She has a lover

Gosh that's a hard question. I guess it depends on how well you know the people involved. If your friend is very close I think I would talk to her and explain how you feel about it and try to convince her that many people are hurt when a spouse cheats. It would be best to come from her in letting her husband find out. Good luck with this decision.

I agree with you, friend. Not good to lie with her husband. But you need filled yours and that is your weakness. You commit that mistakes and try to explain it the easy way...hope she understand about something if explain it very well...

Coming from someone who just slept with their best friend and doesn't want a relationship (if I remember correctly), I find your moral stand a bit odd. I agree it's not right but then it's her life, not yours, and she has to make her own mistakes - even if they're absolutely awful, like this one!

One of the very few things that I really hate are adulterers. I've encountered people like these and sometimes I couldn't help say what I feel about it. Well a lot don't like being told that what their doing is wrong and so they find me to be judgemental and a busybody. I can't help it though because here I am, a singleparent trying to raise a child alone while those with complete families and loyal spouses are destroying theirs just because of a stupid physical attraction and probably, the ego boost of being attractive to more than one person. They just can't see how lucky they are. It's a good thing in this country, those who are commiting adultery can be put away in jail as long as there is strong evidence against the suspects.

I think this is her own things, she should be for her own do responsible, as her friend, you only can tell her it's not right, but if she dose't listen, you have no way.

i was actually in the same situation as you are when my friend started dating a married man. At first, i did not know what to say but when as days pass by and things gets worst, i confronted her and actually asked her if she was the wife, what would she feel. she felt bad but somehow, cannot keep herself from staying away from the guy. and i reminded her everyday to let her realize more.

Well, if she's your friend, you can certainly give your opinion on extra-marital affairs. You can tell her how you feel about them in general. Ultimately, though, you won't be able to tell her not to do it or to stop - because she has to make that decision for herself. It's a shame that she values her marriage and her husband so little :(

You should advice her friend to take a look if the shoe were reversed how she would feel. I certainly would not want, if I were married that my husband sleep with someone else, therefore, I don't do this. Of course it is her life but she needs to remember that if her husband finds out he may not be pleased to say the least are my guesses. I only take guesses as I am not and have not partaken in such activity.