke down and I need an overhaul.
@abmacasinag (518)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Right, I feel like I'm no longer productive. I can't explain the emotions I'm feeling right now.
@rgreentea (96)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Your work is frustrating you at the moment. I suggest you take a leave or a vacation to think deeply about your situation, because if you continue to report to your office with such heaviness in your heart, your burden will be heavier.
There are many factors that leads to your stress in your office. Are you compensated very well? Do you have a future in the company? Do you really enjoy your work? Do you get along with your co-workers? Do you like your boss? If all of these does not give an affirmative answer, then I think you have to go, and find another place that will make you happy.
You might also want to consider to study again, like taking a post graduate or a higher degree of education. This will add up to your resume, and will give a break to your monotonous life.
Happiness is enjoying whatever you do.
Keep smiling...
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Hey Auds,
As i read between the lines of what you are saying, i can say that you have enough of what is enough. You already detest your job and it's getting into your nerves.
It may be true that you care so much for the company, but have you pondered if the company cares for you also. Does it give you your expectations of what should have been given to employees who have been loyal to the company? Are you happy dealing with others on the job?
Had i been you, with a started business picking up on the side and other part time online paying jobs, i would already say enough is enough.
@abmacasinag (518)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
You got it right Tita D, the big question is does the company care for us? is it worth being loyal to them? Am I happy dealing with others on the job? Honestly I'm not, I miss my friends back at our old office. It's not that I don't have friends here, it's just that, it's different here.
On a lighter note, business is quite good actually, I'm earning about 4k every Sunday, I don't have overhead expenses as of now because I'm not renting the place and I'm the one who act as the sales attendant and cashier at the same time, plus I have a part time online paying jobs as well.
Who knows maybe next month I'll have the courage to file my resignation. :)
@mrgpk63 (444)
• United States
14 Jun 11
Try to Balance All Things better than You are Doing. No need to get Sick from this type of Thing. You want to Switch Jobs have a New One Lined Up. Do Your best and get Help if You Feel over Whelmed. You will have some Stress in life as it isn't Easy for Nobody. At 29 You still got some Time to Change Things to make it Easier.
@ray8500 (46)
•
14 Jun 11
It all depends on how you feel about the situation and what makes you feel good. They might say you should stay doing it, but in the end of the day, it's still your life, nobody can decide things you must do. Do what you like and live live your life doing things you like, so that when the end comes, you would leave the earth without any regrets.
@cratermon (76)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
everyone has their own limits, its what makes us human, we must know what our limitations are, and we mustn't force ourselves over our limit.
you know enough is enough when you can't take it anymore, simple as that, threshhold differs among individuals, but everyone has one
@rakittera (802)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
It depends, really. What is your priority? If your priority is being happy, then, by all means, choose the latter. But if your priority is being stable, responsible and loyal, then maybe you should stay. However, if you're truly unhappy about staying, then maybe you shouldn't. To be able to stay in one job, I have one rule: I have to be driven enough that I should not push myself everyday to go to work. If I'm feeling exactly that, that it's too hard for me to get-up and go to work, then it's time to leave. Your work is not simply a source of income, it should also be a source of inspiration as well.
Still it boils down to priorities. For example, I have a lot of dreams but some of those dreams will have to take a backseat because I am now a mother and my children should always come first because they are my priority. Will I be happy if I fulfill my dreams? Of course. But will I still be happy if I know that in achieving those dreams, I would have to sacrifice my time with my children? Never. It's easier to choose if you have no responsibilities like the ones that I have. So, assess your situation and find out for yourself what's really important for you.
