torn between two lovers?loving two persons at the same time?

I went through this before, this is what happened: I was with a guy for 3 - 4 years. I really really loved him, but there was somethings that he did, that really needed to stop. Basically I broke up with him, so he could deal with it. I really believed that we would get back together. ANyways after a few months I started hanging out with my old friend, and then I didnt really want to date him though, because I really did still love my ex, but I knew this guy was just better for me. It took months and lot of crying on my part, but i knew that the reason it was hard for me to let go of my ex was because he had been such a big part of my life. We were best friends , we had fun.. so its hard to just let that all go. In my heart i knew that this friend actually truly was the one for me, even though at that point I didnt love him like i had loved my ex, but i knew I would..i just knew. The end result: When I finally made my choice it was like me and my ex truly broke up... i was so sad and it was really hard, but I ended marrying my friend! My ex also got married and has a baby. So really it did work out..because you know deep in your heart who u should be with. Just ask yourself WHY do you want to be with this person?? Imagine yourself being older...do you want a family with this person? If you had only the two of you left in the world..would you be happy? If you could only save one from drowning..who would u choose?

hey, you reminded me of the song "torn between two lovers". "torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool, loving both of you is breaking all the rules..." i havent experienced this and you are lucky you are into it right now. :) however, just be careful, do not break the rules. good luck.

I experiecnced that is my early twenties! I loved an older guy like a father figure.At the same time I loved another guy who I had plans to marry! When this was going on I didn't want to listen or realize I was loving the older guy like he was a father figure! I didn't come to terms with that until he was out of my life! With my love of my life we broke up before we even got engaged! The older guy had something to do with plus that I was also every naive,immature and totally dependent on my boyfriend! So I was left with out anyone! I was a sitaution I never want to be in again!

I think the statement of "loving two person at the same time" is not really happen. There must be one of them you loved more and one other is less, even the percentage is not in big number.I have the same experience. Two years ago I was with my boyfriend call "F".I and "F" has been together for one year. For some reason I work out of town and guess...he follow me.Even I knew he loved me so much more than anything I know that absolutely I dont love him back, I just to be with him for one year but no feeling.I still be with him because he sacrifice a lot then I try to love him.Then I meet someone call "E". Started as friend but he really know how to make me comfort and happy, then finally I left "F" for "E". Now I know I make right decision, follow my heart and to be with someone makes me happy and know to make me comfort.I've been two years now with my boyfriend.

I think each and most people have happened to their feelings and to feel like two. It is very painful when you're torn. I've had this story and many suffered. They were twins and I liked both. And the best option in my case was to give both of them. So. I wish you to find a faithful friend so as not to hurt. nice day!

Maybe in my opinion i would go to my boyfriend rather than a person I just recently met how sure are you that you know that boy already do you know everything about him?how can you trust a person you just met..maybe you need someone who can fill up your emptiness. You need think it well over again. So that you will not regret at the end.

WELCOME TO MYLOT!!! When I was about your age, I thought I was in love with 2 men. One made me feel loved & the other made me feel happy. Neither wanted to share!!! I ended up with neither. As I got older & really fell in love, I realized how immature I had been in the past!!! I did NOT truly love either of those guys...I just had a strong emotional attachment to both!!! Before you hurt somebody or get hurt yourself, please look deep inside & make sure it is love you're feeling!!! You are in a dangerous position at this point...so BE CAREFUL!!!!

Interesting concept. It is possible and it is awfully hard to deal with. Before anything else though, welcom to MyLot. If you are considering leaving your boyfriend for any reason, try to find out why you are even thinking about it, there must be a problem there somewhere. If you find it and believe it is something you can deal with then by all mean stay with your current and wave the prospect as just that, a prospect which didn't fly. If however, you believe that what is wrong in your current relationship cannot be remedied, then maybe it is time for you to move on. Make sure however, that the prospect is someone you want to be with, if not, you could just leave your current and wait for the right one to come along. Regardless of what you decide, it would mean a very long discussion with your current.

I've had this happen to me before. I had been dating one guy for about a year when I met the second guy. I'm pretty sure that I made the wrong choice when I left my boyfriend to date the other guy. In the end we broke up, but things happen. I've moved on since then and am very happy in my current relationship.