long distance relationship..

Well, long distance relationship is really hard. i have experienced it when I was young but ended it as I felt that there was something, they say it was a woman's intuition and later found out that he was cheating on me. The bad part of long distance relationship is because you do not know what the other party is doing and what they are thinking or who they are with. But the key to survive a long distance relationship is to have trust with your partner. Although it is hard, if you love him and he feels the same way, just trust each other and patience is needed as well.

Welcome! I would never consider a long distance relationship. I like to see my husband on a regular basis. It's bad enough I get up at midnight to visit with him for a hour after he gets home from work. He works an oddball shift. Noon to midnight. I work days. So I rarely see him in the morning and he's gone when I get home from work. Hard to communicate on this schedule. Hope things workout for you. I don't really have any wise advice. Best Wishes!

Long distance sometimes brings difficulties for lovers to have a good talk.However,it is quite normal for all of us to have some distance due to busy work and big pressure from life.So we have to think up some correct ways to keep in touch with our lovers.In my opinion,it is not enough just to send a message or have a call.I don't know where your lover lives and works now.If the weather where he works changes a lot,you could try to learn something about the weather,and try to tell him the weather at a suitalbe time every day.It might be better than just to tell him you love him.If he was so busy that he always stays up very late at night,sending a message to tell him pay attention to his rest time may be a good idea.In short,you should learn to express your love to him by taking care of his daily life in a way that he could easily feel but doesn't bore him.Wish you happy!

Long distance relationships are incredibly hard, and you need to remember that you both have to be seriously committed to each other in order to make it work properly. I have only had one long distance relationship and I can honestly say that I didn't enjoy it because I was unable to see my partner as much as I would have liked to. Physical activities are really important with regards to relationships, and if you are unable to do this, you would have to be very committed with each other in order to make it work.

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hi bebegie long distance relation ship is difficult , it is difficult in a part that you cannot see each other in personal , you can't express the love for each other , i think that what is the important to an long distance relation ship is having a trust to one another because trust is the secret on how to leave long your relation ship.

Welcome to myLot BebeGie. I think the best way you can do to handle a long distance relationship is to have a constant communication and complete trust. I think this is very hard but if you always communicate with him everyday, that would not be an issue. Like most other say, trust is very important. If trust is lost, then everything is lost. You can no longer have a 100% guarantee that your relationship with him would last forever. I just hope everything would turn out okay on your part. Five years are too long, but if he is worth waiting, then you deserve him. Take care and GOD bless!

Long distance relationships tend to end but hopefully that won't be your case. But you have needs and so does he so it's hard. About the missing part...he can't really do anything about it and it gets harder for you both if you start thinking about how much you miss each other so try not to think about it. Good luck

oh boy... long distance relationship... i've had a long distance relationship in the past and it didn't end well my friend, jamuls (http://www.mylot.com/jamuls), had a long distance relationship which just ended recently... these relationships are hard to maintain but i still believe it can work my girlfriend is leaving for the states and it's gonna be a long and arduous journey between us... sigh

hi bebegie...well i can say was you should have trust to each other, if you love him put your trust on him and also wait for him no matter what happened.If he truly loved you he will wait for you no matter the years passed by.And important thing was communication, don't ever ever you would not have communication to him. In my personal experience i had also long distance relationship,but it was not worked out because we missed the communication, he was working as seaman, so sometimes one month or two months no communication.I really love him because he was my first boyfriend, my first love, we've been for 7 years almost, i've waited him for many years, but because we don't have communication for one year, so i assumed that maybe he get married, so i get married already and then when i found out that he waited for me,sad to say he was married to last year only and we had a communication again, until now we were talking to each other what happened.It was sad because both of us we had a regrets in our marriage, he said that he was not happy with his marriage life, me too honestly i was not happy but what we can do we both married..... well! i hope you could stand with your long distance relationship and don't give up, wait for him no matter what happen, COMMUNICATION is important...Goodluck

i understand your situation.id been there and its really hard.im just lucky my bf is so honest so i fully trust him.i think its just a matter of trust to your partner to make your relationship work.

Every relationship I have had has been online so I can pretty much relate to the way you must be feeling right now. My current relationship is also long distance and we are only able to communicate over the computer so it does become depressing most of the time. Saying that, we're also engaged to be married over the next few months because I'll be travelling over to where he is soon and we'll be buying a house together, building up on some more money and then moving to Iceland. I know a lot of people like to believe long distance relationships do not work and that's fair enough, I understand why most think that. But, if you look at the facts behind some causes of long distance relationship fails you'll find that the majority of people give up too soon either because; they can't stand the distance or they do not have the patience they thought they had at the beginning of the relationship. At first I can admit that online relationships were never going to last because prior to the one I am in now, they never lasted. I will say this though, you and your boyfriend clearly love each other very much as you have stuck it out for three years. My fiance tends to get irritated over the slightest things every now and then as well, as do I. But if you dig deeper into the real reason why we do those things, you'll find it's because he does miss you, more than you'll ever know.. and he is trying to make you understand that he loves you and that it's difficult for him to be constantly happy all the time. The truth of the matter is that no two can be truly happy until they are united. You can love each other the world and it will never ever come to an end, but you have to realise how much pain you're both dealing with by not being able to see each other when you would like to. I'm not trying to give you a huge lecture on this cause even though I'm making one work, I wouldn't call myself an expert haha. Really though, he's just stressing a little more than usual because he feels what he's doing isn't good enough. Talk it out with him, you'll both be fine xx

hello bebegie :) i've been in a long distance relationship when i was younger. it is somehow hard to maintain such... constant cultivation is needed so to make the relationship grow. lucky for you, you communicate often... coz during our time, we only communicate during the end of a school semester and somehow we parted ways. sometimes, guys may also feel pressured... and as their partners, we need to understand them. don't tell him what to do and what not to do... don't be too tight and don't be too loose. have an open communication with your partner... be open with your thoughts and feelings... if you'll have misunderstandings, then talk about it the earlier time possible. whatever you are going thru right now is a challenge for your relationship. just be positive and trust each other. love will always find a way..

hi BebeGie! awww. i dont know much about having a long distance relationship. But let me tell you what i know. :) So far, I learned that in every good relationship is based on a genuine TRUST. and that's something that is not to be shown only in words, but more in actions. :)3years is a WOW, i think you should just be sensitive enough with how your going to say things to him. Don't doubt your relationship too. both of you should strive to make it better, even if its just small gestures---everything counts. especially now that he's far away, i bet he misses you bottomless. :)

The exchanges of words alone in a long distance relationship is not enough to set a strong foundation in any relationship. You don't see you don't know. You cannot expect a man to be honest especially when they are out of sight. I am not poisoning your mind to forget about him but there is no harm in socializing and get to know others. If you are fated to be with him in the end, no one can ever steal your heart away from him. What if he happen to meet someone else that he can't resist, you will be left with a broken heart after waiting patiently for your prince charming but never appear in your front door. Anything can happen even to people who are already committed in marriage.

Do ever get to visit each other? I truly don't think I could handle it if I never saw him. It would be very difficult for me. I think you need to find some kind of a way to visit him or have him visit you and spend a little time together, and then assess how you are both still feeling about the the relationship. Other than that I am afraid I don't much better advice, because I don't think I could handle a long distance relationship. With a boyfriend, of course after 25 years with my husband I would of course be true and still love my husband if he had to go away and work some place else for a while, but that would be very hard on both of us.

We`re on the same boat missy. I`ve been in a long distance relationship for 3 years as well and though its killing me I hold on because I know in my heart we will be able to survive this. If you trust your guy nothing is impossible..

Long distance relationship is really hard..what I can advice both of you is to trust each other problems are just part of a relationship, both of you should know your limitation and avoid temptation. When you love someone you can do everything. Love can wait so don't worry If your boyfriend really loves you then everything will be well. God bless to both of you!

sound is good here.Yours knot is great relationship.I hope You both will meet.yes,Your relationship is strong, it will take as long as you need some support and love from him.Tell him you are missing lot of joy.Everything is feel to enjoy in the life.Not only work or earn money.