so worried for my future.
By janefatima
@janefatima (347)
Philippines
June 14, 2011 4:11am CST
A person who have a very nice job and a very nice compensation will probably buy a house as easy that they wanted to have. I am running 25 and I stay with my parents all alone since my other siblings are all married. Still, never have a time that I don't think of buying a house for my future. I am single and doesn't have a boyfriend at all is the thing that scares me. Of course it scares me a lot since I am thinking that sooner or later as one of the heirs of my parents properties it won't be enough for me to buy a house in the future especially that I doesn't have a stable job on my own. My worries are increasing especially as I am growing old having all these fate. What should I do now? I don't know what to do for my future.
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7 responses
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I am 34, single, and still living with my parents. =P
You are still young. Just continue working hard whatever job/s you get no matter how little or temporary, and try to set aside some savings for the future. Do not worry so much about not having a boyfriend. They say if that is meant to be, it will come, even if you do not try so hard to look for it. =P As for buying a house of your own, well if that is what you wish then save for it. But being able to buy your own house is not the determinant of success. If I were in your shoes, being single and all, I would be happy enough living in the house in which I grew. And being that my siblings are all married, that house probably will be left to me in the future. Of course, that is just me. =P You might not agree. =P
Kinda useless to think of marriage if you don't have a boyfriend, you know. =P
Yes, just continue saving especially now that you don't have other expenses yet of your own if you were living on your own. =)@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
Yeah, it's difficult to talk about marriage knowing that you doesn't have a boyfriend at all. hehehe.....
Yes, that's what I am doing right now trying my best to earn money for my future use. Thank you for responding. Take care.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Oh..?? 34? are you not thinking of getting married?
Hehehehe..... I thought about it actually.LOL. If I am the only sibling left as being single for sure the house will be for myself. For now, what I am doing is try to save a little money from the earning I have right now since I didn't have to rent for a house.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
15 Jun 11
Start saving and applyig for jobs, you need to secure your own life and not live with the dream to depend on someone else. If working isn't your thing maybe think of a great home business you could start, perhaps a service you could provide customers?? And see where it goes. I thik its important you take some steps to secure your financial future!
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
15 Jun 11
that's ok i really do wish you well. I think you should make yourself a resume and start handing it out to people, or do a course so you are better equipped to get a job in your choosen field and then you will be able to save more money when you get a job.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
That's is the reason of my worries. For now, what I am doing is to try to save money for myself in my future use. I don't really want to keep on depending with my parents all the time. Most especially nowadays that things can be bought in a very expensive prices. I just hope I can achieve the things that I aimed for. Thanks
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@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
Thank you so much for wishing me to do well/good. Hope you do the same too. Yes, that's what I am doing right now trying to save money for my future use. Happy mylotting...:D
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
15 Jun 11
I think it's a big thing to be thinking about. Around here, houses cost so much that people have to get 30 year mortgages. You just sort of have to throw yourself into it and try your best. Maybe save up for a few years so you have a down payment and then think about if you can afford a house. (At least, this is what I am hoping to do).
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Yes, it is really a big thing thinking about buying a house. Most especially houses nowadays cost much. I just hope and pray that sooner of later I could be able to save up money for that purpose. Good luck and wish you all the best.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
14 Jun 11
Hello Fatima !
I have told in another discussion of yours -- about getting married. will not ur parents help u in getting married? Get married to a boy of your choice. Nowadays u cannot insist on permanent job -- all jobs are temporary.
Second , please do not have fear. Things will get sorted out automatically. Save 20% of your earnings per month. I know it will be difficult to save beyond that. Once u are eligible for housing loan apply and get one.
NEXT IMPORTANT THING--STOP WORRYING. I KNOW U ARE USING THIS FORUM TO SHARE your ideas so that you can get suggestions from more people in parents' position.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
15 Jun 11
You must be around 25. Do not worry. You have managed with that boy for six years without getting into motherhood. that itself shows control u have. u have phobia. U dislike all young men. it is natural. get over this, u will come across a good day who will give a good company. When u meet do not discuss in detail about ur pass relationship with him. You have my blessings and good wishes. seek the assistance of your mother and elders. have a good day.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
You know what i am very much lucky to meet you here online. It just shows how good you are to other people. Keep it up. And thank you so much for being so nice. may God continue to give you more blessings. Take care.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Thank you so much for your great responses. I also appreciate all the ideas that you always recommend for me ravisivan. I always wanted to have one of the best guy. I don't want to have a failure relationship. I don't know if it's a phobia for me since I tried before to be a buttered girlfriend and our relationship lasted for 6 years. I was so stupid of not letting that guy go but then again I believe that in ever sufferings there is always joy. I am glad now I am very much happy of being single. :) I will try my best to save for my future. Thanks again.
@iklananda (1202)
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15 Jun 11
Don't get worried so much coz all the things in this world is unpredicted. If you worried than you won't be happy of all your live and it's going to ruin all your day. Just relax and enjoy the day.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
As some people kept on telling me about planning, you shouldn't plan in everything that you do because most unplanned things are quite memorable than those planned things. That's what some friends taught me about. But I can't deny the fact not to worry so much with the things going on with my life and what my might in the future. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@tintinsnoi (5)
• China
14 Jun 11
House is essential in our daily lives.In my city, the price of house is higher than my imagination. let's put it this way, even i do not eat and drink,save all my salary in the bank, before i die, i still can not afford a 100 square meter house. nevertheless, I am still optimstic,cause I do believe that compared with dignity,living pressure is pretty trivial.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Oh. Your place must be one of the place that you can buy most of the things are expensive. Here in my place there are urban place that are sold cheap and can be somewhat like a loanable item payable with 6, 12, 18, 24, 36, or even 48 months. But it just now enough for me to have that due to the fact I don't have a stable job yet.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
I agree with you that this is called life. Life is sometimes easy and sometimes it can be so hard. So, do the best that you can for everything to get rid regrets in the future. Have a good day.
@america220 (67)
• United States
14 Jun 11
I sometimes do little side jobs when I'm stuck. Like right now, I'm broke, so I'm asking around seeing if anybody needs a babysitter, or just some chores done. I'm still living with my family too, but I'm the oldest, and only 19.
@janefatima (347)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
It's good to know that you are 19 and you are striving hard to have an income for you. I don't know from which country you're from but here in my country it is normal to stay with our parents since our parents is still responsible for us until we reach the age 21. Usually, we you say 19 our parents responsibilities is to send us to school if they can afford. I wish you all the best in everything. Take care.
