Why are people social online but not in person?

hi, yes you are right,that there are people who act like that in different way in both social networking and in personal,actually i dont hate those people but the only thing i have in my mind is why they act like that in different way.and for me its not a weird.LOL.

Online people can hide and often be someone they're not. It's very rare you'll find someone online who acts the same in real life. Online is quite often an escape from the reality that real life provides, and if they can fool themselves for one minute things aren't as they are it grounds them. When you're with a person face-to-face they often can't hide what they're thinking, feeling, and this makes them more self-concious which can cause a person's personlity to do a complete 180, because they have to face you and take whatever comes at them. Where as online if things get stressful they can turn it off and it's like the situation never happened. A majority of my friends I have never met outside the internet. Those that have met me, they're pretty much the same offline as they are online. However, this is often a lot more rare. I am often one of those who is like that. One way online, another off. However, lately I've found the two mixing and I've been really on edge with people I thought were friends. It's taken a lot of self-restraint to keep myself from giving them a severe tongue lashing over things that happened well over a year ago. Granted, while my nature prevents me from doing as such, I've seen people change over the years. I m yself have as well. I find myself being a lot more bold, as are others. Though its easier online to tell someone off then it is when faced with them. (At least for me).

Yes, there are people who are good at expressing themselves in writing. But does mean that they can be boring, they just can't have the ability to express themselves in talking. People can be very expressive and intelligent and talk with sense in written words and I prefer these people rather than those who can talk a lot but nonsense.

Because it's just easy to show whats in the mind using only the computer. There's no need in showing any body language at all or any kind of accent to say what you need to say. But this is the disadvantage of technology today, more people today is not developing well their personal interaction and communication with other people. And you see it right, they are more good in hiding while communicate.

From your point of view, you may think that your friend is shy and boring. But how about this? Perhaps from your friend's point of view, you too may look forbidding, reticent, awkward, shy, or boring... Hahahah... Thus s/he is inhibited from acting more naturally and spontaneously with you. That's a point to ponder. But I think it's really a two-way street. If there is/was no untruth and dissimulation in your relationship, and most especially if you share dreams, interests, yearnings and aspirations, personal encounters can be interesting and solidifying of friendship. However, both will have to work at drawing each other out. It's a mutual undertaking.

From your point of view, you may think that your friend from the web whom you now meet in person is shy and boring. But how about this? From your friend's point of view, you could also look forbidding, reticent, shy, awkward, or boring... HAHAHAHA... This may inhibit her/him too from acting more spontaneously and naturally with you. Actually, I think it is really a two-way street. If there is/was no untruth or dissimulation in your relationship, if you share the same dreams, interests, yearnings, and aspirations, personal encounters can be exciting, intense, and solidifying. However, both of you will really have to exert efforts to draw each other out. It's a mutual undertaking.

Well, most people are very comfortable in expressing themselves through writing than in personal conversation. Maybe because it is sometimes intimidating when you talk with them face to face. In the online conversation, you can not see the facial expression of the person you are talking to. You can not see his actions or anything. You are not bothered of his personal appearance, you are not intimidated that is why you are free to socialize. That's what I thought.

I do have a friend who is exactly the same like your friend. When we are online, she can talk and jokes with me without any problem. But when we meet, usually i am the one who start talking. Only then, she will started to continue to elaborate and talks with me. I think it is normal that people able to talk a lot when they are only facing the box. Because they are able to hide their shyness through that way.

That's the main reason why social networking sites today are so popular, there are a lot of advantages it offer. It becomes very easy to connect to another person, you don't have to travel just to learn other cultures, you don't have to worry about how you look since you can make an ugly person turn into a supermodel look alike or a hunk but aside from all these advantages, the main reason why social networking is such a hit is because it's very easy to pretend to be someone whom you are not. it takes away the burden and fear of being rejected.

You're probably right, technology has made people more self centred, and they are not able to react properly to people in real time, when they meet up. Me, I'm from an older generation, so I find it much easier to interact with people face to face rather than even on the phone, and certainly much easier than on the Internet. It's no fun typing a conversation, when you can chat, see the other person, watch them smile, enjoy things together! That's what living is all about!

I don't think it's because technology is taking over, I think it is just that people feel shielded when they are texting opposed to being in person. I know what you mean, that has happened to me also. It is what it is.

May be your mind thinks that the person is not so attractive and good looking in his/her physical look.. I am not trying to say that you are giving importance to physical looks.. But it also a matters i think coz its a human nature.. While you chat with them, you are just seeing the text & giving replying and you feel more enjoyment which you can't get it when you meet them in person. I spoke with two of my online friends through phone, But its different story and now we are not speaking in phone & also even through online.. We just had a broke up in friendship..

It's really easy to socialize online rather than you do conversation with other people in person.Actually It really do depend on the situation or the individual.If in real life he/she is really an outgoing person,their is no problem to that.We are sometimes used to socialize other in a computer especially when we are just at home and nothing to do and to just communicate our friends online.Sometimes socializing to other people in person is also important so that we don't have hard time in dealing people's attitude and we can learn more on how to deal with different people.

No.Anyway that is not a big issue.But you can find your friends online then you can chat or talk.

There is a gigantic difference between relationships online and offline. Offline we have responsibility and that is the main difference. Offline we have commitments but in the virtual world we dare to say what we want to say and move on if someone does not see eye to eye but in the real world we have to stick to those with whom we have a relationship.

There's seems to be a problem with people. That is imbalance. You need to socialize with people personally and less online. You could always find topics to talk about online but you meet personally, you should always try to find ways to bond. i think the problem is fear. It hinders people to open up to each other.

perfectly true, my friend. My relatives who are on facebook are more active on it and express themselves more decently than in real life. Some do not even bother to look my way in family functions. strange, but true.

i too know lots of persons and including me that can write English plenty of words but when speaking English thru verbal is not my ability.... but speaking of social online but not in person is the same explanation also... that is the power of Intelligence whereas in ways, shy....

I am one of those who are sociable online than in real life but I get to talk the way I do online with my closest friends. I guess it's just easier to be sociable online. You're more free to say what you want to say. However, there are a lot of people who can be both sociable on and offline. It's probably just a matter of personality. :)

I think it's because the people online most likely don't know you in real life. This makes you feel less self conscious about what you say. You feel like you can speak your mind. If someone is mean/rude/annoying then you can just block them or add them to an ignore list. It's must easier to socialize.