Question of the day...

By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
June 13, 2011 8:42pm CST
This question was posted and it made me think how to answer it and actually I really couldn't find an answer. Here's the question: When do you know when to meet an online friend in real life? Most of my online friends are from different countries and i never had any intentions of meeting them except for those who live in my country. The first time I met people online, I knew that our friendship is only up until there and it's nice and comforting to have someone to talk to when there's no one else around you. Having online friends from different countries has helped me expand my knowledge about different cultures and respect. Maybe if I can visit their country then I might have the chance to meet them but I really don't know when it will happen or if it will happen. So how do I answer the question?
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9 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Yes it's a question, I guess for me a very tough one in which I have no answer.Having friends on line sometimes gives us more courage to shares our problems or even deeper because they are always there if we need them even only through words to give us comfort.It's okey if we live in the same country that can be arrange but to others who resides on the other parts of the globe we can not really say, maybe.....
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Oh is that so, I really don't remember.You did really know me.It's true I'm a bit shy before and I been to Iloilo too but now I guess conquered that.Well in that case, maybe we can meet someday and I hope soon.have a nice day
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Hi toni, Thanks for the BR my friend.You are really sweet just what I thought of the people from your place.Stay happy...
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Hello Stan. WE almost did meet remember? Your cousin was getting married and your mom wanted you to go with them here in my city but you refused since you were very shy. I would have met you then if you did come here. Sad to say you didn't. I'm hoping though that one day, you'll have the courage to visit and we can meet then.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Hello my friend, I would love to visit you one of this days. lol. Well, I don't know how to answer the question either. I would like to share though, that my online friends really helped me get through the tough times in my life, specially that I am miles away from my family. I feel comfort when I always have someone around online to talk to, to share my thoughts and emotions with, though I know that they don't know me personally, but it gives me some comfort to just someone around you when it seems no one is around physically. And thanks for being there for me for most times. You were one of people who dragged me and made me somehow relatively, active in here.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I was also thinking of dropping by in case I go there. Have your number so it nwoukd be easy to give you a call and surprise you at your doorstep. Lol! See you around friend!
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
That would be great to be surprised by your presence my friend. lol. well yeah, just give me a buzz. I'll just be around. See ya around.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Well, there are many times when a person meets someone online and then gets the opportunity to meet them in person, and a lot of times that draws them closer as a friend as well. I have over the yrs. met quite a few people in person after meeting them via online and it has been an interesting experience for sure. Most of these people are people I have done Business with via an Online Business venture together and most of them I am still good friends with today. So true friendships can happen. You just need to be open and honest to decipher which ones might eventually be the best for meeting as well.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
It's nice to hear that you've actually met them and are still friends. I actually have friends online that I really long to meet in the future. You are right that it we need to decipher those who can really be trusted.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
hi, actually i never try it that those friend of mine who i met through online never meet in reality,i am always hoping someday that i can and have meet at least one of them,and actually most of my friends online are came from other country that really far to my place.
• Chile
15 Jun 11
okay i think the word real life is not realy accurate here because the virtual frienships are alsol real lifer frendships exept that we dont get to meet all our virtual friends in person
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
I don't think so. It's pretty accurate. Since what you see and what you learn from people online are not 100 percent real sometimes. There are people who are not themselves when they are online. Most people are not shy and very courageous but once you meet them in real life, it's totally different. Virtual life is almost like a dream world. Most of the people are not real there at all. It's really rare to see friends who truly care.
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I think it really depends on your online interaction, how long and how often do you get to share personal things about you. There was this one time that an online friend from Manila went to visit Baguio and just wanted to see the city. She took time to get my number so we can meet up for lunch while she was here and I really like d it a lot. I guess, you'll know when the tight time is. You'll just feel it. Well, I guess, 2-4 months of being online friends and meeting up is not enough for me. Probably longer than that. As for me, I've never met any other online friends except the one I just mentioned. Hopefully, someday, Ii could get to meet some of my mylot friends =)
@shibham (16977)
• India
14 Jun 11
Hi toni... Sometimes online friendship may turns to personal and real friendship. Well, you have declared that you are not about to visit other countries but what will you do or react if i visit your country and wish to meet you. sometimes a friendship may proceed to deeper friendship from the other side. I mean here i can proceed first and you need to accept it. thats a real friendship. Have a nice day.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
14 Jun 11
Online friendship is only on internet. very rarely it can transcend into real friendship. Expecting us to visit other countries is beyond limit. have a good day.
• Bangladesh
14 Jun 11
Online friendship is good. I guess friendship doesn't depands on any media or something like that. I had 3 ex girlfriends , a lot of good friends , even once upon a time my best friend was from online too. So seriously i guess for friendship media doesn't matter. What does matter it you choose the right or the wrong person for your self to be your friend. I have more then 300 online friends i meet them in my country even some people outside of my country. They visited in our country and i meet them. Let me give you a example like its my thinking : you have school friends what is the media yes school. you have collage friends your media college. you have phone friends your media phone.So if its online friends then whats the problem. In all the cases you never can understand what is actually the person thinking about you on the other side. So basically all are same. Yes now i have heard lot of people faced problems like they are in trouble just because of online friendship. Can you say that it doesn't happen with real friendship. Yes it does happen even more then the online friends people face problem for real friends.So it really doesn't matter just keep up with your online friends listen them carefully try to understand them and if you found they are good then they can be your very good friend and no problem to meet them at all.