Thank You for your kind words of advice regarding not wanting to be pregnant xxx

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I just wanted to thank all of you who took the time to offer me some words of advice on my post regarding not wanting to be pregnant. Whilst I knew ultimately it was my decision I felt in a very dark and lonely place and all your kind words helped me get through that. I did talk to my partner and his reaction surprised me. He told me he didn't love me and want to spend the rest of his life with me so that I could produce babies. He loved me for me and that although he would love me to keep the baby if I chose not to he would not leave and he would support my decision. He said if I had a baby I did not want just so I didn't lose him, I would end up resenting him for that decision later on and then it would be me ending the relationship. And he did't want that. He was honest and said things would be difficult for awhile if I chose abortion as it would take him awhile to get used to the idea. But his love for me was great enough that we would get through it together. Well once he had told me all this, I no longer felt trapped. It was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and at some point during our conversation I stopped viewing the pregnancy as a bunch of cells, and it became our baby. I have no idea what the future holds as I'm only around four weeks by my calculations. So I won't get excited until around twelve weeks and the risk of early miscarraige has gone. I would also like to point out to anyone else reading this that didn't have kind words to say... please think before you make comments about murder and sin on others posts. I'm a big girl and thick skinned, your comments don't bother me. But a young girl who is scared and has no one to turn to could get quite upset by your comments. There is a time and place to air opinions like that, and someone asking for advice or a friendly ear is not the place. Go to a general discusion about the rights and wrongs of abortion, where you are expected to give your view in its entirety. Or tone down your choice of language. Saying abortion is murder is not appropriate or necessasry on a post asking for help. A desperate woman does not need to hear these comments. Ok rant over! xxx