how do i know that he love me so much??
By melgrace
@melgrace (46)
Philippines
June 16, 2011 8:09pm CST
I have a long distance relationship, i love him so much and he is a first guy that i feel in love. i don't have any boyfriend before and of course this is my first time that i enter for a real relationship. when he come's in my life i feel comfortable w/ him, and when the time he come to visit me and meet me while the day change im getting feel in love with him, we both was happy and everyday has color and full of life, then the time he should back to his place for his work, i got sad, lonely days, always he is in my mind, i cant sleep i am always looking him, and can't eat bec. i miss him so much. he is a very busy person, he has already kids but he was never married. and now we have sometimes only a communication because his reason of his work and his kids. i want to try to ask him how he loves me, bec. after that all i feel he is no time for me. and sometimes when i message to him, he late reply and some is can't reply. and i always first to message him before he message me. then if i have request to him, he say yes but no one i can recieve. i dont know if he forgot or what ever. i dont know if he love me true and how he love me so much??? you think he loves me but he is only a busy?? or what??
10 responses
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
17 Jun 11
I think you love him a lot and that is good but in my opinion that guy does not love you because when someone says that he is busy then the fact is he is either not interested in you or he does not like you because if he would have been loving you then he would always have time for you but this is not the case.
@melgrace (46)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
okay, thanks but what about he reply to my message with care but only for sometimes. so what you think, what feel he have for me?? what about he propose me before he back on his country, and of course he is already my fiance, you think he just only for fun? or what??
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
17 Jun 11
Yes he must have gifted you but that does not mean he likes you because i think if he were interested in you he would definitely call you everyday and will take out time from his busy schedule but in your case he does not even reply to your messages sometimes.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Hello Melgrace. I think your questions are valad ones. I think you should look at this objectively. It's a long distance relationship. He has a life apart from you. He dormant initiate contact with you AND he doesn't respond back to you in a timely manner. Now if someone you are close to told you these things, what would you think? I think you care for him much more than he does you. Lots of relationships, long distance or otherwise, are troublesome because one person cares more or is more serous than the other person does. Sometimes they can work, but there should be balance in every relationship. If a relationship is as unbalanced as yours sounds like, I would have to rethink where I stand in it.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Edit: should read doesn't not dormant. This iPhone sometimes puts wrong words in when I type. Lol
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
To tell you frankly, it's hard to maintain a long distance love affair. In addition, your man has already kids of his own. You also said that he is a busy person.
If a person loves you so much, he would find time to give you a message. He will find a way for you and him to be together someday.
I think, you should assess your situation with him well. You will be in the losing end, if you love a man who is in a far away place.
@melgrace (46)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
so you think guys, he didn't love me?? you think it just only for fun this relationship for him? when he want to chat just only he want? he telling me that he make a visa for me so that i can follow to him and we stay together there. but until now there have no news, what happening a visa, he didn't tell me or reply my question for a travel visa. i am eager to meet him again. but no respond, only his once reply i've been busy..some times i get tired, but my heart is still waiting him.
@simplywilma16 (53)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Hi melgrace!
I can relate to your situation I know how hard it is to be in a place where you start questioning the feeling of your partner towards you It hurts a lot every time you failed to feel the affection or the love that you expect from him but that's the reality that we need to face some guys are really insensitive they don't like to much drama so if I were you I'll limit my self from thinking of him let him think about you give your self a break let your guy be the one to initiate not you because sometimes when you show too much love they abuse it thinking that everything is fine so you must start think yourself first don't worry too much you're still young there are lot of things that you need to focus on like your personal growth.. so be happy enjoy your teenage life because it only comes once in a lifetime. :)
@Jinrai (28)
• Netherlands
17 Jun 11
I always have much respect for people who are able to maintain long-distance relationship.
But it's also the hardest kind of relationship you can have..
I think you need to assess the situation and really ask yourself the question
if all the suffering is worth it in the end.
I really hope you find a solution, and that your situation will improve,
with or without him. Respect yourself above everything else!
Regards,
@pritilixious (7)
• Canada
17 Jun 11
First,dont make him as the center of your life.you know he has a job and kids,so when you started to love him,you've also started to accept his past,and most of all he got a lot of responsibilities and understand the fact that you may not his first priority. But if you feel that he change from being sweet to unthoughtful,it's time to confront him than guessing the status of your relationship.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
i think you should be the one who can feel it. even if you are far from each other, i am sure you would be able to feel the love across. if he has no time, he has not given you the most important thing in the world... then maybe you are right that he is drifting apart. for me, giving me his time is very important.
@youaremylush (479)
• United States
17 Jun 11
You can't help that people get busy with their profession or their children. Sometimes people are really swamped and can't talk. I do know how you feel right now, as I am somewhat in the same situation. I haven't really talked to my guy in a few days because he's been going out. I mean the last time we actually sat down and had a conversation, we ended up fighting the whole time. Which makes me feel like crap because I actually need his conversation (however pathetic that sounds). If he's told you he loves you and he has never done anything to mess with your trust, then you should believe him. I do agree with the person above me who said you needed to get a hobby to keep you busy. I normally play games and Mylot at the same time. It's quite fun really.
I really think you should sit down and make out a list of what you want in a guy. Don't base it off of him either. I did this a few months ago and it's really helped me a lot. You need to figure out what you want in life and where you want to go. Then you can figure out who you can and cannot be happy with.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Girl,that must be so hurtful. I know how it feels like. I've been there too.
Just try talk to him what the problem is and be open to him.Tell him taht you need his affection, his time and effort.
Just be gentle and ask God's guidance. :)
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
22 Jun 11
I've seen this so many times. Just let it go! You say you love him but he is probably seeing someone else sorry to say. Long distance relationships never work out well. Your just hurting yourself by holding on to the relationship. Just let it go and try to move on with your life. He is not your life you can do better.
