can you accept that your daughter/friend is a lesbian?

China
June 16, 2011 2:22pm CST
I'm a girl....and.... lately,something has came across to me.... I met a girl ,who is my posterity at school....and most of the time I got familiar with her on the internet.... later,I found that I had a crush on her.she's cute,smart and tender.I'm kind of afraid at first,cus I've never fell in love with a girl before.I can't imagine how could the love of two girls last long....but this fear stoped when she began dating another girl.... sorry I have no discrimination to the lesbian it's just because I've loved a boy before....and that feeling is also very sweet....I can't tell the difference between them .and I don't know.... I'm not that brave....this fact will drive my parents mad.... and i REALLY don't know what to do.... please give me some advice~~ thank u!!! _
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8 responses
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Lesbians are persons too and they themselves don't want to be one, but they cannot control it anymore. We just have to understand that they too have feelings. In this regard, we should accept them as they are.
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thinkingoutloud
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
19 Jun 11
"...they themselves don't want to be one..."??? How can you say that? You assume that every gay person actually wants to be straight? They are born that way and they are not some kind of alternate species that we have to just "accept".
potrish78
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
I guess, your parent's initial reaction would be like the end of the world for you but eventually they will accept that truth. I have a gay brother who has been manifesting his homosexuality since we were still kids and my dad has been harsh on him ever since I can remember. But after several years, let's say two decades maybe, my dad eventually accepted that. Your parents will love you no matter who or what you are.
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dreamy1
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Yes I can. I have a cousin who is a lesbian and it doesn't matter to me. I don't care who she chooses to love. If I has a daughter that was a lesbian it wouldn't matter to me. They are who they are.
denikurniadi
@denikurniadi (317)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 11
same with me. I don't care if my friends is lesbian. it's his life way that they choose. we are freedom to choOse our love
tonanana
@tonanana (91)
• China
17 Jun 11
thank you guys~you're so sweet....your words can make me strong.... hug~ maybe I need time to ackoneledge this thing rationally.... if someday I can't go on and have no choose but to extinguish the fire of love inside.... hope that she wouldn't get any injury then.... so do my parents. and I'll try my best.
starsailover
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
19 Jun 11
Hi tonanana; I don't know your parents but sure I will accept and respect this. My love to my daughter is beyond everything. I will love her and support her. I will respect her choice simply because she is a part of me and the only thing I'd wish for her is to be happy doing what she want to do with her life. Your parents love you and I hope they accept that this is the way you feel and that there are different ways humans express their love. ALVARO
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for3verfamous
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
16 Jun 11
Why can't the love of 2 girls last long? I live in Canada and the family who adopted my cousins kids are 2 lesbians. They are married and have been together a LONG time. I guess it depends where you live but people are very accepting of gay/lesbian people here.
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alquizar
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
If I had a daughter who become a lesbian I think I can't accept it.I am going to talk to her about it.Maybe she is just confused at that time and need someone to talk to.I will advise her on whatever problems she encountered and what made her confused at that time.I will tell her that my advices with her is for her own good.And I only want to give what's best for her and she would become a better person.
tonanana
@tonanana (91)
• China
16 Sep 11
I think my mom would do the same thing as you would do.... and your responce is so sweet....but.... I promise that I'fell in love with someone not because of the problems but because of the good feelings especially the happiness when I'm with her.... anyway,thank you.... if you can understand this emotion some time....thank you again.
sfleric
@sfleric (83)
• China
17 Jun 11
As long as you feel it, it does not matter what's your parents' thoughts on it. The only thing does matter is that you should be serious on this relationship. Of course, your parents may not accept this kind of thing, but if you show them it's ok to fall in love with another girl and you are so happy about that. I think, they would realize the fact and accept you eventually. So think about it carefully and decide whether you are a lesbian or not!
Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
17 Jun 11
Hi tonanana, In my opinion if i see someone lesbian/gay doesnot matter at all as that is thier life but for sure when it comes to my closest one it matters most.I know most of the people would say everyone has the right to live as their own wish but when they see their own being gay/lesbian they would shatter in inside.I can not imagine my daughter to be a lesbian i won't be able to see it.Neither i have the courage to say that i am a gay if i were.