Do I know you?
By cmecu6
@cmecu6 (420)
United States
June 17, 2011 12:11am CST
So, a lady wanted to be my friend on FB. Her profile photo does not ring a bell at all, but I added her anyway because her message clearly indicated that she knew who I was. Once I added her, I thumbed through her photos, and there was this one photo of her in her early years. Instantly I recognized this girl, but for the life of me, I can't remember how I knew her other than I know her. Her name by itself means nothing to me.
I figure once I start talking to her, I will get some clues as to how I knew her, but even after several conversations with her, I still have no clue.
Should I tell her I don't remember how we know each other? Do you remember all the the people who were at some point in your life?
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24 responses
@cooldudeboy1 (121)
• India
22 Jun 11
hehe i faced the same situation once, u mite as well ask her who she is and kill the suspense, or if you enjoying it then u can carry on and jog ur mind a little :)
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 11
Hi cmecu6!
You should ask her if you forgot her name and how you met her~ It would be more awkward if you took long time to ask her. This happened few times to me and my friends and because I son't remember them, I accept their request and ask them their names and how we met. Usually they will help me by remind me back who they are~ you could ask her directly that you still can't remember and recognize her or make it a little bit implicit if you don't want to hurt her feelings.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Jun 11
Personally, there is no way a person could ever remember all the people that they have known in their life by name. Even if you did I am sure there are people out there that would be an embarassment now for you. Facebook is a great way to reconnect and get to know others as well. I guess in reality it would depend on if you are interested or not.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
22 Jun 11
I remember alot of them, but i guess i don't know who i have forgotten to know i have forgotten them! LOL
I love facebook for reuniting old friends and keeping intouch with distant family and friends that you dont otherwise see often. I would strait up ask this person how you met? =) Goodluck, i hope you found out who your talking to soon. Maybe a school friend or mutual friend?
Might i add, if you don't know how you know them why are you worried about asking them how they fit into your life? It's not like it will effect you... are you worried of hurting thier feelings or something like that perhaps?
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 11
It is all right to be honest to her.
Although telling the true might hurt her felling, you still have to be honest to her.
No matter how, you should apology for not recalling the past.
You can have two options. Both of you can start all overall again without remembering the past or you can politely request her for describing the past to you.
sometimes, it is good to know about the past too. Then only you will appreciate of this friendship.
@Yogesh2708 (454)
• India
20 Jun 11
Now a days this is happening to me quite often, but after giving little bit strain to brain i remember who is that person.
Don't waste time now, ask her how we had first met each other. Otherwise you would become close friend to her and then it'll be difficult to you to ask her.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Be honest and tell her that you only recognized her through that one picture but tell her a special memory (if you can) that involves it.
I went through this with two people on FB. One woman I remembered from an organization that I was part of for a short time; we had gone back to her place and she taught me how to play a song on her bass. She didn't remember me that well but she added me as a friend because I was honest and told her how much learning that song meant to me (at the time). The other was a friend of a friend...I knew of him in high school but we didn't run in the same crowd. This was back when you could look at people's info on Facebook, so I went through his friends list and saw we had a lot of friends in common. It also turned out that WE had a lot in common, so I begged my friend for an introduction. It took a while--we were cirling around one another, interested, but where I wanted a relationship, he didn't. We're still very good friends today, but not involved romantically.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Be honest and tell her that you only recognized her through that one picture but tell her a special memory (if you can) that involves it.
I went through this with two people on FB. One woman I remembered from an organization that I was part of for a short time; we had gone back to her place and she taught me how to play a song on her bass. She didn't remember me that well but she added me as a friend because I was honest and told her how much learning that song meant to me (at the time). The other was a friend of a friend...I knew of him in high school but we didn't run in the same crowd. This was back when you could look at people's info on Facebook, so I went through his friends list and saw we had a lot of friends in common. It also turned out that WE had a lot in common, so I begged my friend for an introduction. It took a while--we were cirling around one another, interested, but where I wanted a relationship, he didn't. We're still very good friends today, but not involved romantically.
@think_twice (553)
• India
18 Jun 11
yes you can because it's not your fault that you have to remember everyone. It may happen in life that we often hesitate with very trivial things.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
19 Jun 11
I had a girl like that friend me on Facebook. She also friended another classmate of mine who sent me a message asking who she was. I didn't have a clue. I'm still trying to let the memory come back to me. I have had females who either dropped out or went to other school systems who friended me on Classmates.com. I knew them though and was shocked that they remembered me. They were hot in school. The problem is that there are people who liked us for what we were and yet for one reason or another, we never became friends. I knew a classmate in grade school who left for Disneyland and never came back when I was in fifth grade. I can't forget her and still wonder about her.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
It always happen to me...I am very forgetful about people I met and have some talks. A lady whom I have a short talk while waiting for my daughter for her enrollment just added me in the facebook and no matter how hard I think if I really know her I just can't. I politely ask her how we meet and she told me how. I was laughing hard when I got the clue. Oh, these things happen and by being honest and polite, things will be cleared out.
@luxinjun (36)
•
18 Jun 11
i think you might knew her before as you mentioned that you recogniczed her.
she might be your classmate of college,school.... she might be your neighborhood before or a girl who played with you regular or someone else.
and you were so long not meeting each other that you can't remember her.
i think you should tell her that you are so long not meeting that you just cannot recall her name. buttell her do believe you that you recoginized her as the frist time you have saw the picture,tell her do not be angery and you are really kind to be her friend again.
or you can ask her for something that you did together before that will help you recall something or give you some clues to recall her name.
if you want to be with her again or are considering of whether with her again,you should be kind as much as you can. cuz you will or might be facing her after you have do the thing.
but if you don't want to face her again you have many ways to do,like ignoring,overlooking,being a slacker,etc..
as myself i do remember the people who were connecting with me before,like classmate,friends,etc. some now i don't contact but when i meet them i would know that i know her and i can recall who he/she is,like friends playing with before,like classmates,etc.i might don't recall their names but i do who they are.
of course i don't know whether they can recall me or not.so usually when i met them in the street i just check their look to react.like smiling or say hello or chat or might be similiar again just depends on the situations.
but some i won't. like friends of my parents,like people i have chatted for sevels times in internet but never be friends through net or never meet.i can't know i would might smile as we meet or say hello throght net. or chat through to see whether to be friends or not. it also depends on the situations.
i wish you two back to the normal before. i see she is willing to be your friends again. nice to you.
@lukem52 (26)
• Canada
18 Jun 11
You should ask her. Just be like oh btw who are you? or something that sounds nicer. I've had to done that a few times.. sure it's awkward while asking. but afterwards its a lot less awkward you can be like ohh right... or if you dont know her still and dont really care to share everything with that person (thru ur file) anymore then you can block her/delete.
@lala501 (1532)
• United States
17 Jun 11
I think that you should definitly ask her where you know her from.I don't think that she would find anything wrong with that and then once that settled you can talk about all the memories you had with her from where you remember you from, instead of just trying to guess.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jun 11
I would definitely ask her how we knew one another, but I would do so right away before, it gets deeper into discussions and or sharing because then I would then feel like it would be embarrassing to have waited to long.
There is no harm in asking and I would. I have bumped into people outdoors and they come up to me and sort of catch me off guard. Funny that at times they know all about me, my name and I would be like, hmmm and they would gather from my gestures that I had no clue who they were.
Therefore, I was not shy or embarrassed and say I am sorry but I can't remember how we know each other. lol
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
17 Jun 11
It also happened to me a few times to meet some people in the streets who recognized,but I couldn't remember them.It's normal,we communicate with so many people in our lives that it's natural to forget some of them,so I think you should tell her that you don't remember how you knew her,and I guess she won't be upset,and maybe the things she will tell you will bring back memories long forgotten.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
18 Jun 11
Well,i have to say that i have met the same situation as you. But i suggest you to ask her directly.Anyway,you don't have a clue about her but she exactly know you! I feel confused about this,so i once asked she and if i really don't know how i met her,the result is that i usually delete the name..
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
18 Jun 11
Hello cmecu,
You should ask politely to that girl that i have seen you somewhere & it seems i have talked to you before but i not getting it where i saw you & when i talked to you can you please tell if you remember. I think there is no harm in asking it.
This is better way to know her identity to break suspense else you will always think & give stress to your mind.
This happens to me also as it is very difficult to remember identity of all the people you meet but in the same case as you are in i would immediately ask for the introduction to stress my mind further.