Hubby is advised 4 days rest

India
June 16, 2011 9:48am CST
Yesterday he went to his Guru’s ashram, 60 kilometers away by scooter and returned today at 2pm, totally tired, his face looked red. He had severe pain in waist, his left hip is badly damaged due to accident in 1986. My daughter in law called our family doctor, he checked him advised injection of Nurokind Plus, glucose-saline drips and four days total bed rest. He is okay now, nothing to be worried. I always tell him not to take up the strain, he is now old, but at times he doesn’t hear me at all. On asking why he went, he said he had gone to his Guru for helping somebody in some way, didn’t tell me the details, but one thing he has promised, he will not travel by scooter any more in future; I feel relaxed, I love him so much, and he loves me equally, we take care of each other, this is real life. He should not have gone I think. What is your view? Please respond and share your views. Kalyani ‘Namastey’. . God bless you to enjoy a lucky day ahead.
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bhabycatch013
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
hi Ma, I hope Baba is doing fine now I think it is better he will travel comfortably and accompany by someone I still hoping to meet both of you By the way the last time we chatted he said I am his 21st daughter so I am your daughter too...... Say my regards to Baba and tell him he should take care of himself because his 21st daughter wants to meet him . happy mylotting
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bhabycatch013
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
My soulmate can be in India It depends on Baba's prediction More blessings for me and Jaiho so we can visit you there
Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Honey beti, yes you are 21st, that night i was not feeling well, he told me later, i know all of you, Subhee knows many too, you are welcome to our home, we have a very big home, who knows your soulmate might be here in India He is taking a NAP NOW, I WILL CONVEY YOUR REGARDS. Thank you so much for kind words Blessings from Maa. ^Kalyani^
Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
16 Jun 11
My father has always been like that. Suddenly the last year or so he is having to slow down. I do not like him driving, but he does not live near for me to help out a lot, and he would resent not being allowed his freedom. He still will do errands for "old people" at church, but he is eighty years old. He has become diabetic and just had to go on insulin as well.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Thank you so much for sharing this information about your father, God will grant him many more happy years. Namastey. ^Kalyani^
theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Jun 11
Dear Kalyaniji Oh that is so sad to read. I had a talk with Sir a few days back and all was so fine. I has asked him about his plans of visiting Bhubaneswar as he had mentioned and he said it was hot and so would be delayed. I think that his work would have been much important and so he drove the 60Kms. on scooter. As he is better now, please convey my regards to him and also wishes for a speedy recovery. I hope he keeps up to his promise and doesnt traven such long distances on scooter driving or as pillion. Both ways, they are tiring. Regards, theSids.
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theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Jun 11
The heavy rains since rajja have ruined almost all the fun and I believe the wedding too would have suffered due to the rains. I am glad that Sir is taking rest and would be healthy soon and I would get to meet both of you in person when you visit Bhubaneswar. Oh, thanks for the best response for this discusion. Regards, Sids.
Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Dear sids Glad to know you had talked to him, yes we were supposed to go Bhubaneswar to attend wedding ceremony of Prof Jena's granddaughter. When it comes to helping some body, he forgets age. He took food now, resting. Thank you so much for response Namastey. ^Kalyani^
babyEj
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Oh how lovely couples. I just get married and I wish to have a marriage life as lovely if not lovelier than you. It's good to help but e shoul take care of himself so he can still help more people. There are many ways to help someone by not risking himself. Take good care of your husband ma'am.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Just keep loving him, you will be happy couple too.. Thank you so much for sharing your views Namastey. ^Kalyani^
ravisivan
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
16 Jun 11
Kalyani madam ! Yes Professor Sir should not have strained by travelling in scooter that much distance. He can as well call for a call taxi or go by bus. Now that he is undergoing treatment he will know the pain and I am sure he will not attempt to go in scooter again. I suggest you arrange for selling the scooter or give it to some orphanage for lesser cost/free. I wish him speedy recovery. Have a good day.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Hello Raviji He doesnot drive our Maruti these days, goes to market or friends once in evening by scooter alone, so i can't dispose off the scooter. The place where he went has no bus service, the village roads (some portion) is rough, the jerks caused the pain. Thank you so much for sharing your views Namastey. ^Kalyani^
ravisivan
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
17 Jun 11
You are right. You know it better. take care of him. have a good day.
ozarkcat
@ozarkcat (43)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I can completely sympathize - DH is disabled and doesn't seem to "get it" that he can't always be running around helping everybody without having consequences. I regularly have to "reel him him" and have told him that it's my job to keep him from doing too much. I've recently started mentioning that when he does too much in the interest of helping someone else, it puts more on my plate, because of the things he can't do around the house/farm, and because of the extra care he requires, and he already knows that I work too hard keeping things going.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
30 Jun 11
Thanks for the kind words Welcome to mylot and my discussions Happy mylotting, cheers. Kalyani ‘Namastey’. .
mansha
@mansha (6298)
• India
17 Jun 11
Husbands and Husbands, they never listen to sound advice from their wives. My hubby suffers from back injury and despite that he is quick to pick up heavy things. They never feel old I guess. I admire the way you are at ease with using computers, not many Indian women are able to do so especially of your age and mine. We seem so out dated with the times. Convey my best wishes to your better half and hope he gets well soon. He shouldn't stress himself because of summer heat weather itself is troublesome enough.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Thank you so much for the kindwords manshaji He hears me lol, but husbands are husbands i do agree. He will be okey soon, sleeping now Namastey. ^Kalyani^
kalav56
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
17 Jun 11
The moment I started reading the first paragraph Kalyani, MY instinctive reaction was "Now , why did Professor have to take the scooter and travel such a distance? Men would never listen." YOur following words validated my initial thought .We all love our husbands very much and this is wh y we get very scared if they get into an adventurous spirit. ALl men are like that. My father inlaw , at the age of 80 or so used to happily go by scooter; my sisin law used to get really worried.Now eh is 89 and thankfully he does not.We will just pray to GOd and preserve our peace.Nothing can be done.GOD would take care.His Guru's blessings would take care. Do not worry.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
18 Jun 11
Kalaji We wives get worried it is natural, and i have seen him getting worried so much when i have even little fever or headache, i am with him since 1966, i know him very well.. He goes city, to his friends home by scooter , some times i am behind him, he takes me to some temples, while returning we eat some where in a good pure veg food hotel. He is better now, but resting. Thanks for sharing your opinion God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Kalyani ‘Namastey’. .
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rajaiv0810
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Taking a scooter for 60km is quite a long. Too bad he got ill after that. But it is a good thing that he got a very loving and caring wife to take care of him. At least you made him promise that he will never do it again in the future. Oh you and your hubby is such an inspiration to couples. Tell him to get well soon.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
He is feeling better gradually, today he checked his mail too, the medicines have some sedative effect, he sleeps most of the time. Thank you so much for response Namastey. ^Kalyani^
bagumbayan
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
You love your husband so much and you care for him. It is good you are by his side in all his life. Good luck and God Bless to both of you.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
30 Jun 11
He is okey now, but out on some government work, we are constaly in touch lol Thanks for sharing Happy mylotting, cheers. Kalyani ‘Namastey’. .
3SnuggleBunnies
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
17 Jun 11
I'm glad he'll be ok. It sounds like he went for a ride longer than his body could handle. How is he feeling since you posted? My FIL sounds like your hubby despite various injuries and age still wants to do things they shouldn't attempt.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
He rides scooter almost every day, but you are right, he shouldnot have gone there, i agree, right now he is taking a nap after taking food with all of us. Thank you so much for response Namastey. ^Kalyani^
kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
17 Jun 11
I think your husband is selfless, and he has a kind heart. He would rather trying to help out somebody, regardless his health condition. I would say he is a great man, and he should be okay after the rest. You probably nagging him a bit, because you are worrying about it. Everything will be okay again.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
He is certainly helpful and never selfish, sharing of knowledge, helping others is part of his life always. He is taking nap after we all ate. Thank you so much for sharing Namastey. ^Kalyani^
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I am happy to know that professor is doing well now. Well, being old doesn't mean that you have to just sit down always. Maybe professor longs to be mobile always so he does that. I guess because of that, he will now be more careful with his activities.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Hi dear Dina We took food now, he checked his mail too, recovering fast, he is so active always.. Thank you so much for kindwords Namastey. ^Kalyani^
changjiangzhibin89
@changjiangzhibin89 (16787)
• China
17 Jun 11
Your hubby really refuse to give in to old age.60 kilometers away from your home,he made a round trip by scooter the same day,much more his hip had been damaged.Judging by your discussion,no doubt you are an affectionate couple.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Not sameday friend, but the road was rough, it gave the pain to the hip bone that is damaged since long. Thank you so much for response Namastey. ^Kalyani^
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jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Unfortunately we all do things we're not supposed to do! That's how we learn lessons! I bet he never goes on the scooter again for a long trip! He will be fine....but he needs to follow instructions!
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Long trip, certainly 'no' but trip to daily market, friends he will becoz he doesnot drive car any more.. Thank you so much for response jillhill Namastey. ^Kalyani^
daeckardt
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
17 Jun 11
I don't trust scooters or motorcycles. I have only rode one once and I won't ever do it again. If he had hip problems from a previous accident, I don't think he should have been riding for that long anyway. If his face was red, was he riding in the sun without any kind of protection? I'm not sure how old he is, but it sounds like he should be taking it easy in life instead of pushing hard. I know that helping people is important to me also, but if I need to travel somewhere to do it, I would find a way that would be a little less tiring and painful than riding a scooter, especially for that distance. Just out of curiosity, was that the distance each way? How long did it take? And if he was helping the guy, it is possible that he was doing something that would have caused the pain there instead of on the ride.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
He is 65, yes he traveed in sunlight, it was hot, there is no bus service to that plays, village roads are not good for cars even He is better now. Thank you so much for sharing your views Namastey. ^Kalyani^
Rainegurl
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I hope your husband would feel better the soonest. He sounds like someone who has a good heart. Please continue taking good care of him and make sure that he follows doctor's order. Have a nice day!
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Thank you so much Raingurl, he is okey but resting. Namastey. ^Kalyani^
macdingolinger
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
16 Jun 11
It sounds like his mission was honorable. I am sorry he suffered physically, but glad he knows he over did it and can now make any necessary corrections so that he will not suffer this way again! We certainly do live and learn, don't we? It is difficult to slow down as we get older. I am still going just as fast inside...but my outside is getting slower every day!
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Hello mac I love the way you shared your views, 'fast inside', but 'slower inside'; i do agree, he is better now, i served him food just now. Thank you so much for sharing lol Namastey. ^Kalyani^
Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
dear maa, What can say...i feel really really sad about this.. But i am thankful you always there to understand....(^_^) I love you maa...take care of dada always... I wish and pray for his fast recovery Blessings from you and dada (^_^)
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Jai beti He has told me, why he went, what he did, today one of his students will go again to Guruji and convey the message he read in email an hour ago,to get further advise. When it comes to helping some body, he forgets his age and health Don't worry he is okey, resting now after eating, Maa knows every thing, he further said, you must stop negetive thinking. Thank you so much for response, take things easy always Blessings from Maa and Dada. ^Kalyani^
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hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Hi Kalyni2011 I am sorry to hear that the Professor was not feeling well, am glad to hear he is doing better. It would be difficult for anyone to advise he take it easy as he is very active. Though it would be beneficial to his health that he does begin to slow down a bit, it may be a very frightening thought for him. Some people, and I imagine I too someday will be the same, where though my health and or age is defeating me I would not want to slow down. Kalyni, simply explain that he can be active but he has to listen to any ailing and or pain as you all want him around for many, many more years to come. It will not be an easy task as he enjoys being very helpful to many. I do wish him continual strength and that he does begin to realize that slowly down a bit does not make doing nothing, but more of a little less. Please send our regards and that we all wish him well.
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Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Dear gurl, Thank you so much for the kindwords and advise, i will convey your regards and wishes, from next session he is not going to accept any assinments that needed travel, he will guide his PhD scholars only Namastey. ^Kalyani^